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What are you looking for? (Your criterions and standards) We go online dating sites to look for “pen-pal”, “friend”, “companion”, “partner”, “long term relationship”, “marriage” ….and etc. We have certain criterions, certain people to fit what you are looking for. Divorce has daunted many people. However, life has limit, so we need a companion for the rest of life. That’s why we put up a profile online and hope someone will discover us, someone fit our standards to start a friendship. Age and distance are very important factors. Some scammers may say “age is just number”. No, I want certain range of age because I am looking for compatible and mature person who is a little older than me. Distance is also important. I have received so many scammer emails said “when two hearts love each other, distance is not a problem” that are BS. How can I trust anyone who lives far away? How can I verify them? We need to meet many, many times to understand a person, to trust a person. Personal habits such as smoker, regular drinker, gambler, are out of the question. I am looking for a better life, so those bad habits are NOT qualified. Those are NON-NEGOTIABLE. Must be non-smoker, sober, non-gambler and NOT addict to drugs. Intelligence and education are what I am looking for. Not only “book smart” (education) but also “street smart” (experience) are what I am searching for. I will be the “judge” of your intelligence. Appearance – playboy handsome or gym rat body intimidate me. I like smart and mature look guys. I posted many photos, so I want to see who you are. However, height is important to me, you have to be at least 5’8” tall to 6’3”. I like guy who is taller than me. Good personality is the key to get along with. I have met 5 attorneys and found out they are eloquent and aggressive, so my impression wasn’t good. Honesty and integrity are essential personality. Religion – I can’t tolerate “Bible study”, “weekly churchgoer” or “God-fear” religious person. Although I was raised as Catholic for my first 30+ years, I am an Agnostic (not religious) now. I can go church on big holidays only. I don’t want to argue those dogmas over a dinner or been forced to convert to his religion. I don’t believe in Heaven or Hell or God or Devil. I follow the Golden Rule – “Do unto others as you would have others do unto you”. I don’t need a dogma to tell me what is Right or Wrong. I don’t expect to go to Heaven or Hell when I die. I will be “dust” or “ash” on earth. Travel – I like to travel and don’t want a “homebody”. You enjoy traveling and have time and money to travel with me. Last but not the least, must be an U.S. citizen. My ex-husband used me to get his U.S. citizenship and I swore I won’t make same mistake twice. How about you? What are you looking for? Honesty is the best policy. |
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It is like finding needle in a haystack, NOT an easy task. Dating has been more difficult for me in recent years. I am frustrated that I've received more scammer emails nowadays and the people I am interested (on other sites, rarely), I emailed them but has no reply. I am very honest. I found out the more successful guys want 1/2 of their ages. I am NOT that young, so I don't contact them. laogui: Everyone has different opinion, I still stick with mine. After all, we only can have one choice at the end. That's why my headline is "In search of the "one" in a million, chance of a lifetime". It is NOT about the money, but the whole package of a person. Honesty is the best policy.
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At least your are honest about what you want... Best Wishes to You in Finding What You Want.
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