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He grows up, I grow down - Try despite of failure "We are different, you want an enjoying life, i want challenging, ambitious life." This is what my 24-y-o brother distinguished me fm him just now on QQ (Chinese skype/msn). When he talked w/ me about his new project, and when I poured some water to caution him. The boy that once attached to me on my bicycle back and forth kindergarden, followed me to play pingpong is putting me behind in a thought. Each wave at hehind pushes the front in Yangtzi River. Each generation outdoes the last. Before this dynamic young generation, i feel i am miserably backword in thinking and taking action. If they have any idea, they put into action immediately, without calculation of risks and losses. They are keen on trying different things, welcoming failure while we older guys/gals clicking on calculator & computer. For example, when i was told they would start a website for e-shopping and i was still very suspicious, days later they launched it and got some encouraging yield. Sometimes, the grown-up bro. would give a big laughing icon to the grown-down sis., "you just talk, no action!" Sometimes, he would encourage, "you are not old, you can do whatever you want." I dont know. I have been dragging myself back all the years, because i am a coward old gal lacking of courage to meet change and challenge in excuse of life's complexity. Hey, young or old, do whatever you want, try, despite of failure! And, dont watch me! I always admire those phoenix-like practicers. (Good that China today has such young dynamic, pragmatic people, only afraid that they are more material-driven). pic. Chinese Painting: Zhang Daqian - Plum&Beauty. 
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5/26/2006 6:17 am |
maybe because your mind is so active ( productively), that you need a circle of assocciates that provide reflecting stimuli.. many times if one's enviornment does not being such... one can get into a cycle spin.. and it appears a s many things... but... it's just in want and need of rotational inter-connectivity.. look about at what many of those whom you share time with.. and see what is their spin.. and you may see where you may need to make adjustments.. we are products of our enviornment.. and unless we unbound, our enviornment ... we don't expand in our living. this degree of honesty that you express beneath the words... is a courage that... I shall give acknowledgment.. and hopefully, that can let you see.. that .. someone else see's there is no coward in you... simply an individual that is seeking progressive reflection interactions.
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5/26/2006 6:20 am |
Measure nothing of your self against that of another... and you will see how amazingly progressive your individualism makes you 
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5/26/2006 7:42 am |
It takes just as much courage to be who you are in the face of many changes than to change. However, more importantly, just follow what you think is right, and as touch213 implies it doesn't really matter what others think or say. As an aside, I don't think there is such a thing as failure. A paraphrased quote goes something like," The reason most people are unhappy is that they spend so much time staring at the door of opportunity that closed that they fail to realize the door that just opened."
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5/26/2006 3:41 pm |
Swallow- because i am a coward old gal lacking of courage to meet change and challenge in excuse of life's complexity. WOW! I had to back and reread your profile to make sure I hadn't confused you with someone else....old gal??? say what? you are 33. And you write some of the most interesting stuff and share some of the most profound thoughts. Isn't it awesome the juice - the energy - that you passed on to your younger brother to help him develop into such a confident and interesting man. He must love you for all your support. I think that writing is in your blood. Have you started your own blog somewhere? They area free at blogger. People will flock to read your thoughts and provocative outlook. The next 33 years of your life are going to be wild and exciting and stimulating.
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Curious The next 33 years of your life are going to be wild and exciting and stimulating. Wow. You cheer me up. I feel i am so great and w/b so great a 66-y-o woman. For some seconds. But life is another thing. It ties my free mind up, hence my body. My youth time is running out for meeting changes and challenges. I have some dreams waiting for me in my cabinet for quite some years. As my bro. said, i am more a talker than practicer. That's what shame me. Anyway, if i no need to "plan" for a future, i am quite comfortable w/ the status quo. Sometimes i am happy, some moments i feel distressed, for i know i have much more potential yet to be developed. But i am not ambitious, nor courageous. So...let it go naturally - my excuse. Oh, also a want and need problem.
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Mint I understand your point - to be fully yourself, that's where happiness lies in. But if one has refrain and cant be a full-self, that's the contradiction. Sunshine You're right. Are we fm the same generation outdone by the fast-reacting but more material younger generation? Yes. To have a much yougner bro., friend, teacher is nice. There's no such gap btw us as in the time when i left home to university, he was just a kid. Sometimes i felt he's older and more mature minded than me. Identity converted.
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"Measure nothing of your self against that of another... and you will see how amazingly progressive your individualism makes you." Touch There's a big difference btw easterner and westerner. Westerner recognizes and appreciate individualism. Here, they are against this. The more your individualism stands out, the more rejection you will see. For me, i dont have problem for realizing individualism but i have to receive some strange eyesights on me. My article here is to praise the enterprising spirit as a reflection to my own laziness. Yet as what you all agree, there are many types of persons. I should just live as what i am happy with. GeoThe reason most people are unhappy is that they spend so much time staring at the door of opportunity that closed that they fail to realize the door that just opened." Tks for this quote. Makes some thought. True. How we focus on does make a vast difference. Even looking at the same thing, ppl have different rendition that would affect their thinking and action. Opportunity is everywhere if you dare and able to grasp it. But i must ask, how much ability you have?
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5/27/2006 6:52 am |
Ability is all relative and depends on each person who asks the question, so let me tell you the type of person I am and let you judge for yourself. I am someone who just continues to move on. I don't let things keep me down. I have failed, many times but I learn what I can and just think about how I would go about making things better. Whatever has happened in the past can't be changed and the future hasn't happened, so I focus only on what is now. I do what I can and what I believe is right. I don't wonder or hope for a certain outcome. If one day I find myself serving burgers or CEO of a business I would still move on, one way or another. I give whatever I do my best, and let whatever will be, be. It is the journey, not the end I focus on. In the end, in whatever you do, the only person who you must satisfy is yourself. If you feel that you have not given up on yourself and feel you have not failed yourself then it doesn't matter what others say or do. Fame, fortune, people, friends and even family will all come and go, but the only person you will have to face every day is yourself.
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5/27/2006 12:15 pm |
Swallow - Sometimes i am happy, some moments i feel distressed, for i know i have much more potential yet to be developed. But i am not ambitious, nor courageous. I read your words in your blog, and your other postings to other blogs, and see you as courageous. The writing of thoughts is also taking action. Hmmmmm. I take your words in this posting to mean that you feel stuck. Stuck in the place that you are mentally and emotionally. If that is the case, I wonder if we can help you in any way to help you get unstuck. As I write this I think of my personal coach, Michael Bungay Stanier. He has a wonderful website called getunstuckandgetgoing.com that mirrors his published work titled "Get Unstuck & Get Going ...on the stuff that matters". You might find it interesting.
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Gourmet Your favorite question looks boring to me now that i am far fm expiry  I prefer to skip to read davinci's poem.All of you, Thank you for your thoughts to this temporarily problematic woman. You all spell all possibilities for me.
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GOURMET ... now i share your thought
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