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differences...in man and woman... sometimes women may have the option ( I do say sometimes).. to live, carefree, and spur of the moment choices and expenditures.... and make quick change about many things.. but in some case it's possible because a woman has the standard option, that society has and underlying expectation.. that a man is the "provider"... so she can find such... after the carefree living expeditions.. On the other hand, men ( sometimes) has to build a stable means of support, and the stable ability to provide, and does not (sometimes ) have the luxury, to be carefree, spur of the moement choices and expenditures.... for is he does... he will sometimes result to have nothing, and thus... not be of eldigibility to the discriminating and expectating taste of some women.. so the delima is... of what does a man want, and what does a woman want... and how willing are they to actually understand these difference, and devise a workable plan that both contribute into making it possible for the spontaneity that women so love, to be and affordability in the relationship for both. maybe some see it in other prespectives.. but I would say... in the over-all.. of life.. for the men and for the women...in honest of yourself.. who do you feel is the principal provider.. and that should make some of the many qyuestions of .. who's going to do the country jumping moves.. when love is contemplated.. will the women support the man, until he is able to find gainful employment if he moves to your country... if you move to his country is he willing to support you until you get gainful employment.. I don't seem to see this question being discussed.. when some complain or inquire about .. one mate moving to the location of the other.. It's for certain .. not everyone on these sites are independently wealthy.. 
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No, nowadays, women live on themselves. In some cases, they take more responsibility than men. Men is declining, though we dont want to see this. We women count on ourselves.
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4/14/2006 6:16 am |
It's great .. that women count on themselves... but what I'm inquiring about.. is.. when people talk about moving.. from one country to another.. to be with someone.. then who's going to support whom.. until they can find work.. are the women willing to support the man if he's the one moving, many sitaution the men support the women when she moves, and many women expect the man to have means to support and provide for her.. is she willing to assume the same expectation upon herself... if he move's to her country to be with her..?
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this is a very nice question, dude.. and i find it so difficult to answer ur query.. but im just speaking my side here.. its so hard to live in this world if you are not capable to handle everything in control.. both should be financially stable before moving out of his/her point of origin especially the men whos automatically has the obligation to stand as the head of the family. but if im blessed with high paying job, why not take the risk for i know that my man will goin to stay with me thru thick and thin too.. this is only my point of view.. 
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4/14/2006 10:37 am |
Poison464, very good prespective response, and it's much appreciated.. if I might say... it's surely a question of much depth.. from reading some of the commentary within the site's of the women who ask some men for money, and then to marry them, that may imply they are not financially able to make the move, in many respecdt, from buying the ticket, paying for the documents, having means once she arrives for basic neccessities, and so many things.. so the women may well need to consider these factors, before being eager to move,.. because the question should arise in her mind, of will this man respect her and not try and own, dominate, control and feel that she owe's him for eternity.. does he feel like he is resucing her from some destitution?, and much of such questions..that ultimately she should ask herself does she feel she is being bought and paid for, to be used at his whim and want.. she should feel as a fully capable being, in every way before she decides to make such a move, and not get into a situation that , will without a doubt, evolve, to a point that she will want to be her own person... and if she made the choice to be with a dominator, so called "unknowingly", then the relationship is headed downhill from the start.. because her motive will be to get away from him, and his will be to hold her captive emotionally or by intimidation and even by degradation of her esteem to keep her feeling dependent.. and then both of them live in misery.. this may even apply to some men, who move because a woman has wealth, and he goes into it, having no stability in and of self..in a foreign place.. Love should bring wisdom into the individual., and with wisdom, comes much of awareness of how to love, and what there is to give and share in making love continue in it's glory and beauty..
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