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Don't Be A Worry Wart: Worry consumes time but accomplishes little If worry doesn't accomplish anything, how can we stop ourselves from worrying? The first thing we have to do is recognize that we tend to think the worst. Studies indicate that forty percent of our worries are about things that never happen. Another thirty percent of our worries concern things that are in the past and we would be unable to do anything to change them anyway. Twelve percent of our worries are needless concerns about our health, probably due to our overactive -- and pessimistic -- imaginations. Ten percent of our worries are pretty, miscellaneous worries. Only eight percent of our worries are about real, legitimate concerns. So put your problem into perspective. Recognize the fact that some of your fears could be unfounded. Which brings us to the next suggestion -- think positively. Nothing is as negative attitude. Sure, your could be late because of a car accident. But he also could have run out of gas, or stopped for a pizza, or decided to drop in on a friend on the way home. A may not have returned a tele-phone call because he's not interested in doing business with your firm anymore. But he also could have been called out of the office unexpectedly or be tied up in a meeting or have forgotten about the message. Whenever you're confronted with something of concern, immediately think of three or four positive possibilities. You might as well approach life with a positive attitude, since 92 percent of the worries are unnecessary anyway. What if there's nothing positive about the situation? What if it's a definite disaster? In that case, worry is still futile. You must distinguish between what you can and cannot control. If there's something you can do to change the situation or prevent something from happening, do it. Action dissipates worry. Alternatively, worry tends to debilatates us. It inhibits productive activity and drains our resource of energy. So take action immediately. It it's impossible to take action, if it's completely beyond your control, worry is still futile. Take solace in the fact that it's not the end of the world. Deal with today's problems today, but don't make it harder on yourself by taking on tomorrow's problems as well. Whatever you do, don't let worry fester inside you. Talk it out. Discuss it with a close friend or your boss. It's surprising how much lighter a burden becomes when you vocalize it.  |
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9/16/2007 7:38 am |
Are they really worried about you or worried of themselves. Worrywarts are noisy and annoying  Simply J
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Tks for the advice, I'm definitely with on this one, pinky, whats the point in worrying about something?....it doesn't solve the problem. But for most of us "solving a problem" and "worrying" are two of the same and we find them difficult to separate. Maybe it's the way we view a "problem" that is to blame, we see it as an "extra burden" on our already hectic lives. Maybe, it would make our lives much easier and worry free, if we saw "problems" as something we will always have to encounter, no matter what and therefore something we will have to deal with, in order to lead or achieve a happy life.     minnie
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Oh, thanks for the info.
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Are they really worried about you or worried of themselves. Worrywarts are noisy and annoying 
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Tks for the advice, I'm definitely with on this one, pinky, whats the point in worrying about something?....it doesn't solve the problem. But for most of us "solving a problem" and "worrying" are two of the same and we find them difficult to separate. Maybe it's the way we view a "problem" that is to blame, we see it as an "extra burden" on our already hectic lives. Maybe, it would make our lives much easier and worry free, if we saw "problems" as something we will always have to encounter, no matter what and therefore something we will have to deal with, in order to lead or achieve a happy life.
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