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5/7/2006 1:27 pm |
I could live with and or apart from a mate... but if it's my choice of mate ... i'd probably choose to live with them.. I have men friends, who have mates whom live apart from them, they have bought for them homes, and care for many of their needs, and when I vist my male friends, who are very busy men, and notice these women do not even come and help them clean their kitchen, and rarely if ever come and cook a dinner for him... it makes me know... that I could never be with a woman who did not give and share and care for me as I do for her, and be there to help with the things that she may not be able to do or have time to do... each of these men have beautifully furnished their homes and the homes of the women they consider that are unto them mates... but recently one friend who has gone thru chemo for prostrate reason, the women did not come and see if he needed to eat , nor anything, it was his friends (other men) from his auto club, that came and looked after his needs, when his treatments had him too weak to do for himself.. but I cannot say to him that he should re-consider this women... because that is his choice of woman... so the living apart things. in my eyes has many more factors, that the distance and sseperate places they slepp and spend their time.. it for me would have to be a heart that knew my heart and cared in balance of care for what my is for hers.... otherwise... she could be no more than a friend... hope it does not sound mean nor cruel... but that's my thoughts on such.
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5/7/2006 1:38 pm |
I would like to add... "I am alll for living together before marriage"... not for any sake of convience of sexual trips... but to see the Idiosyncrasies of each other in real time living.. and come to know each other thru at least a few changes of seasons. I think people need to know each other in how they think feel and consider money, I think people need to know each other in how they think feel and consider sex, I think people need to know each other in how they think feel and consider household maintenance and care, I think people need to know each other in how they think feel and consider and mange their moods and dispositions and their challenges in basic life. many of these things are not know by people who do not live together.. and they marry and find too much they can't stand about each other, and many variables of differences.. living together to me has nothing to do with either my virtousity nor in my view what I think of hers.. to me that would be the same as expecting to be and meet a virgin...and that is something I'm of no interest in seeking..
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I support this style of LAP. An issue of SPACE for continuous inspiration and creation. Distance may be a matter, may not be a matter. I thought to write a post to discuss Brokeback Mountain's Fishing Conception: go fishing once in a year w/ your lover, bearable or unbearable?
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5/8/2006 4:04 am |
As long as children are not involve, i dont see why living apart is a burden. Everyone need a bit of their private life. I dont think u have to be 24/7 365 days attached glued to your partner.
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5/8/2006 4:23 pm |
I voted 'Like to try and see how it works'. I think it could work if the partners lived close to each other so going between homes is easy.
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5/11/2006 7:48 am |
If i had children,then (N as it wont be right for children to grow up not see both parant.But if partners on there own then,supose its ok and might work.For me i rather have partner with me and not apart.
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5/11/2006 4:36 pm |
Yes you have good point and also right,but also some and many get on together and not fight,all my friends and families they all get on and not fight,so why should it not work both at home not apart?Partners are supose to talk to each other and sort things out,dont need to have a good relationship. But its different if one partner has to work away then thats life isnt it. 
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5/11/2006 4:40 pm |
didnt mean ..dont need to have good relationship.ment,you dont need to be apart to have a good relationship.
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5/13/2006 12:44 pm |
Think i understand now,thank you.
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