1ClassyLady 68F
3126 posts
9/7/2020 6:02 am
How to identify a real person from scammer?


I have met many dates and they are real persons. Let me tell you how I verify them. If they emailed you first, you need 2 read their profiles thoroughly. They need 2 qualify your standards, such as age range, distance, education, smoker or non-smoker, ... anything not qualified you can ignore them. Of course, some of the standards can be compromised, some you can't. Never send any m*ney 2 anyone you have never met. Don't trust a stranger.

Ask them their real name, the city they live is within 50 miles or the distance you can drive 2, what is their jobs, where they work and ask more questions.

One MD emailed me from an online dating site. He asked where I was working. I told him I was working at Kaiser Permanente hospital pharmacy at what city (Kaiser has many locations in USA). That MD really went to the Kaiser hospital pharmacy and asked a pharmacy tech about my name. The pharmacy tech told the MD who I was at the pharmacy. That MD checked me out because MD is very comfortable with hospital. That was the first time I met that MD briefly at work. That MD really lives in Beverly Hills and he is a Jewish American. He doesn't follow the Jewish Kosher food restrictions and eats shrimp and crab. He is an atheist Jewish and only goes 2 synagogue twice a year for important holidays. I have dated with him for many yrs and went 2 many restaurants in Beverly Hills. He is a foodie person.

I used this method 2 check out many other dates. I asked my banker CEO/ Chairman friend about his bank with 4 locations. I drove 2 his bank and sat in the lobby and asked the loan officer who is the CEO/Chairman of the bank. That's how I know he is honest.

I usually dates CEO, MD, DDS, PhD, MBA, JD (attorney), CPA, Engineer, .... someone has at least B.S. (bachelor) degree, master degree or PhD. They need to have stable jobs and where I can check them at work. They have 2 be intelligent and trustworthy. I can ask them their job-related questions at beginning. They are all real persons, they are what they said they are. I have their names, jobs, even addresses in my computer, Microsoft Excel.

My banker friend is the longest and the most trustworthy friend since June 2006. He is very knowledgeable about finance. When I quit my pharmacist job in order 2 take care my mom, he encouraged me 2 invest on real estate and stock market. He told me 2 be my own boss (self-employed). He told 2 sell property in 2007 when I only knew him for a year. I took his advice and sold a property that made 4.5 times of original purchased price. He also sold some of his properties in 2007 and went 2 China for ten days. I went 2 China in May 2008. He said he won't buy Chinese properties because the property land is rented from CCP government unlike we purchase properties and land included. I trust him from the day one I met him. He advised me buy properties in Las Vegas, NV in 20'11. So, I went 2 Las Vegas and bought 5 properties using my mom's living trust name for title. When I came back 2 California, I told him I purchased five rental properties. He said "you are the queen of Las Vegas". He was joking. It has been fourteen yrs, the banker is still my best friend.

Before you met someone, please ask questions about that person and go 2 his work place and check the person out. Many profiles are fake location, fake age, fake photos, fake jobs, ... their profiles said "I like to walk on the beach", (who doesn't?) "easy going", ... it doesn't provide specific information to know a person.

I am lucky to live in Southern California and closer to meet the people who lives within 50 miles, so that I can check them out before I met them. Better be safe than sorry.

Hope my suggestion can help you to identify a real person from scammers. Good luck in your searching. I am a real person. I don't fool anyone, don't want to be fooled either.



Honesty is the best policy.


1ClassyLady 68F
3289 posts
9/12/2020 11:43 am

    Quoting MrSeasoned:
    There are so many scammers. I received a few messages from a lady on this site. Just this morning, I received a message from a guy telling me how she is a scammer. How did he get my profile information? Honestly, I do not know.
As long as you didn't send m*ney to anyone or gave away your phone #'s or emailing address, it doesn't count as a scam. Just ignore those emails. I received many emails from online dating sites daily. Just block them, or report them to AFF.

The reason I remain on Chinese FriendFinder is because this is the only site that has blogs. I am using the blog to communicate or talk about current events and politics. I have been Chinese FriendFinder since I filed divorce in 2004 (16 yrs ago). I have been here long enough to recognize a scammer. No, I have never been scammed nor scam anyone. Knock on wood. The persons I dated mostly at other online dating sites and older than me and lives within 50 miles. I drove to their working places to verify them before I met them. Communicate with the person that you can trust before you give away your phone #'s or emailing address. Usually scammers are dumb. They use other people's photos, male can be female, their location, their ages, their education, ... They could be a group of people in Africa, one of them wrote the profiles for others. However, through their talking, you can tell they are st*pid. It is very easy to identify them.

As I mentioned the Aussie moron, he is not a scammer but we have different views about communist and pro-democracy. I have blocked him, so he can't come to my blog unless he changed his username which he did before. That Aussie now posted his blog to argue with me. I just ignore him, not read his blog. He is an annoying person.



Honesty is the best policy.


MrSeasoned 71M
1 post
9/12/2020 10:49 am

There are so many scammers. I received a few messages from a lady on this site. Just this morning, I received a message from a guy telling me how she is a scammer. How did he get my profile information? Honestly, I do not know.


1ClassyLady 68F
3289 posts
9/9/2020 9:28 am

An moron Aussie married to a communist and became a communist and then more atrocious than any communist on AFF. Be careful with this communist Aussie. Australia country should lock him up and send him to jail for life.



Honesty is the best policy.


1ClassyLady 68F
3289 posts
9/8/2020 11:55 pm

That ugly Aussie already dead for a long time, that's why his username is Old Ghost. A st*pid A- hole. Only a moron will name himself Old Ghost. St*pid.... He needs to see a psychiatrist.



Honesty is the best policy.


1ClassyLady 68F
3289 posts
9/8/2020 11:37 pm

There is a lunatic Aussie. Bother me all the time. I don't know his intention. Leave me alone.... further and further away..... He is a crazy person.



Honesty is the best policy.


1ClassyLady 68F
3289 posts
9/7/2020 6:52 am

I have same profile at several online dating sites, i.e. Match, Our Time, .... Chinese FriendFinder is my first and longest online dating site. I met my banker friend from Yahoo Personals but Yahoo has closed down that dating site long time ago. My banker friend was only on Yahoo Personals for 3 months and didn't want his employees to see his online profile, so he was not active and shut down within 3 months. I am lucky to know him in June 2006. His birthday is in June.

If you are a member on AFF, you know I like to travel and have traveled 17 countries with many pictures for different albums. I have been to 12 U.S. National Parks twice. I have booked and paid to Rhine and Moselle rivers cruise from mid July to early August this year, but due to the Coronavirus pandemic, the trip has postponed for a year to 2021.

I have a pen-pal and never met him in Hawaii. He is a PhD physicist. I can tell from his emails and forwarding emails of many beautiful pictures and articles. He likes NASA and Space related articles. He only listen to "Classical music". He owns many rental properties in Venice in California but lives in Hawaii. Physicist knows E = M C square that's what I know of.
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Use your intelligence and common sense to read a profile. There are many scammers out there. I received scammer's emails on Chinese FriendFinder almost daily, but they can't fool me. I just blocked them, even reported them to AFF. However, don't lose your confidence. There are real persons out there for you.



Honesty is the best policy.