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Generation gap Yesterday i had dinner with some of my students, 14 guys from the age of 19-24, women where not allowed at this gentlemen´s dinner. At one point the discussion began about marriage and relation. I remember when i was their age approximate 50% of my friends didn't believed in marriage. (the actual percentage is around 50% who is married today) Yesterday i found out that from the 14 young gentlemen a staggering 13! do not believe in marriage. 1 has a relation and believe in a lifetime commitment. My generation is responsible for the fact that marriage will be outdated somewhere in the near future. We invented or started the LAT relation,internet relation, open relation, no relation. My conclusion is that marriage one day will be old fashioned. |
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many people who marry, claim if they divorce they will not re-marry.. maybe the concept of how marriage functions may change, but I think people will marry, but it may be more regarded under the contractual terms to deal with the legalities of assets, liabilities and possession, and right to make decision for each other in one or the other is incapacitated. But the time where men pay for women via paying the bills and the house and etc, may change dramatically, because women earn money too, and many women earn more money than many men, so that concept is outdated and has been in many industrialized locations. The role play will change in how people relate, and certainly the sexual arrangement will change, from this assumption that men always take the lead in initiating this activity. women will become more responsible be an initiator, because it is only natural that she shows her desire for him, with the equal effort she expects him to show his desire to and for her. This mental tethering may change also, where people have the mental monitoring of each others movement. The theme among young people today, is they talk mutually about stuff, the older generations assumed to be taboo, the young generation make it open subject matter. Look at Chinese History, the Confucianism is what brought the current day concept of family unit to what it is. Prior to, there were all sorts of arrangements in the Continent. If people read the History of Sex, it will show many things, many people today, trip about, but it was part of many cultures centuries ago. There has always been the trip about, sex, be it for procreation or pleasure, and some ancient civilizations long ago, realized that it is both, and some still function as if its a for procreation by the mindset they take about it, yet, the pleasure aspect become their tormenting internal battle points. Until they conscientiously accept that it is as much pleasure as it is procreation. microcosm of ideology, are many based on how many groups approach the subject. Today, more women have indulged in toys and other girls, especially the more they are able to earn and income, the more prone this cycle seems to escalate. But first before much changes, the mental change will need to come to be, where women see men because she wants to be with him, not because of economics, and security, but because of a desire of simple "want", to share with men. This unfortunately has not spread through the full ranks of woman's mental make up as yet. Some young men today, don't feel they need to assume every area of maintenance and upkeep of a woman, just to share with her his life. but you still have regions where men, want to retain the role of being the provider and the sole worker in the family. and do not want their female mates to work. but the economics of the world is making that more obsolete in developed and industrial zones worldwide. We as people may have lost much in understanding the kinetic nature of male and female, it is a vital aspect to the social and mental well being of the individual human beings, and more relative to gender than we acknowledge, there is kinetic vibrancy that transpires between male and female, that is a life giving force, which we may try by every means to ignore, and the more out of tune we become with the innate self, the more we loose tune with what that value point is of the male and female kinetic vibrancy relations is. Nothing can replace it. because it is a natural part of what is the role in humanity and the homo-sapient constructed composition. Multiple wives is as much a standard realism, not only by the centuries of its existence, but by the laws of nature, in that nature produces more females than males as a natural law in reproductive variances. the more society moves from ignorance of competitive dominance and vanity, the less conflict women have in being in multiple wive relationships. Example of this is evident in what some of the Mormon women said, tjhey said not only do they have close female friends, they assist each other, they don't feel threat nor competition among each other, they share raising kids, which gives each of them more time to do and pursue the things they want as well, as they know they have a male mate to relate with when they want to. There is another natural phenomenon, which is, when there are multiple women in a situation of living arrangement, their monthly cycles, alter, to stagger, where they are not all ovulating at the same time. there bodies adjust in relation to the most senior females cycles. this is kinetics of nature again at work. Females have a natural proclivity to gather and gravitate to want, close female companionship, in ways that different from her want to be with a male, they want the male, but they equally so want and in some ways need close female friendships relationship, that function almost in a sisterly demeanor. many men who have life long affairs with multiple women, are in such because the women already know about each other, and there are women who seek out married men, because she wants a man, but she also wants time in ways that are different from the standard format of a wife role as it exist today. but again, as the Mormon women said, they like being one of many wives, because they are not strapped with the daily cooking, the daily house chores and the mental obligation of daily playing the role of the care taker of the man.. they each share it with less demand on their time, in a multiple wife situations. they don't have to worry that the man is going to leave them for another woman, because they already know the other women he is with, and he does not have to hide it, nor lie about it, nor does each woman, have to think the other is undermining her to try and take him away. There are other things, they don't have to get lost in the vanity game of fashion and such things to stay competitive, because they share a situations where understanding is more important than being competitive. Everyone works their task to contribute to the family unity and support and upkeep, so it is not dependent only on the income of the man, and in many cases it has little to do with dependency on the income of the man, but the shared income of the family as a whole. I like the reality and the fact of it, it is far better than this single wife situations, which becomes constraining in many ways to both the man and the woman, and is rife with jealousy, possessiveness, and a host of other things, that make stresses in their lives in a variety of ways. In a multiple wife situation, they have enough collective support to be able to work out problems by talking to each other and one unto the other, to get a more cared for - responsiveness in rebuttal exchanges among them.
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you stated: "My conclusion is that marriage one day will be old fashioned" Dave, What are the details that support your conclusion ???
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