Breakups # Breakdown
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Posted:Nov 13, 2007 9:04 pm
Last Updated:Dec 9, 2007 6:54 am 19177 Views
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I’ve had three breakups this year.
My first breakup was I resigned my corporate management job. The job became too stressful and I had less time to spend with my . I often felt guilt that I started to be moody and temperament. I knew it was time to leave the job.
One week after leaving the old job, I find a new position that allows me to have more time with my . Today, I’m glad that I made the decision to quit a job that didn’t bring me any self-satisfactions.
After finished my last day of my previous job, I went to see Mr. C, with whom I had been seeing for about year and half. I knew well that would be our last time seeing each other. He has moved his business to Asia, where he is now. We never nurtured a romantic, emotional and spiritual relationship. Breaking up with Mr. C was for good, though I still felt sad for ending the year long relationship.
No long after breaking up with Mr. C, I met Mr. D in my neighborhood.
Mr. D is gorgeous, athletic, tall, few years younger than me with light blue eyes. We strongly felt the chemical attraction at first sight. At beginning of our dating, we went to movies, Broadway shows; he called me on rainy days for taking me home, treated me like a queen. I was so impressed and counted how many dates that we could be physical and tried keeping myself from falling in love so fast. It didn’t pass a month that we were physically involved.
All of sudden, on our recent date night, Mr. D told me that he couldn’t make the commitment to a monogamous relationship instead of “friends with mutual benefits”. When he delivered his thoughts to me, I was so shocked and became angry at him.
When days passed, I realized I did have great time with Mr. D ‒ he entertained me; cooked for me. We didn’t built strong emotional and mental connection, just let him go. I won’t see him again. Breaking up with Mr. D was very difficult to me, but it didn’t break me down.
I believe I will find the right person who would appreciate me spiritually, mentally, emotionally and physically. This time I will be on a very slow pace to know a person well before any physical involvement ‒ from lessons I’ve learned.
After all the breakups, I am getting closer to Mr. Right - I have the faith!
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My Whereabouts
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Posted:Aug 6, 2007 8:01 am
Last Updated:Nov 13, 2007 5:04 pm 16931 Views
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Please pardon my no-warning disappearance!
I was quite busy dealing with the job that demanded too much of my energy without positive reinforcement. Finally, I resigned and prepared for my departure from the position. A week after my resignation, a new opportunity came along.
Still, I managed few summer weeks off to spend time with my . Deeply in my heart, I wish I could spend more time with my before his growing up. We did his first Baseball camp, some relaxation at Beach, Water Park. My ’s laughter is the best medicine to cure my tiredness.
I also watched and enjoyed all the seasons of “Sex and the City”.
I am rejuvenated and ready for new adventures.
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My ’s Christmas Gift
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Posted:Jan 3, 2007 8:56 pm
Last Updated:Jan 11, 2007 6:54 pm 19105 Views
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“Lego Land” in San Diego California has been my ’s dream land for a quite while.
Last November, I finally got a chance to plan for the trip to “Lego Land” as my ’s Christmas Gift. My was excited about my plan; however, I sensed he felt too easy to realize one of his dreams, so I canceled this trip plan because I didn’t want him to feel it was so easy to reach his dream land.
Trip to “Lego Land” is still open to my six-year-old , but he has to earn it with 200 stars ‒ giving a star is to praise his good behavior, taking away star is a punishment ‒ he is working hard for earning and keep his 200 stars for his dream trip, although he could get a toy for 20 stars. He not only practice his math but also save for a long-term spending goal 
Won’t he feel more valuable for this coming trip to “Lego Land” with his hard work on 200 stars? To a little , he will feel more rewarded after he earns; how about us in the dating game? Won’t your date or partner feel more rewarded after he/she works hard to draw your attention and win your love? “Easy come, Easy go”, don’t give out yourself to soon, take time to know your candidate. Relax, don’t try to define or overly analysis the “relationship” as long as you both can enjoy it!
Without the trip to “Lego Land”, my and I still happily spent the Christmas together ‒ I used five days fully devoting myself to entertain him with some short trips touring him around New York City, including ice-skating at Bryant Park, touring my office building, watching the movie “Night of the Museum”, and flying his “airplane” in a Park.
It doesn’t matter what you do, it does matter how you feel in your heart ‒ when you turn on your “enjoy” mood, and everything would shine around ‒ try it!
Have a Happy and Health New Year!
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Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!
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Posted:Dec 16, 2006 3:55 pm
Last Updated:Dec 23, 2006 7:41 am 19215 Views
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How do you spend your spare time?
Recently, a survey shows that an average American spend almost 5 months of his or her time on watching TV, surfing online, listening to radio, or reading books. Five months out of a year! Americans spend a lot of time for self-entertaining.
My cumulative time for watching TV might be two hours a year. Basically, I don’t watch TV but I watch some programs from my ’s school ‒ I turned off TV cable subscription because of fearing my spending too much time on TV. I like to have more interactions with my and people rather than being locked in front of the black box. No TV for me, please!
I read news online, buy books online, use online banking, and use online dating services as the one you’ve known. I don’t like online shopping except for books and guys (Do I imply that a book = a guy? Go figure). Shopping in the malls or on the streets is more fun to me. First, I consider walking is part of my daily exercises. I like people-watching or watching me, people! I like the smell of roast nuts, like drinking cup of coffee with Tiramisu for resting. I like to try on different clothes - you have no such privilege online.
I download news from CNN and NPR to my iPod that I can listen on my way to work; I listen to radio when I’m doing my housekeeping.
Well, how do I spend my spare time without watching TV, surfing online or listening to radios? I don’t have much spare time after counting in my 10 hours a day contributed to my job; and half week of my spare time is giving to my ‒ I have enjoyed the time watching him growing up
Besides my spare time spending with my , reading is my favorite ‒ I like to spend sometime in Barnes & Noble if I have nothing scheduled on weekends.
Exercising is listed on the top of my to-dos. I joined a Yoga club recently. I like to have more flexibility not only in my mind but also in my body. I highly recommend Yoga classes for mentally stressed people. Of course, self-caring activities also take away much of my time: SPA, facials, hair salons, which have been part of my self-relaxation and rejuvenating moments.
How about dating? Of course, I have relations but not relationships. Is that Metro-sexuality?  LOL. After the almost one and half year on A.F.F., I’ve learned and totally agree dating is for having fun time together and for knowing someone well instead of rushing to a committed relationship ‒ why should we be in rush? Dating is also part of building a relationship ‒ like drink a class of wine, Whisky or Apple Martini ‒ The longer you drink the most taste you might have ‒ Life is a period of enjoyment, so does dating or any relationship.
Turn off TV, log off online, you may find some more meaningful things to do! Have you send out greeting cards to your love ones yet? Or how about share with me how do you spend your spare time?
I thank you for spending time reading my blog, and I hope you have a very Merry Christmas and another wonderful New Year!
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Love and Pretty
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Posted:Nov 23, 2006 5:35 pm
Last Updated:Dec 4, 2006 7:42 pm 19289 Views
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“Mom, Jacobs said his mom is pretty too” my six year old told me one day. Jacobs is one of classmates in his first grade class ‒ “yeah, first grade is really hard” my thinks.
“Did you to tell Jacobs that your mom is pretty?”
“Yep, my mom is really pretty “pretty”; but his mom is not real pretty”
“, when you love someone, the person is pretty to you. Because Jacobs love his mom, his mom is pretty to him just like me to you. I know you love mommy, don’t you, ?” he hugged me and kissed me.
Is this also true for our dating?
Beauty is in the eyes of beholders. Is love first or attractiveness first?
I think this is the problem of online dating or relationships are in the fast forward speed.
My problem is that I like to go out with handsome, fit, smart and attractive men ‒ I always laugh about myself ‒ make joke of it - that’s the reason why I am still on Chinese FriendFinder
Have a Happy Thanksgiving!
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A Beautiful Mistake ‒ Pisa Leaning Tower
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Posted:Nov 18, 2006 4:48 pm
Last Updated:Nov 23, 2006 5:37 pm 19651 Views
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I used about five minutes ran up the Leaning Tower. Other visitors asked me how I could do it ‒ “Run up the stairs of New York City’s subway every day so you can do it” I told them. You know what I mean if you know 53 Lexington Station on E line.
I don’t know whether Pisa Leaning Tower is listed as one of the wonders in the world, but it’s a splendid building rising from the lawns of the “Field of Miracles”. It took about 87 years to build the pure white Carrara Marble architecture by dad and ‒ Nicola and Giovanni Pisano.
Recent engineering interventions have corrected the tilt by 15 inches; although today’s technology could completely correct the tilt, architects and engineers gave up the correction and let the tower stays the same way as a Leaning Tower for past 740 over years.
It was a mistake during the construction of the tower, and today, we all love the mistake, and the beautiful mistake has made the Tower a master piece in the history of architecture.
We have made many mistakes during our journey of life, and just hope all those mistakes could be beautiful mistakes too. Believe or not, we sure can obtain many benefits from the mistakes that we made; at least, we could learn and grow stronger after each mistake.
As I said, although I haven’t meet a man could be my life companion, I’m grateful for all kind of men I met in my past, who had made me the person today.
Hope all your mistakes are beautiful ones too!
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Arthur’s Loose Tooth
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Posted:Nov 12, 2006 1:06 pm
Last Updated:Nov 23, 2006 5:38 pm 19415 Views
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“Arthur’s Loose Tooth” was a book I brought online recently for my six-year old who is growing his permanent teeth.
After receiving the book, I threw away the package material and got ready for my .
“, read the book first, and mommy will read to you later”, my can read ’s books now; I help him with some words he still doesn’t know.
“Mom, this book is not about Arthur’s loose Tooth; the book is about a boy and the smallest cow in the world”. Indeed, the book we brought online has a wrong content.
“Mom, do you have the phone number to call the online store?” my is offering me a solution.
“Sure, I will call later”, but in my mind, I didn’t waste my time on a book that only cost like a Grande Cappuccino from Startbucks. I almost gave up for straightening up this wrong delivery.
Whenever I looked at the book, I felt that I should demonstrate my a right way to solve the problem for a result.
Few days ago, I wrote to the shipper with a scanned copy of the content; and the shipper replied me with issuing a refund.
Sometimes, it’s not about the money, it’s about to handle a thing in a correct way that you believe is right. I’d like my to know not giving up for solving problems.
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Mount titlis and Venice - Euro-Trip Part 3
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Posted:Oct 24, 2006 8:53 pm
Last Updated:Oct 30, 2006 6:07 pm 19368 Views
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Riding the cable car and passing the four seasons was a joyful experience. A little rain polished the view; a light fog gave the impression of the world for fairytales. I enjoyed the smell of the fresh air with Pine Trees's fragrance and the sounds of the bells from cows below us. I thought about Santa Claus ‒ could we find his house for his summer vacation on Mount titlis, Alps?
The cable car took us all the way up to the Glacier Cave. We came from the summer ‒ the bottom of the Mountain, and in about ten minutes we got into winter scenery. It was cold and just snowed. The local tour-guide told us that Glacier was melting; it probably would be disappeared in about 10-20 years. I saw cracks every where, and felt the pain of a beauty disappearing in my eyes ‒ in the eyes of our generation.
Another disappearing beauty is Venice ‒ a marvelous, magnificent, ancient city is slipping to the ocean. The city is unevenly sinking about seven inches to one foot each year. The sidewalk is lower than sea level, and the city is keep adding more concrete alone the bank to prevent flooding. In the residential housing area, most of the first and second floors are empty ‒ in our eyes, one day, Venice may become the second Pompeii.
As a tourist, I enjoyed the beauty of the above two places and also did the damage to those place. Shall we ban tourism in those areas?
How about Al Gore’s favorite topic “Global Warming”? How much the fact of global warming will affect the future life of human beings?
If the Mount and the City are have the limited life span, how about human beings? Although the beginning of human beings on earth is still a mystery, how far is the ending of our kind if we don’t preserve well the nature of our surroundings?
Again, how about our own lives? How do you plan to spend the limited life time?
Life is a such short event!
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Impression of Switzerland ‒ Europe Travel Part II
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Posted:Oct 14, 2006 8:05 am
Last Updated:Oct 30, 2006 6:06 pm 19487 Views
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In general, most Swiss are multilingual. The official languages of Switzerland are French, German, Italian and Latin; and they also have home use dialect which inherited from generation to generations through home education. English is additional one for most Swiss. Dating a Swiss must be the best way to learn a new language.
Swiss Army is the most trusted force in the world. Today, Swiss soldiers are still guarding Vatican for Pop, they can easily indentified by their colorful uniform that was designed by Michelangelo 600 years ago. French gave a sculpture of a “Dying Lion” to Swiss people for praising Swiss soldiers’ loyalty during the French Revolution. The sculpture is placed in Lucerne, where I stayed for two nights.
We stayed in a four-start hotel in the down of Lucerne, which not fancier or nicer than other hotels we had during our trip ‒ French one was the best during my entire trip. "Astoria" is the name of the hotel in downtown Lucerne that I stayed. The hotel is heavily decorated in Thai-Style. Later, I learned the owner of the hotel has fell in love with a woman in Thailand, married her and brought back her to Switzerland. Because the bride missed her home-town food, the owner of the hotel also converted one of his restaurants into the best Thai-Food restaurant in the city, which is called “Thai Garden”.
Is that romantic? When the time, I have lost my faith for true love, stories like “Thai Garden” in Lucerne have always brought me back the hope.
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Impression of London and Paris - Europe Trip Part I
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Posted:Oct 7, 2006 10:17 pm
Last Updated:Oct 25, 2006 9:42 pm 19925 Views
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I made for the trip to Europe as a gift for my dad’s 70’s birthday. During the 12 days, we visited nine cities in four counties I just returned from this trip.
In London, I stayed in a hotel next to William the Conqueror’s palace ‒ the Tower of London, and went to visit it. I saw the beautiful diamonds, crowns collections by the Royal family in the Jewel House. The stunning 536 Karate Diamond is still shinning, but the past owners of the Star of Africa were gone. No matter how rich and powerful those owners were, life to them was still a short event. Hmm .. I had two nights sleeping with this biggest diamond in the world ‒ it was plenty to me.
My favorite city is Paris. I like the Rococo style architectures. We only stayed for two days, and I am sure Paris has much to offer than my rushing through. Louver Museum and Versailles are breath-taking. Sitting on an open air coffee shop on Champs Elysees and watching people passing by was relaxing. Too much beautiful stores, too many world-class brand-name items, you can use up all the money but still can’t have them all, but the sharing the moment with your love-one could be a wonderful life-time memory. The reason I like the city is because I have the similar mentality with most French people ‒ life is short and enjoy it. Like most French women, I couldn’t go out without lipsticks, and like to present myself the best for each of the day to look pretty and feel pretty.
Coffee in Europe is much better than in the USA. In the center of New York City, I haven’t found a cup of coffee is good as coffee served in Autogrills ‒ an economy chain store for food in rest areas by the highway in Italy. Hmm … the coffee in Lafayette Department’s fifth floor coffee shop was so tasty although I ordered the American coffee with rich cream and sugar; the scenery of outside window gave my coffee break an extra rich.
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