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Compose a profile on internet I have been on internet dating sites for 9 and 1/2 years and read many thousands of guy's profiles. The most of words I read are caring, easy going, fun loving, down-to-earth, outgoing, good sense of humor, glass half full, successful, handsome (subjectively? or narcissist?), like to take long walk on the beach or snuggle in front of fireplace,..... some said he puts God in 1st place, his family, in 2nd and then himself (that makes me wonder what I will be? 4th place? or behind his pet?) From the beginning to the end, I didn't hear what is his job, job title, profession, career, .... As far as photos, if they posted less clothes on that will turn me off. I prefer to see guys wear suit or fashionable casual wear. If a profile without a photo, I just skip it to next profile. Some people posted more pet pictures than his photo. I wonder if he knows this profile is about "him" NOT about "his pet"? BTW, many guys like to show-off that they caught big fish, they posted photos with the giant fish they caught which is Okay to me. Online dating profiles are supposed to introduce "you" to the public in order to find your companion, counterpart, confidante, soul mate, friends, or pen-pal,.... from the vast of singles. The competition is very keen. You have to write a profile that can convince people to trust you and respond to you, if he/she shall be interested in you. There are no right or wrong how you write your profile, but I just want to bring up this topic for you to discuss. Honesty is the best policy. |
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This is a public announcement. My name is NOT Eureka. I received many emails addressed me "Hi Eureka". I have provided my name in my profile, but not Eureka. Eureka means "I have found it", "an exclamation of triumph at a discovery". Eureka is NOT my name. I wrote "Eureka" in the beginning of my profile because "You've found me (my profile)". Guys, if you don't know the meaning of Eureka, we are NOT good match. Please pass me to next profile. To woaini1947: Enough already. You don't need to explain any more. Honesty is the best policy.
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I have mentioned many times, I am a very cautious person. I make sure the person(s) I met is a match. I am a pharmacist, my daughter will be a MD, my ex is a dentist, his father was a MD and my mother was a nurse and mid-wife. I surrounded with medical field persons. This is my background. Originally, I intended to write this blog to discuss how to improve profile skills, not fall into bunches of cliches. To my surprise that this blog became a circus of talking about gun, riffle, and weapon. This is NOT my original intention. I am quite disappointed. Women want "protection" and "security". I don't think to know "Job" in profile is wrong. Most of successful men who are proud of their jobs or professions, even they are retired now. I think "Education" is very important and ask the same. That is who I am, I can't change it. I have NEVER harm a person in any way, and I don't want to be harmed (emotional hurt) either. I have many choices and don't want to be intimidated. Most of my dates are from other sites but no blog there, such as Yahoo Personals (closed for good), Match, Our Time,.... etc. That's why I post blogs here, they won't see my blog. I am a straight shooter and said the things from top of my head. I have attracted many intelligent guys and be attracted by them. I keep 3 special friends for many years. Honesty is the best policy.
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At least my profile attracted 68 male friends to meet me in person. They are really who they said they are. They are 67 Caucasians and 1 Chinese from Taiwan with PhD in Chemistry in USA. I am very cautious person. I asked their real names, Google their names before I meet them in a public places. They are 6 MD (3 psychiatrists, 1 internist, 1 pathologist, 1 podiatrist), 7 PhD (Physicist, Chemist, 2 in Education, psychologist, Economist and college professor), 5 CEO, 4 attorneys, 2 CPA, 1 orthodontist, and many MBA and Engineers (aerospace, mechanical, civil, ....), 2 Pilots (commercial airline), 1 general manager of car dealership, 1 magazine editor, .. Among them, CEO's have the most "entrepreneurial charisma" which I am lack of. The minimum education is Bachelor degree and up. I verified their jobs. I am a pharmacist so I know how to go on Board of Medicine to check MD license # and DEA #. They can't lie to me. I am honest and the person who want to meet me has to honest too. So, now you know "Job", "Profession", are very important for me. I can know how to talk with these people based on their jobs. They all own their houses. I own my house too. I realized my age is getting older and dating is more difficult now. But I still have 3 very good friends. We email each other every day, phone calls sometimes, lunch together sometimes. They are very intelligent and financial secured. However, divorce (community property law) has daunted many divorced persons. Yes, profile is very important to attract the right people to you. Honesty is the best policy.
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My job is to cure, heal, get well, or alleviate diseases. This topic is about writing a profile and it turned out people discuss gun, weapon and riffle. This is really disturbed me. Other online dating websites have better candidates. All my better dates are from other sites. Honesty is the best policy.
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Gun or any weapon are intimidate me. I won't go out on a date with who possess a gun or pistol, not mention a riffle. You will never know that someday if he will get mad (insane) with me and use that gun to shoot me. So, both woaini1947 and starbanner are NOT the type of men I will choose. Good luck in your searching. I am NOT the person. Good-bye. Honesty is the best policy.
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Geez!!!!!
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To woaini1947: Ever since I read your response to my blog "Assault Weapons Ban Bill" that you said your ex-girlfriend gave you a "gun" as a "gift", that shut me down completely. I am the one who against violence. A gun has no other purpose rather than "KILL" "take the law in your own hand". Don't tell me gun is for defense, move to a safe place where you can have peace. Today you responded my blog "compose a profile on internet" that even convince me more that we are NOT a good match. Why can't I care about a guy's career? This is dating site, of course, I want a brighter life who won't sponging on me. Divorce is a painful procedure to break-up a family, so I need to be cautious NOT to make same mistake again. Everyone has different standards and criteria. I need to make sure who is the right guy for me. What's wrong to know a guy's job? Do you think I like an unemployed, financial crisis person in my life? Do you think I want a scammer in my life? Of course, NOT. Do you know I have the "Right" to delete your blog on my post? But I won't delete your response because I want everyone to read what you said and what makes me turn-off. Thanks for your provocative argument. Yes, I need to know a guy's job, financial status. That's the way I am. Take it or leave it. I have my disappointment in my past and I swear that won't make same mistake twice. Honesty is the best policy.
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For one particular profile posted more pet pictures than himself is an exception because he is a veterinarian surgeon. Honesty is the best policy.
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Another guy wrote "I put my hair color as salt and pepper, but I bet the salt is beating pepper everyday." That is the humor that I would like to read. Honesty is the best policy.
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One profile wrote "I am looking for a needle in a haystack and someone keep adding more hay in". One guy wrote "You've got Male" in the beginning which is pun to AOL email reminder "You've Got Mail". I felt these two are very good and funny. Both made me laugh when I read them. Honesty is the best policy.
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