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Watch out for scammers Scammers will 1. Ask you to talk or chat using an outside messaging service or email account 2. Vanish mysteriously from the site, often after being caught and removed 3. Talk about "destiny" or "fate" when meeting you 4. Claim to be recently widowed 5. Ask for your address or contact info under the guise of sending flowers or gifts 6. Make a lot of grammatical and spelling errors 7. Say they live in the U.S. but are currently traveling abroad 8. Always eventually ask you for money You should 1. Block them from contact 2. Report them to Asia Friend Finder. I have received many emails that provided their personal email addresses to chat outside. Please pass me by. I am here to bust the scammers. If your age is NOT in the range I prefer or distance is beyond 65 miles. Please don't waste your effort and my time. I know every trick in the book. I have provided my first name in my profile, but if you didn't see it, then your chance to talk to me is very minimum. Honesty is the best policy. |
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I have had my banker friend for 7 & 1/2 years (since May 2004) and he lives only 20 miles away. I shouldn't look for anyone else but focus on him. Honesty is the best policy.
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Worldly_51 Haha, you are unbiased, aren't you? My parents brought us from TW to Cda when I was almost 15. Attended two of the best universities in the US (both of my daughters went to my alma mater too), had good jobs thru-out my career, have traveled to over 40 countries (46 and counting), and have remained objective on most issues - so that I wouldn't dishonor the good education I had received and the intelligence my parents have given me. I am v proud of my Ch heritage, and feel lucky that living in the west has given me the opportunity to learn about western civilization at first hand. While I am v much westernized in thoughts, feel there are few things in life more beautiful than the Ch language: its calligraphy and literature, esp poetry. Feel sorry for ppl who feel money is the most important thing in life. BTW, I won't choose women (of any creed) who are vain, shallow or arrogant; won't even waste my time w/ them, either. Good luck chasing your American dream! -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Thanks for your response for my blog. However, I am taking a break from dating now and we are certainly NOT good match. Best of luck in your searching. Honesty is the best policy.
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pinkcrystal: Don't worry. You look much younger than your age and have English background, so you will do fine. I thought you were single as NEVER been married and 20+ of age when I received your comments the first time. I'm lucky to know 3 very intelligent guys to email with me almost daily. They give me many good advices when I have encountered some problems financially or emotionally. They are just friends, but NOT romance. I have NEVER seen a movie or go to a trip with that banker because he is always busy, busy, busy. Keep your spirit up. You will NEVER know when you are least expected, the person will show up. 緣份 is a very difficult know when will come. As for me, I won't choose Chinese guys unless they were born or came to USA under age of 5. I don't want to teach or support a Chinese guy about USA system in English, tax, financial, political, culture, and traditional differences in between the two countries. I won't be happy that way, I know for sure. Honesty is the best policy.
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To pinkcrystal: I meant "Travel" NOT "romance. I love to travel. I have been to 10 countries. (I've been to your country in May 2008 for a 8 days/6 nights trip that was 3 months before the Olympics) We only have one life, so use this life to its extent. I have daunted by marriage also. I have many friends but NOT romance. Honesty is the best policy.
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Hello pinkcrystal I'm a classy white male and i like asian women
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To pinkcrystal: My advice is "Don't look backward, look forward". You can't change your past, but your future is under your control. You are a sweet and pretty girl and still young (42 y/o is a good start a new life, I wish I am still 42), so be optimistic and think what you want to do for your future and focus on that goal. My mom just passed away on 9/20/13 and her funeral was 9/27/13. When I sad and down, I plan to go on travel and think what to do for my future. If you NEVER travel to USA, maybe come to this country and look for opportunity in front of you. Do NOT expect a prince will come to rescue you. It is a lot of adjustments in a new country, if you want to live a new life. Just travel to USA and see if you like it. I can see you have English background, so you can do all right. Honesty is the best policy.
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To pinkcrystal: Your English is pretty good, but I can tell you more ..... In USA, we call 白人 Caucasian which including Europeans and Aussie and Russian. 黒人 African American, Don't call them Black or "N" word. It is very sensitive to them. Honesty is the best policy.
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Yes, I am lucky to meet many Caucasian guys. They are MD, PhD, DDS, CEO, JD (attorney), MBA, physicist, engineers, CPA, .... They are all highly educated and intelligent. However, due to many obstacles, and differences, I normally only saw them once. Among them, CEO (I met 4 CE is the best because CEO has the entrepreneurial charisma that fascinate me. I am a California license pharmacist (also licensed in Taiwan), I don't have entrepreneurial insight and I want to learn from them.I agree with you that good guys are very difficult to find. Yes, most of Caucasian guys want their own ethnics because they feel comfortable in same culture and tradition. Most of the time, I got emails or winks from the people I don't like but seldom I found few guys who I really like, but somehow they don't respond. I have to admit that my dating is getting worse than when I was younger in 2004, 2005, 2006, 2007, 2008 and 2009. Since 2010, I almost had no date. I am still see that banker CEO for coffee or lunch sometimes. He is a very busy man, very career-oriented. He doesn't have time for me. He takes care of his business, his daughters, grand-kids, his siblings, ..... first. I am NOT that importance to him. I am just a friend to him who I need his advices. I asked the investment questions, he answered in the emails. Most of time, he is correct. He told me to sell a condo in 2007, I sold that condo for $425,000 that I bought it for $95,000 in 1984. I made very good profits. That CEO advised me again when I asked him in 2011, he told me to buy properties in Las Vegas, Nevada. I did what he said. I bought 5 foreclosure properties in Las Vegas, fixed them and rent them out. This year I sold 2 properties and got profits. He also advise me to buy stock (Las Vegas Sands), I made profits too. This banker lives only 20 miles from me but I seldom to meet him (I am disappointed). I really like him and wrote an email "Unilateral Love" to tell him that I like him very much. His reply was "How about having a lunch this Saturday?" He gave me 3 choices of restaurant and I picked one and met him for lunch for an hour. That was all. Nothing romantic. He knows I like him, but he is more concentrate in his business. If you ask me why I only date Caucasian because I married a Taiwanese dentist who wanted me to marry him in order to get his "Green Card" and US citizenship from me in 1986. He is a very lazy and stingy guy. I divorced him in 2004. It was a sad story. Every girl has dream to marry a good guy and live happily ever after. However, the reality is NOT want you wish for. The 2nd time, it was daunted for many divorced males or females because "community property law" says any property bought during the marriage have to be half and half. The givers are very painful to give away the hard-earned money. One ER MD (NEVER met him) emailed me about his divorce experience. Let me quote his words "Community property law is to punish the hardworking providers and give to the lazy spouse". I am the bread-earner (provider), so it was very painful. In most divorce cases, Men give money to wife, but in my case I am the woman who gives spouse money. Be very careful to choose your husband. Divorce is very painful. I have been very hurt since 2004. . Honesty is the best policy.
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I have NEVER entered any Chat Room because I feel that people is NOT sincere enough to use emails. E-mails have copies (records), but chatting doesn't have a copy (record) of conversation, so I've NEVER gone to chat room. I received some scammer emails on Chinese FriendFinder said they live in Beverly Hills and they are Petroleum & Gas engineers. I know Jewish live in Beverly Hills and they normally are attorneys or MD. Never heard engineers live in Beverly Hills, so I can recognize them as scammers. Jewish has certain jobs they like, either be an attorney (afraid of blood) or MD (not afraid of blood). I met a Jewish podiatrist on Match who lives in Beverly Hills. He is real but he lives in an apartment he rented (not own a house in Beverly Hills). I have dated that podiatrist on and off many years. Finally I can't continue with him because different opinion in real estate investment. He is very generous in eating out at fancy restaurants but NOT invest in real estate properties. I couldn't find any good match on AFF, but I have dated a retired orthodontist since June 2007 and became very good friends. He lives in Oxnard, too far away (90 miles one way). He is too old for me (13 years older) However, he is very smart, graduated from UCSF. I have different political opinions with him but that didn't hurt friendship much. I just tried NOT to discuss politics with him. He is real person. My best friend is a banker CEO/President/Chairman since May of 2006. I like him more than he likes me, but he emails with me almost daily on many topics, Stock market, Real Estate, Politics, Religion, Current Events, ..... except Romance. He lost too much money from his divorce in 1996 and daunted to commit again. He gave many advices from time to time and I followed his advice and make lots of money on Real Estate. He is 7 years older than me. I like him very much and he knows. But he only wants "Friendship". Honesty is the best policy.
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I have received so many emails that they said they are "God-fearing Christians" and look for the same that suggesting Christians are good people. I am an Agnostic, so I won't fall for that "religion". Scammers always said "Age is just a number, Distance is NOT a problem" or "new to this dating site and no time to check messages" or "today is their last day on this dating service"........... On more thing, when I just started on AFF, I received many Chinese guys asking to be friends with them, so that they can learn English or "free trip" to USA to get their "Green Card". Ridiculous. I simply blocked them. "Trust" is a big issue on online dating services. It is difficult to find a "match", now those scammers make the things more difficult. Honesty is the best policy.
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Sometimes I feel so frustrated with this online dating site. They have very similar pattern or formula. They are "God-fear" and looking for the same. It sounds like religious persons are good. No, I am an Agnostic and said it in my profile. They are new to the site and too busy to check message, so wanted to chat outside. How can I trust a person without knowing him to chat outside? One guy emailed me said "this is my cellphone #, text me for dinner". Ha, ridiculous. It is very difficult to find a right person based on age range, distance, education, height, smoke/ drink, religion, political views, .... etc. On the top of those differences, you have to prevent scammers. Scammers NEVER want to meet. Scammers are always "new subscribers". Some asked me "how long have you been online dating?" I said 8 years. That really scared them away. I have seen too many scam tricks. They won't get me. Honesty is the best policy.
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I've dated many "real" guys who told me that they also received many emails from Russia or Kenya with beautiful faces and curvy and sexy figures asking money from men. Scammers have no shame. They tried thousand emails in order to get 1 response, but they keep trying. Recently, I feel that they are improving their techniques. So, be very vigilant. Internet is a very convenient tool for scammers to disguise them. You have to ask questions, read profiles carefully, use your intelligence, instinct and intuition. "Trust" and "love" are almost non-exist on online dating in these days. Honesty is the best policy.
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if people start asking for stuff... cut them off... !!!!! PERIOD...
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You've been missing in action lately... Welcome back 
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[SIZE 5]Please remember: white people in Nigeria or Ghana contacting you on the dating sites or social networks are always 100% scam. No exceptions. There are no white engineers or female models stranded there. It is always scam. Honesty is the best policy.
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It is better to be safe than sorry. They always provide their cellphone # for texting or email to talk outside. They live far, far away or in Beverly Hills. Their jobs are "oil and gas". They always say "I am new to this dating site, I don't have time to be here to check messages". Scammers don't want to meet. They are always "widowed with one child" (for sympathy?). If a person can't tell the differences in "too" and "to", or "there" and "they're". Too many people wrote "life is to short to ..." They say they will travel to Europe and then to Africa, watch out they say they lost credit card and money and need your help by wiring money to Africa for returning to USA. They even use "copy and paste" other photos. I saw General David Petraeus photos on here for 3 short days. The profile said "high school graduate". Honesty is the best policy.
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