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Bully people can say something so mean to hurt people I have received 3 emails from same person on Sept 21, 2015 that hurt me so badly. I reported him but Chinese FriendFinder deactivated him so fast before I could copy down his 3 emails. However, Sept 25, 2015 those 3 emails appear again. This guy didn't post his photo. He lives in Buena Park, CA, 54 Male vijayan1 Who cares about your resume on aff,I personally think that you are full of pride.Just be a ordinary lady.You think people here on Chinese FriendFinder give a shit of where you have been or what properties you have?You came naked to this world and you will leave naked! Thank you. Sept 21, 2015 at 6:54 p.m. vijayan1 Nobody gives a shit about your profile! Go loose some weight and think about getting a plastic surgery! Sept 21, 2015 at 7:00 p.m. vijayan1 Go lose some weight and at least get a plastic surgery! Sept 21, 2015 at 7:21 p.m. I just read an article from Yahoo front page Dianne Hoffmeyer was with her 22-month-old at Tim Horton’s, waiting to buy a cup of coffee for herself and some donut holes for her teething , when she overheard the women in line behind her whispering hurtful insults at her expense. Comments like “’Oh, look at her hair, it’s nasty looking and the roots are coming through,’” and, “’Oh she’s a whale, the whale needs to eat,’” Hoffmeyer told WXYZ. “I instantly started to cry, because it hurts. I don’t know the women. I don’t know why they would choose to say something like that.“ STORY: Mom of Four Answers Bullies After Posting Unretouched Photos Instead of confronting the strangers about their bad behavior or lobbing insults right back, the Michigan mother did something surprising — she paid for the two women’s cups of coffee. Hoffmeyer wrote about the incident on Facebook Monday, just after it happened. “To the 2 mean bitter ladies that were standing in line at Tim Hortons in Fort Gratiot behind me,” she wrote in a post that has since been removed. “I could hear you. I could hear the hurtful things you said about me. Sorry that my hair needs to be re-colored and the roots bothered you, but I have that need to be taken care of. They come first. You both were right when you said I didn’t need the small box of Timbits because I already looked like a whale. Just so you know they were not for me. But for my sick 22-month-old who has kept me up all night crying and teething. I thought they might make her happy. Yes, I set aside the fact that they are not healthy because I wanted her to smile. You both made me cry. Then when I ordered a coffee that I RARELY get to treat myself to, you both snickered and called me a ‘Retarded Lard Ass.’ I’ll have you know I’ve worked hard to lose 177 [pounds] in 22 months. I am proud of myself. You both should be ashamed of yourselves. But to show that my mother raised me better, I’d like to say [YOU’RE] WELCOME. Because this ‘Fat Retarded Lard Ass’ paid it forward and I bought your coffees this morning.” Before Hoffmeyer’s post was removed from Facebook, it had received more than 224,000 likes, according to a screen shot on Opposing Views. She also received more than 94,000 friend requests and hundreds of messages from supporters across the globe. “One positive action in a negative moment has caused a tsunami of friendship for me with moms that are going through the same thing,” Hoffmeyer told the Times Herald. Hoffmeyer didn’t respond to Yahoo Parenting’s request for comment. Hoffmeyer says she was inspired to perform the incredible act of kindness to set an example for her young and teenage . “My 2-year-old is a mini-me and she mimics everything I do,” she told the Times Herald. “I wanted to do the right thing so when she’s old enough she’ll know the right thing to do.” While Hoffmeyer she still doesn’t know who the two women are, she told WXYZ that if she saw them again, she’d do the same thing. “I’d like to buy them another cup of coffee, and talk to them,” she said. “And explain to them how it made me feel.” This thing happened on AFF, so I post a blog on AFF. Dianne Hoffmeyer has an account with FaceBook, so she posted on FaceBook for everyone to read. Chinese FriendFinder is one of "social media". Words can hurt so much, if it aim to the heart. Honesty is the best policy. |
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I also posted another blog "When insults had class ...." I have been insulted with a guy no class. I've never dated anyone who is more than 1.5 years younger than me. This is the part of reason that I insisted NOT dating younger men. NEVER. They are immature, not sophisticated,..... They are NOT smart as me. I am looking for a leader, so I found my banker friend. He trusts me and I trust him. I know his story and he knows mine. I don't want to been hurt alone, so I posted this blog to show every blogger (especially women) to let them know this creepy guy. He doesn't know me. He has underestimated me. Honesty is the best policy.
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Maybe that one is not new in Chinese FriendFinder anymore..You've said you have been here for 11 years  ... So maybe he is one of the old member here and just changed his handle...He might knew you for years...It seemed he knew about your properties. business or assets? Then you have to be careful not to tell much about them.. keep yours simple.... not telling much because there are some men here who have been observing.. Sometimes better to be just like an ordinary person though you have everything.. just like a low profile one......I remembered you posted here some fake ones who have been writing to you... Even here I don't take much of the emails here seriously or whatsoever... It seems that looking for one lifetime soulmate does not succeed here...I know you have many male friends there you meet most of the time so prefer knowing them...... People who are just behind their computers and who never show up can change their identities as well...Yes.. blocking and reporting is better....Have a great day  enjoy blogging moreI only dated less than 10 on Chinese FriendFinder in 11 years because not many qualified my criteria. I have dated mostly highly educated MD, PhD, DDS (orthodontist), JD (attorneys), MBA, CPA, engineers in different field. Everyone of them at least has Bachelor degree. I know their real names, addresses, email addresses, phone #s, which university graduated, what company they work at, .... and keep the records in my computer "Documents" section. I am a very honest and picky person and expect the same quality with my dates. I have read thousands profiles, many hundred emails, ... (I have 8,000 emails with my banker friend for 9 years) I trained myself to know who is the person I can trust, who is NOT just by their profiles, age, distance, education, .... especially how they wrote their profiles. I can tell who is scammer, who is liar, who I can trust, who I can't, .... I have never been scammed, knock on wood. Highly educated persons wrote differently in their emails. I can tell they really read what I said in my profile, NOT just look my pictures. There are lots of scammers on Chinese FriendFinder and SFF. Almost of 99.999% in these days. However, I did met 2 attorneys, 1 orthodontist, 1 pathologist MD, ... in early years when I was a subscriber (2005 - 0  .This vijayan1 guy's emails are full of jealous, childish and low class vocabularies. I can tell, I have NEVER seen this guy or any guy in Buena Park, CA. I only want to associate with mature, sophisticate, successful, classic, sense of humor, .... people. Someone I can learn from or look up with. I don't want any guy who is jealous, uneducated, stupid, superficial, low class, .... such as vijayan1. He is a stupid, jealous, uneducated, superficial, low class son of bitch. He only know to say bitch words. Honesty is the best policy.
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At "Report Member Abuse" - I chose "Offensive Behavior or other Violation of term of Service". I have never done anything to this vijayan1 guy who emailed me 3 times to humiliate me, vilify me that I need a plastic surgery. If he is so handsome or strong body, why didn't he post his photo?? Honesty is the best policy.
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My last subscription on Chinese FriendFinder was in 2008. I am NOT a paid member since 2009. I am on Chinese FriendFinder for blogs and albums only. Actually Chinese FriendFinder or SFF bloggers are luckier than Match or other online dating sites because bloggers can know better of me besides of my profiles. Bloggers can know my political, religion, current events, my traveling, my favorite music, ...... etc. I can exchange and post my opinions/ responses on other people blogs. I have no intention to hurt or attack anyone. I use Chinese FriendFinder albums to record my travel in different countries for my own sake. I am NOT showing-off my travel photos. Those albums are my memoir. That is all. I have never tried to attract anyone on Chinese FriendFinder for those photos. I know well that I have gained weight as age. But this is the first time I received such a vicious critique that I need a plastic surgery. He emailed me 3 times to emphasize his points. That is hurt. Honesty is the best policy.
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I have no clue why Chinese FriendFinder deactivated this moron for 4 days but then let him come back. He wrote 3 emails in the same day. He has never met me what in the world he said I need a plastic surgery??? If he is so good-looking, why didn't he post a photo or two??? Maybe he needs a plastic surgery more than me. In my profile, I clearly said "Age in between 59 - 71", "Distance within 65 miles" Southern California residents only. He is 54, I don't consider at all. My ex-husband is 2 years older than me. My banker friend is 7 years older than me. I have always attracted older men and vice versa. I have always attracted by highly educated or intelligent guys and vice versa. That stupid moron is NOT a match. He is a mad dog barking the wrong tree. I have been on Chinese FriendFinder for 11 years now. This is the 2nd time a moron emailed me that hurt me. The 1st one (many years ago) said he couldn't trust a pharmacist because he thinks pharmacist can poison him. Honesty is the best policy.
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People who do such things are themselves challenged in ways they have yet to face. Any time one has to push others down to lift themselves up, it tells a great deal about their character and the weakness within themselves. Our bodies are what they are "all different because God made them to be so", the heart and compassion's we live by speak volumes of the integrity which we embrace, represents whom we are.
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BTW, I have blocked this vijayan1 from Magazine/Blog Comments, Sending Email/firts, Search/Browse Results, Appearing in Chat/IMC, Sending Invites, Writing Testimonials, View My Broadcast, Read My Blog, View My Profile,.... Hope Chinese FriendFinder software can really work. Honesty is the best policy.
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