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Ladies, here's some advice if you want to attract a man... I read profiles... lots of them I've been doing this for years. My hobby now is looking for scammers, but I can tell you what I think are Do's and Don'ts of getting (good) attention to your profile. 1) Are you from China... over 40 years of age? PLEASE... Don't use a photo of you in a wedding gown. I realize it's important to reflect you want to be married, but a wedding gown is 'over the top' and actually scares men away. "She is running around in a wedding dress looking for a husband" 2) Usually every 10 years or so women pay 'big money' to have a portfolio of professionally shot studio photos. This is nice... but it's not how you look in real life. If you use that as your main photo, it will draw attention for them to look and then quickly turn away at the current photos. Yes, we all age and some age faster than others. Save yourself from disappointment... use current photos. 3) Travel photos of you in the distance of a famous landmark. I'm impressed that you went to France, but I cannot see your face because the camera is focused on the Eiffel Tower and you are lost in the photo! 4) Photos of you and food... Oh GOD !! I don't want to take you to dinner because it's impossible to do better than that fancy restaurant on the waterway with you holding some artistic creation. What goes through a mans head when he sees that photo? a) Does she eat $50 meals on every first date? b) Who was holding the camera... mister wrong? 5) Standard members can only see your first 3 photos. Make it good with some variety. If you are dressed to clean your house, you convey that message. If you are dressed in a graduation (or party) dress that you wear once a year, it's not accurate to what you look like normally. 6) Sexy poses in sexy clothing will (only) attract horny men. Remember that. 7) Tattoos and piercings don't make a relationship. The mother of my won't have 'full size' angel wings on her back !!  ...and don't get caught wearing bedroom slippers in public! . 
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I almost forgot this one... 8 ) Your introduction says you are 45 years old, but your profile age says you are 51. To me, that says you have been here for 6 years and never updated your profile.
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9 ) Don't talk politics or religion in your profile unless you want to corner yourself into a small, small group of guys who would be interested in you.
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10 ) Don't give a list of high expectations. You have been here 5 years and haven't found anyone, maybe it's time to remove your list that keeps a wall around you. Every woman wants a prince. Wealthy, educated, sports minded, nice house, etc. Try taking the wall down... meet a guy first.
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I worked with a guy who was bald and (for many years) wore a hairpiece until it became to expensive to maintain. His profile photo was 10 years old and he lied about his age. On the dating site he used, women would contact him and give out their phone number. He would call a few a week, sometimes more. We shared the same office and often I would listen to him explain to women he looked a little different than the photo! He was a good talker, but rarely got a second date with the women he met. Surprised, he confided with me as to meeting (new) women was easy... my response was his 'false advertising' really worked and after they realized how much a liar he was, it was they literally ran away from the date. One woman came to the office to meet him and turned around, left the building and drove away. Do you think she was annoyed to find someone totally different to his photo?
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11 ) You are not a moviestar so don't wear sunglasses, especially large ones that cover 20% of your face.
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wo... one woman wanted to see my tax return !! I told her I didn't file taxes because I lived under the bridge near downtown and used internet access at Starbucks in the shopping mall.
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I've got another... 12 ) Pets. Especially tiny dogs. Some women coddle their dogs and treat them like children. Guys may go along with this... but they really don't like it. I tried that a long time ago and it (quickly) became a 'deal-breaker' in the relationship. She was kissing her dog after he came in from pooping.
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Agree... interrogation on a first date... or fact finding prior to a first date could be annoying. It's a necessary evil so you don't waste time... 3 or 4 dates just learning that the person isn't who you wan to be with.
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13 ) Rotate your photos. Remember standard members can scan your first 3 photos. If you upload more photos only premium members can see them. You might say... I only want premium members looking at my profile. I'll say... Give them a reason to upgrade and see more about you. I recognize some photos are here a long, long time. Some have a date stamp on them dating back 10 years ago. You don't look like that now.
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14 ) Group photos. If you appear in a photo with other women you MUST be the most attractive woman in the group. If not (and men are dogs) don't surprised if a man contacts you asking if you can give him the information to the attractive woman in the photo. Save yourself from embarrassment and never have some other woman 'up-stage' you.
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