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Men-Haters I have a very close girl-friend for over a decade. She is much older than me, very attractive, divorced many years ago. We hardly talked about men before my search for Caragh’s man. I only knew she had few unsuccessful dating experiences during the time length of our friendship. When I started my dating, I called her and tried to share my stories about men. From her, all I got was negative responses about men. I was so surprised to hear her interpretation about my stories. I called another close girl friend, who is the same age as mine, and explained my dating situation. The late one obviously gave me more positive suggestions and opinions about dating. Was the older friend wiser and more experienced with men? No, I eventually understand her negativities about men because she is a man-hater. Why should I seek advice from someone who hates men? She was deeply hurt by her ex-husband and other men; and she has nothing good to say about “Martians”. Although we are still good friends, I don’t ever mention any dating story to her. Why should I? I already know all her answers, which none of them will help me improve my relationship with any men. She has been and will be single for her life. My purpose of my last two blogs is to be open and honest and share stories about online dating. I don’t desperately need a man in my life, but I don’t want to be single either. Each of my days is fully scheduled, and I do enjoy whatever I have. I have my long-term goals consisted with short-terms one, I can visualize what kind of person I would be in five years, can you? Sharing my stories with you doesn’t mean I lost myself in searching for “loveones”. I clearly know what I am doing. Each individual is different not only between two different genders but also among the same gender group. As usual, your points of views and comments are greatly appreciated. Back to the problem-free Caragh as you’ve known before, I’d like to share with you the motto I printed and hanged in my office today: “Everyday is a gift, and today is always better than yesterday” 
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4/27/2006 8:54 pm |
you are always holding to something wonderful... may that spirt be always a part of you... and your motto... is truly a positive statement... wonderful woman..... big smile for you... wishing you of the best and surely the better of the best.. 
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4/28/2006 12:26 am |
I've been the focus of ill-will in my own experience. One evening, a group of women came over prior to leaving for another woman's birthday celebration. Typical Mikey, being the quiet fly on the wall got "swatted"...not once, but twice by two of the women. Just for being who I am. One made a comment about a magazine. Seems she didn't agree with the cover or contents of my magazine (a firearms magazine) & made the mistake of telling me so. How very ironic. She was a military officer, and a guest in my house...she even took the liberty of sitting next to me the whole time. This woman's friend, the Birthday Girl, proceeded to put her "foot in her mouth" by making the comment "...guys suck..." with a reference to her lousy relationship experiences. Great move on her part...it was funny for a moment until the more sensible women realized a man was sharing their space, and then their visible discomfort set in. I said nothing. One woman even attempted to apologize to me on her way out the door....wondering if I was going with them...(appreciated, but futile). Believe me, I was glad they hadn't bothered to invite me beforehand. 
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“Everyday is a gift, and today is always better than yesterday” Caragh, eveyday is a gift, even though today is worse than yesterday, we still have tomorrow.
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With your broad knowledge and experience before , there's no way for you to stumble when we talk about love and how it affects us all... I notice that you're so inspired in writing your blog for the last couple of post... You have shared with us point of views and with it renewed some of us to be hopeful inspite of the conflicting factors present... About the man-hater friend of yours, better if she ain't closing her options for the coming admirers. If she's to pre-occupied and had no time for love at all, she still have the chance to be inspired once more and leave her past behind... And lastly for you "Win them all and select the finest among them". Say my Hi! to your kid! Your guide to your future...
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4/28/2006 9:03 pm |
Do not rush. Take your time slowly to understand yourself and the people around you.
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5/2/2006 3:59 am |
I appreciate you standing in strength, to know the difference in what is a man hater, and moving on to someone who can share positive things with you in regards to men... I say I am proud of you, it may not mean much, but it is truly something that I admire of your stand... to move away from the hater of men.... and on to someone who can share the sentiments of your heart.. which keeps things positive in your life... "you are most certainly in someone's dreamn, and hopefully, he steps from the dream and into your reality"..
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5/13/2006 5:31 am |
"compliment" if I thought it probably, that I could invade your dreams and, be the face that you see, I'd most certainly step in with an assurance in my smile, a word of grace in my speaking, and, a touch of gentless that would hope to softly stroke the heart of you, and feel the vibrations of it's rhythm... and simply... say... Hi" and seek to engage your heart in the nature of it's grace and beauty filled essence ... in expression that share the very soul of all things beauty seen by the eyes, and followed by the spirit... what an endless conversational communication it would become.. ( hope you are not of any offence by the compliment. )
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