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“I Will Call You” I am too sensitive to this sentence after dating a commitment-phobic. To me, this sentence could be interpreted as “you will never hear from me again”. My latest date ‒ Mr. Handsome, I was attracted meeting him the first time. He told me he would call me after our first date. Yes, he called me 9:40am next day. Since then, he always called me after our dates to thank me having a good time before noon time. After our last date, when he kissed me goodbye and said again “I will call you”; I responded “don’t scare me, please”. Although, we talked over this weekend, and still I always have some illusion is that I won’t hear from again. Based on my illusion, and my solution is as follows. If I didn’t get Mr. Handsome’s call for two weeks; and he called me again in a later time, I would tell him ‒ “Mr. Handsome, I decide to practice as a living Nun after you didn’t call me for two weeks. Then, I went to ask my God what I should to do if my desired man called me after a while. My God said ‘Well, if you want to get what you want, you should not see him for three months”. Sorry, Mr. Handsome, I can’t see you for three months”. “’God, if I still can’t get what I want after not seeing him for three month, what should I do’ I asked my God again” “My God told me ‘if you couldn’t get what you want, that means it did belong to you.’” Again, the above conversation is based on my illusion. My thinking is that if the person is mine, he will be mine; if not, who cares that much about his phone calls. In fact, we are just dating; I need to relax my mind to have fun. “Is he good enough for me?” With above thoughts, I carried a big smile on the way home. 
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"if the person is mine, he will be mine; if not, who cares that much about his phone calls." Cara, very smart! You know Sam Hui's song? "命裡有时, 終須有; 命裡無時, 莫強求..." (What抯 predestinated for you, you抣l have it; What抯 not , don抰 force it.) But it does not mean I suggest you give up your initiatives. Just enjoy.
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Too much 'thinking' and not enough 'doing' again. You can push something around your mind forever covering all the possibilities but until you 'do something' you'll just run around in circles. Don't get me wrong, boy have I been doing that lately - but I also know all the time that it will resolve nothing. In fact that may be wrong, maybe it settles your mind into the 'set' of logical answers to the question "why doesn't he/she call" but the 'actual' answer is on the end of the phone/email/SMS/letter etc. Be with your date - laugh with them, talk with them, stare into each others eyes, it's the only way. To much thinking and the world will pass you by. How many loves have been lost by thinking about them too much instead of 'feeling' them? TG
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Dear Caragh: I do think that Mr. Handsome is a very lucky man but stay honest with him and let him know what you are thinking. I agree with you about slowing down the love affair and not moving to rapidly. Let him yearn for his next meeting with you because he will want you even more. Good Luck!
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3/11/2006 3:43 am |
I Will Call You: When I used this sentence, I meant I was thinking if there was any possibility of going any further; and one time I used this sentence as a kind of mild decline. Good luck, Caragh!
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3/11/2006 3:04 pm |
Dear Caragh, So the problem is not from you! He has the problem of understanding women! Good luck! 
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