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My Parents Will Nurse My Even It Is Not a Fruit of Marriage Please see how deep is a pair of Chinese parents' love and how regret that we disappoint them: It is at my 27-year-old-girl cousin's wedding. My ma, pa, two grandmas (one 94, one 81), me and my friend Queeny sit together at a tea table in a family temple, waiting for the banquet and traditional ceremony of a Chinese wedding. Queeny's first time to meet my parents. She talks a lot with them, from how they fell in love in secondary school, to how my father went on a free, excited pilgrim trip to see Chairman Mao at Tian'anmen square during Cultural Revolution. Memories and sighs of missing education those days... The topic naturally turns to and their marriage. Mom let out her sighs,"Haii, the other girls at yr age their is over 10 years old; you dont marry, your bro. does not, all of you the same...Everydody does need set up a family." Firecrackers are cracking crispy sound, the bride shows up in her beautiful make-up and dressing, paying a last tribute to her ancestors in her daughership. Queeny comforts, "Dont worry, m much older than Swallow but m still not married." Father adds in, "yeye, take it easy, it should be at their own choices. Yan, count it on yourself we cant interfere with." But I know he says so only to relieve me. Queeny makes eyes,lowering her voice to me,"Hurry up,yield a fruit to yr parents." Lol. I joke with her,"even a fruit w/o marriage?" "I ask yr parents. Can I?" This gal's very naughty. Ok, as you please to. "If Swallow bears a without marrying, will you take care of it?" She really testingly raises this question to my parents, which I think is a challenge & too much to Chinese parents who cherish very traditional value. I am afraid my ma and pa would feel awkward at it and would be at a loss to respond. However, both them burst into a joyful smile, and nod their heads determinatedly, "yes, we will." Queeny gladly complements them for their openness. The two grandmas are listening, maybe not fully understand, but a little. But i know, from my bottom of heart, my parents say yes not because of openness, but because of love, because of no better choice and the loving anxiety of seeing me have my offspring, which they belive it must support me in their absent days. While we see the bride off in bridegroom's hand, in the crowd I hear the bride complaining repeatedly that her parents forget to take photo with her. I try to catch her parents, that is my aunt and uncle, to the new couple. But the humble, wrinkle-beaten parents reject and stay busy with the wedding odds and sods. (To my lovely parents; to my late grandfather who I could not see his last face and who was regretfully left w/o living to the day that I get married; to my grandmothers who are looking forward to witnessing me marry...to all that have sad or happy marriage and those still cherish it; to all the parents) 
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Sounds like you need a big hug little one. These are deep words form one so young. And if these troubles are yours, you will need the love of such parents. Be strong. TG
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3/6/2006 2:37 am |
hehe....it's a good news to you!
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Topgent. It is not trouble but burden of love loaded w/ me and passing on to ceaselessly. I wrote this not out of self-sympathy just to share the heavy love fm our parents. Anyway thks fr reading it. Davin. My parents are still young, hehe...Im very lucky having this Liberty? but they r unlucky to have unfilial daughters, not only one but two. Hoop. Hao. Isn't it? But excellent and harmonious genes not easy to encounter.
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