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Intelligency and Beauty, What You Prefer? This question is more for men. I wonder what would be the majority answer. For women, we are quite clear, a man's intelligency matters much more than his phisical beauty. But for men, if I ask you to choose either, would you be in a dilemma? Last night I happened to watch a TV program. The MC went overseas to visit and interview those Hong Kong retired stars from 1960s, 1970s and 1980s, on a frank and friendly basis. It offers audience a glimpse into these eras and the charistma of the last generation artists. This edition was an interview for a jazz singer. She's still charming in her fifties. She chose to marry a versatile musician at the peak of her career among many capable and wealthy chasers. But still the marriage resulted in divorce. ... When asked her findings abt maintaining successful relationship, she said gently, facing a beautiful Alantic, 'Let the man be number one.', which implies, woman should let herself be behind her man. It struck me and impressed me a lot, when it was muttered fm this wonderful woman after a lifelong practice in her married and single-again love-life. I dont know in western society. In Chinese, there's a negative saying, "Incapacity is a virtue for women." And I look around, most intelligent women are still single and most 'silly' (no bad intention) women are married. For guys, having an intelligent girlfriend/wife, especially one that more intelligent and rich than him, is kind of pressure and low esteem. Is this generally true? If it is true, I should be always pretending to be a silly woman when i meet my favorite guy. By this I still have chance. If I fully display all my potential capacities, I would scare him away. What is your measure for this? p.s. I think I am intelligent at least at one point, that is, not to get married. |
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By the way, in Cantonese (and Mandarin?), if a girl/woman is complimented as 'intelligent', it simply means she has an very average appearance. 'Well, i am not beautiful, but I am intelligent!'
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11/29/2006 3:41 am |
swallowtsui, i aint intelligent, nor am i a beauty goddeness. Still, i couldnt see any men appearing in my life. What's the problem?!
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11/29/2006 3:48 am |
Swallow, I think a really wise person usually don't let others know he is more intelligent. Personally, I think wisdom and beauty are both important to me.  Please don't disturb a chicken before he hatches.
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Ann, If you are perfect, you have both; if you are imperfect, you have either one. Men are like meteors, passing by and gone, only the sun would shine on your life. Your problem? Hoho...maybe you are too intelligent! NNM, Yes, we want to be appreciated as what we truly are. Pretense is not a long term solution. I did have gf who covered up her real personality in order to please their guys. There seems a huge difference btw eastern men and western men, but intrinsically they have the same male mind. Yet aware we are living to please ourselves first, then others. Well, i dont see any jungle out there, though i want some adventure.
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Oasis, Sayhell and BOBO, Oasis, as the only man in this forum, you dared not answer, 'I prefer intelligence!' What does it indicate? Haha...Let me ask again, if you can only choose one, Miss Intelligence and Miss Beauty, who for you? The Creator tries to balance the world and human, some ppl have more intelligence, some more beauty, there's always no perfection as goes the Miss HK slogan 'Co-existence of Intelligence and Beauty.' We can say, an intelligent woman looks beautiful if her true inner beauty charms; can we say a beautiful woman looks intelligent?
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Sayhell and Bobo, How abt 'mellowing ourselves first then go pick lovely bees?', much more self-motivated. 
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11/30/2006 5:11 am |
Since you're not asking me as a woman that leaves me with nothing to do having dutifully wandered into your blog but... comment on your new pic. I almost mistook you for that African American chap who poses (poseurs) with the big motorcycle. They're both stationary.
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11/30/2006 5:13 am |
Swallow, "if you can only choose one, Miss Intelligence and Miss Beauty, who for you?". A girl asked me the similar question years ago. After she had double emphasized that I could only choose one, I answered without hesitation that I preferred beauty. However, some years later, my thought changed after I had met more and more people. Now, I think a beautiful woman will give me a deeper impression than an intelligence woman will at the beginning. However, I probably prefer the intelligence woman after having gotten along with them both for some days. Anyway, I think the most important thing to me is neither intelligence nor beauty of a woman. I dislike those women who are like "wang xi feng" in the novel "dream of the red chamber". Therefore, a person's value of life is the most important thing to me at this moment. By the way, I disagree that "Incapacity is a virtue for women." Please don't disturb a chicken before he hatches.
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11/30/2006 11:28 am |
If it is one or the other, I choose intelligence. Hopefully a sense of humour comes with the intelligence....hehehe
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Chat, Fm your speech, i know you are that kind of 'intelligent woman' man dream for! The ideal woman is: Not too intelligent, not too silly, not too sexy, not too pretty. More is too much, less is too little. How could I learn fm you to be such a wonderful woman, miserably, I am one that exactly 'talk like a foreman and laugh like an old Santa…' Then what do I expect? I expect you to be my tutor DVC, Curious, Such courageous and self-conscious guys like you are extinct nowadays. The big problems men always think they should be smarter than women, that's why they dont all turn gay. Oasis, You are growing as smart as the above two veteran in life/love. But if you dont agree 'Incapacity is a virtue for women', why you dont like wang xi feng? She is very capable, real woman! Are you contradictious? Mold, My honor to have you pretty/smart woman visiting me. To please you, I'd like to put one moving on the motor - but with my handsome driver on my back, i cant show it here. Sorry la..
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12/1/2006 3:27 am |
swallowtsui  im impressed with the motor. I wanted to ride one myself LOL.Btw, if u ask me to choose between intelligence and beauty? I will choose intelligence (Thats if u only have to choose ONE out of these two option). I rather become an ugly woman but still have very clear mind. If GOD doesnt permit me to have love relationship, so be it! I will try my best to serve my family, and country, or build my own world. As for you swallowtsui i aint blind coz i can see you are a wise woman. Be happy with what u have. Oh yes, sometimes we cannot be proud, always be humble.
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12/1/2006 4:49 am |
Swallow, The reason is simple, that wang xi feng's value of life doesn't match my conditions. Please don't disturb a chicken before he hatches.
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Oasis, Lovely answer. You trigger my first laughter of today. 志不同不相為謀, 女友價值觀不同自是陌路. aha!
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Ann, I enjoyed riding motor in nature, not in the blooded cities. In Koh Samui, Thailand, great joy riding there. I could fly in the coconut forest, passing by a variety of sceneries, with my 'lover' whispering in the wind. Actually, i only had incident when i stopped the motor, not on riding. You are an intelligent and sentimental girl with traditional Chinese virturs. Good gal! Be proud of yourself, too humble is not good.
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12/2/2006 12:03 am |
wao.. sounds great! I luv that crowd too. Hey in thailand there has been history and passions for riding motor i heard its fantastic. I havent gone to one yet. Its a huge competition for many decades! Thank you swallowtsui......... Ann
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12/13/2006 2:09 am |
Quote from miss elec: There are lots of women who deliberately behave ditzy and dumb and get what they want for playing that helpless damsel in distress and believe me it works wonders.. 100% true. Only some of the dumb men cant see that. One of my best friend whom i know since school time, has been dating this cute, big eyes, small sized (petite) and acted helpless in the past. He was really shocked when that girl scolded him stupid and dumped him for a much more macho guy. Believe me, when it comes to calculating $, she is at her strongest. Thats what the chinese called, A tiger wearing lamb's skin. My advice for those guys who still stuck in their fantasy. Maybe its the time for you to open your eyes WIDELY. Do u reckon this cute, little damsel can help you when u faced difficulties? She probably be too shocked and ran away when u in trouble.
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Touki, Elec was praising this kind of 'intelligent' women, their little smart tricks on men who are not smart enough to tell. Is it both the man and the woman's fault and flaws? I know, you and me, would never learn how to play it. Aha.
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12/16/2006 5:24 am |
Oh dear....such cynicism.  A quick search of the internet reveals that 'Roppongi girls' are famous for more than just their love of Chanel handbags. 
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12/23/2006 4:20 pm |
One of the things I love about you EG is that you can be so down-to-earth practical and matter-of-fact and usually without a lot of judgement thrown at how people get on with surviving and doing what they need to do. It's quite a rare gift. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you and your family.
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