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Tantra again! Not long ago I followed a tantra-sauna day/stage. The experience was great not only because I met a very interesting lady, but because I realised that I can -and will- incorporate some of those items to my normal fun- and love-making. So I want to share what happened. The venue, in Rotterdam, the second city in Holland, is prepared for yoga and similar kinds of activities, and it has 9 rooms, a vegetarian restaurant, a small sauna, Jacuzzi plus resting place, and a patio. The day started raining and I got a moderate amount of rain on the way from the Rotterdam Central station to the tram and from the latter to the venue. Wet -I had forgotten my umbrella- but with expectations ranging from medium to high after the good references that I had of Maria, the facilitator. As we started the activity on loose, comfortable clothing, we aimed at reaching a state of internal peace through a 10-minute meditation. Then we introduced each other, 6 men, 4 women plus the 2 ladies facilitating the session. Everybody was Dutch but me and I don't speak Dutch - yet I wasn't afraid of missing anything important, I assumed that if I had to know something I would be told in English -as it happened. I seem to have forgotten the first exercise. The second one was the confrontation of personal spaces. I had done this exercise before: it attempts to make explicit for each person the distance that s/he needs from the next person in order to feel comfortable, in an open environment -not in a crowded metro car or similar. The exercise, in pairs, consists on separating from one's partner 3-4 metres and then one of us slowly walks towards him/her partner until s/he ask one to stop. This distance is highly depending on each person's culture and being Spanish my personal space is much shorter than the corresponding to the Dutch. This showed in that my partner coming onto me had to stop by herself before I had the chance to ask her to do so. Then we went to the sauna and Jacuzzi, then lunch and a nap for some of us. This was followed by a very enjoyable dance whose details I don't want to unveil now, it was biodanza-like dancing. Then the climax of the session arrived. In the centre of the room some flowers were surrounded by two kinds of chocolates, peeled and sliced mango -very tasty, as I was going to enjoy later-, some essential oils, lit candles and unlit flavoured candles, books, some feathers, some silk scarf, make-up brushes and sound devices such as small bells. The exercise was in pairs but two pairs did it together. First one and then the other, for half an hour, tried to make his/her partner to feel and enjoy his/her senses by providing highly enjoyable inputs. When receiving we were laying on a mattress, dressed or not at will, and had the eyes covered or closed, the view is the only sense that we were not going to enjoy and this was in order to allow a magnification of the other senses. Thus, we would play with the chocolate around the lips of our partner, playing in and out her lips, letting her smell the chocolate and raising her desire for it, but then taking it away so that her desire made her raise her mouth to try reach it -only when I decided she would have it The mango offered us a similar experience while the feeling of the feather on our skin made her deeply shiver. The scent of the aromas was greatly appreciated and my partner enjoyed also a brief 4-hand massage (for which I grabbed the masseuse of the couple next to us) which she enjoyed very much as she told us later. Candles gave us a feeling of temperature and their scent was nicely overwhelming our nose. Silk cloth caused a nice feeling on our skin in particular when slowly grabbed downwards throughout the whole body. Brushes were used to raise the temperature of the skin of the face. In addition to all those tools I used some of the massage techniques that I learnt in tantra massage including pushing toes with my fingers, massaging the sides and the head, gently blowing onto her skin, and others. Her feedback was? well, she gave me her email address, that should tell that she had really enjoyed  And, yes, I'm looking forward to incorporating all those tools as part of my love making, to make you try and enjoy... would you share your pleasure with me? hahahaha!!!! |
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Thank you Sweetie Probably the most difficult is to incorporate that "slow" approach to our daily living, we are too much on a hurry and "don't have" the time to enjoy the tantra approach. And it probably has to be like that, but then, could we dedicate one day a week or every two weeks to take care of ourselves slowly, to put attention to the details...
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LadyBrigadoon, I'm sorry I didn't see your comment until now  I've actually incorporated some of those tools to my life, yes
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