swallowtsui 51F
1120 posts
4/12/2007 1:51 am

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4/27/2007 8:08 am

临老一刀?


中国人都对手术在身上开一刀有避忌.

现在我(们就面对这一两难之地.

我祖母82岁, 一向身康体健, 忽然间胆有事, 患上了十二指肠ai. 现不能进食, 只吸入些微汤水, 黄瘦而衰弱. 医生建议开刀植入一管子以助消化系统. 但又不表明成功的机率. 他们说若坐视不理, 只有…

老人自己不想开刀, 她的儿女也不愿意, 说年纪大风险高. 但难道白白看着生命一天天地消耗? 我和弟弟要作困难的决定.

如果风烛之年, 要临老一刀, 况且是没把握的, 只是给个机会, 你怎么办? 是做还是白等生命消耗自然而终? 想其中包含每一人不同的生命态度和生活观.

我真的很难设身处地的分析, 只好在悲中抬头抬手问问你们.

但愿柳暗花明, 现在是明媚的春天, 还有无数火热的夏, 恬适的秋和温熙的冬…

(谨给老女麻美好的祝祷, 不要怕…--彩燕

oasispdc
(oasispdc )
46M

4/12/2007 6:48 am

你最好多听几家医院的医生意见和你祖母的意愿还有可以上网去查找相关的资料或与外国医院联系咨询,再综合得出决定。记住,她是你的亲人。我不是专家,无法给任何意见。只能祝你祖母平安,身体早日康复。

Please don't disturb a chicken before he hatches.


swallowtsui 51F
1431 posts
4/12/2007 8:27 pm

Peter,
多谢祝福!

Oasis,
你的建议是对的. 我们应带她多看几家, 综合比较意见. 那个说植管的是广州大医院的教授, 应该再带她到中大肿瘤医院或军方医院再诊. 但我女麻因食嘢少, 要奔波加上每间医院基于潜规则都要重新检验, 不依据外院的检验结果和报告. 做一个磁共震对一个衰弱老人是消耗很大的. 有些不负责任只收钱的嫌疑.

请你读读我同一主题的英文贴子, 我觉得评论者的话有些道理. 其实可能开了手术结果一样, 只徒增痛苦. 这正是我们难以决定之处.

谢谢你的建议.


swallowtsui 51F
1431 posts
4/27/2007 8:08 am

virgo,

Guess that's what she's thinking abt.

We dont want to tell her the truth as cancer to a 80 sth old illiterate is too much. And maybe the inspection report is a joking mistake. Grandma still can eat mostly liquid food like oak milk, congee, soup w/ bit rice. She has no pain, talks, walks,washes her own clothes,care of herself like normal, at home and in very nearby neighbourhood. Just cant enjoy her food as usual and go to park sharing a day w/ other elders. Weaker...

I doubt the doctors' judgement. Sure, everyone want come naturally and go in nature's hand. Surgery is extra staff to body.

Thank you.