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Non-Stop Happiness My first date from A.F.F. complained that he was not used to my non-stop happiness with no complaints. Great, that’s why he belongs to the history of my love life. My non-stop happiness is the symptom that I got from 9.11, after I realize how fragile life could be. Since then I mentally programmed my mind to perceive happy events all the time. I came to this country by myself in my early twenties hardly knowing anyone. I went through my schooling, looking for a job, advancing my career, unhappy marriage and divorce, becoming a single working Mom. Nothing is easy for me. If I didn’t have a positive attitude and believe tomorrow will be a better day, I could suicide many times. When I got through those tough life events, I become selectively memorizing things that make me happy. I believe nothing is impossible ‒ every problem has a solution. It takes time, and just be patient. I need to be happy because people who love me dearly want me to be a happy person. A happy person is also what I expect my to be when he grows up. He is a happy now and I hope he can stay the same way. Life is too short to be upset. We all come here for a reason to love, to live well, to enjoy and appreciate whatever we have. People who like to complain or have bad attitudes are not happy about their lives. Try not to involve with those kinds of people. Sorry, I’m a social worker or psychiatrist. I try to stay away negativities. Nobody can bring the happiness to you ‒ happiness is what and how we feel. To feel happy or to feel sad is all from our minds. Once you change your mind-set to be a happy person, you can feel a raining day is not depressing instead of sounds of romantic moments. Nothing lasts forever, even our lives. Stay happy. If I can do it, you can too. 
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3/26/2006 3:44 am |
Nobody can bring the happiness to you ‒ happiness is what and how we feel. To feel happy or to feel sad is all from our minds. Once you change your mind-set to be a happy person, you can feel a raining day is not depressing instead of sounds of romantic moments. Nothing lasts forever, even our lives. Absolutely right! This is Caragh's attitude toward life. People who have formed such kind of positive attitude toward life must have experienced enough unhappiness to amount to such kind of blissful state. 
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3/26/2006 8:45 am |
Yes, life is short. Better to hv +ve memory bank rather than -ve one.
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Glad to hear that everything seems all right with you...Stay fit all the time for there's your child depending on you... Don't you think its about time you bring him a new Daddy!{joke}  hahaha!Have a great a day!
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Yes, happiness is feelings, of eyes, of minds. You cant catch it by hands; hands would scare it away. Caragh, thank you for enhancing my knowing - we are our own masters of happiness.
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4/8/2006 12:06 pm |
Yes, you look at life with an openess that embraces life, allows love to become loving and trials to become challenges to find there are ways to make happiness out of what life presents. You don't put much emphasis on the material world and thus you are able to maintain a good balance in self as it's not measured by such external things,.. that does not mean you don't like or appreciate nice things, but they are not your ruler.. I gather tha you have a very opene mind to life and the things within living, and look for ways to find the better of a moment, and carry forth memorie's that you can smile even when in the silence of being alone.. You have much to bring an share in a relationship, and not filled with bringing a baskets of needs, but a basket of much to share..and you need seems simple that another just bring the willingness to be appreciative , enjoyable and positive in outlook, and if they care to bring a basket, that it's of positive things to share.. I'm very open minded as you may have gathered from my countless blogs I've had various inter-racial relationship.. and In each.. I only see my mate as a woman, and the eye to eye reality of feelings has so little if any to do with the ethnicity, beyond the prettiness I see of her charestics..as an individual. Life is a blessing, and each day is a gift to enjoy the blessing.. and challenges just bring us to opportunities wto reach within ourselves and find what supports the deeper meaning in our being..and bring that forth .. even as we reveal unto ourselfs something of positive growth. I'm not afraid to think and ponder any subject matter, nor am I driven by an ego quest to be anything other than a man I can respect and appreciate as myself..
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