chatillion 70
3157 posts
7/2/2014 6:31 pm
It's time to end the relationship when she says: You're just like my ex...

I don't claim to be an expert on relationships but a man who gets a comment like that and ignores it is headed for a sad awakening... beware.

Why? She just put you in the same category as the man she cursed for the last 10 years.

If you are living with her... PACK YOUR STUFF. If she's living with you... PACK HER STUFF. Really, your relationship is downhill from here on in. CUT YOUR LOSSES... Get out now.


beyondfantasy3 111
4737 posts
7/3/2014 4:25 am

I think men need to be very careful with his selection of woman. I do see as times change, men are much more aware of the many things, and today men are becoming wise enough to see the things he once did not see in clarity.

I think as times continue to change, the antic's that have been used by women for decades is no longer working and they will work less as time continues.
Men don't have the same general free giving of trust to women that he once gave so readily. Now, women have to 'EARN" that trust, and many women don't like having to get real to earn it.

chatillion 70
1537 posts
7/3/2014 4:45 am

freya616... check your GENDER settings. It says you are a 22 year old Male

woaini1947 59
3973 posts
7/3/2014 9:45 am

You are right. When your partner, rather than discussing a problem with you intelligently, decides the best way to resolve the issue is to insult you by comparing you to her ex, it is time to walk away. Most women will tell you if they have been involved in a bad relationship and they will oftentimes share the intimate details of all the former lover's transgressions. Women will do this to gain sympathy, using the excuse that they cannot respond to you in some fashion because they have been a victim of abuse or mistreatment. Also, it is used as a means of informing you about what traits or habits they find unacceptable. She will paint the last partner in such a bad light that you just know in your heart that she will feel comfortable with you because you are in no way like the last guy. You find yourself involved in an argument with her and all of a sudden she shocks you by stating that you are just like her ex. She is either insulting you to break your morale, or she honestly feels that way. I would respond to her that obviously she is either attracted to men with similar personalities or she has been a problem for each man and both have felt a need to respond in the same manner because the response is probably logical. When Jack Nicholson in the movie "As Good As It Gets" was asked how he was able to write about women so well, his response was, "I think of a man and I take away all reason and accountability". No reasonable person who has the slightest interest in nurturing a relationship with you, would explain to you how miserably the last guy failed them and then accuse you of being just like that person.