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Another TED talk: Be passionate, Be courageous, Be your best Have you watched the TED talk video about the interview of Congresswoman, Gabby Giffords and her Astronaut husband, Mark Kelly? Their romance, love of each other has touched my heart. I am a Democrat, a woman who is pro "Gun Control", "Green environment", "Not religious", ..... wish our world can be a better planet. I came out from a marriage that made me so very disappointed. I sympathized a Taiwanese licensed dentist who couldn't pass his California dentist license exam for six years, who didn't attend any dental school in USA, who didn't have "Green Card" or "U.S. citizenship". I helped him everything I could. I helped him to pass Calif dentist license exam (volunteer to be a dental assistant for license exam). He proposed me (kneed down) so that he could get his "Green card" through marriage, when his checking account only had $34.85. I paid every meal while dating except the first time. I paid for every furniture, every down-payment, mortgage payments, insurance, tax, even utility & phone bills. He didn't buy any baby diaper, clothes, crib, .... He got free house, free meals, free car, free furniture, free "Green card" & U.S. citizenship, free of everything. I established a dental office, paid remodel construction, X-ray, dental chair, ... worked as front desk for that dental office that I paid for 4 & 1/2 years while I was pregnant twice (a & a ). When my was just 3 years old, I've opened my own pharmacy for 5 years, worked for Rite Aid, Kaiser hospital pharmacy, CVS pharmacy full time. He has never attended any U.S. dental school, so he has no confidence. He only takes easy cases. He couldn't make money. I paid for everything and cook, dish wash, vacuum, laundry, take care 2 . I had worked night shift so that I could make more money and pick-up from schools. I only slept 2 - 4 hours in the morning for 10 - 12 hours shift 7 nights on and 7 days off. I have spoiled him. At midnight when everything quiet down, I was thinking "what is he doing in my life?". He used me for house, money, green card, .... He watched TV and said TV is the best and cheapest tool for English, sports, news, entertainment, .... He didn't pay for that TV set, cable or even electricity. Now you know why I hate scammers. I think my ex-husband didn't intend to be a scammer but his laziness, slowpoke made his life so easy. I filed divorce in May 2004. He hired 2 Jewish attorneys and asked me to pay his attorneys' charges, alimony, 50% property market value, ..... You know "Community Property Law" is on his side. My heart is broken. Nobody can help me because "Law is law". I met a Caucasian banker CEO/President/Chairman in June 2006. He is my best friend and I trust him. His advices have benefited me many times. There are no money change hands. However, he doesn't want another marriage because his divorce had daunted him. It has been over 8 years, we have had more than 7 thousand emails, many dates (coffee or lunch).. I admire his entrepreneurial charisma. He is so different from my ex. I talk with him about politics, religion, stock market, real estate, election, current events, but no romance. He likes to travel, listen to music, reading, .... so do I. (He also ski, swim, ... but I don't) One night I wrote an email "Unilateral Love" to express my affection. Next morning, he replied he doesn't want another marriage. He invited me to a fancy restaurant that coming Saturday for lunch an hour. That's all. I wish he can love me more just like Mark Kelly loves Gabby Giffords. C'est la vie. Honesty is the best policy. |
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老鬼 How long have you learned Chinese? You even can write Chinese. However, we write "Traditional" characters in Taiwan rather than "Simplified" in China. I have visited China only 6 nights/ 8 days. I don't own any gun and don't want one either. Have you seen that TED talk about Gabby Giffords? There are many good videos on TED talk and YouTube. Honesty is the best policy.
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