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Love is not a promise "Do you love me? I love you, but I am not in love with you." Is this a contradictious confession? or a very true one? Especially, for long-term relationship. "Will you love me forever? I, I think so..." This answer is a paradox. But a smart one, if he says YES, I WILL LOVE YOU FOREVER. He may be a liar. Love is not a promise. But women seem like to get verbal affirmation, and enjoy lingual love. Nay... Love is an endless mystery, for it has nothing else to explain it. Love's gift cannot be given, it waits to be accepted as Tagore said. pic. classic love kun opera Peony Pavillion 
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Goan, You speak of family love, another angle. But here I'd like to discuss the very narrow love - btw two lovers. "I love you but i am not in love with you." Actually i came across this funny sentence fm a female magazine. There's something fun in it so i immdly started thinking. I understand it for long-term relationship. The two still has love bonding (guess it's more companionship) but passionate love fades out after long time if they fail to create new love atmosphere, both heart & body. To be in love is so fresh, enthusiastic, zestful, full of desire. How to stay all the time in love is really a big question. But how come we dont be contented with the love status which is as calm as a flowing brook? Why look for love as turbulent as a storm? For some, it is an affirmation. For others, it is a reassurance. For some it is to pick up self esteem. For others, they simply have no idea but want to hear it regardless. And it works with men too. You man say it works with men too. Fun. But do you think love promise and speaking of love languages would strenghthen love?
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sayu Here i am talking abt verbal promise. There is another thing to keep the promise. Only if you strive to keep it, then promise is a real promise. Dont you perfer your mate love you by action and by each tiny or big thing he does for you than getting only oral promise? I value more love acts than verbal promise. Man would say, "I mean it when i say it in that moment". And, later? Woman would be more cautious on saying. When you say the words" I love you" to your mate ,it meant you have a responsibility to concern with your mate's happiness in his/her lifetime. Vow! very strong and long term commitment by saying a mere I LOVE YOU. It really contains that heavy lifetime responsibility? That's why i seldom hear it. 
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dvc One can only say, "we will love each other forever", and it may be true if both partners work to maintain and develop love. What's the use, the good, the effectiveness if only one person loves? Anyway, I would not call that "love". In other words, we may say, "Yes, I will love you forever if you love me forever," or "I will love you as long as you love me." One person love does exist and this sort of love would be deeper than two person love. There are many cases that single love without expecting reciprocation yield also fruit in inspiration for arts creation. Many masterpieces of paintings and music were a result of one person love. Is this unconditional love? And, "I love you more than you love me" exists. The love degree may not be equal for two in love. Also, "I will love you even you dont love me ang longer." exists.
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