1ClassyLady 68F
3125 posts
6/19/2023 8:42 pm
In search of a kindred spirit friend


I filed divorce to a dentist who's annual income was $2. He got his "Green card", U.S. citizen from me. With lots of disappointment and sadness, I filed divorce in May 2004 and he moved out on June 1, 2004.

I went on Chinese FriendFinder for 3 months membership and then switched to Yahoo Personals. The magic happened that we viewed each other's profile in May 2006. He emailed me and I replied. At that time, my username was Rx4Love, so he knew that I am a Calif licensed pharmacist. The first met at a Starbucks in early June of 2006. Later on, I realized his birthday was June 9. He was 6'1" tall, Caucasian, a bank CEO/Chairman. He had a very distinguish look that attracted me (love at first sight). The 2nd date was lunch at a "Dim Sum" restaurant. I was surprised he could use chopsticks and ate "chicken feet". The 3rd date was in April of 2007 dinner at a romantic Chinese restaurant. He told me that he will go to China the following week. It was long dinner, he told me a lot of his past. He was born in New York, but raised in Washington DC. His father was a Spanish and mother was a Irish. He adopted his 3rd who had Autism. I remembered every word he said. Then, to my surprised he emailed me from a coffee shop in Shanghai. In April 2007, the WiFi wasn't popular yet, so he brought his laptop to a coffee shop and used the WiFi to email me from China. It was a big surprise.

He was a very busy businessman with 4 banks (he had 3 banks but then US government called him to buy another bank that in danger). I could Google what he said are truth. He lived in San Marino (an expensive city) that only 19 miles from me. Then, he visited his sister in Spain every year and emailed me from Spain. He went to Australia and New Zealand. That's why I went to Australia and NZ the next year in 2015. He seemed more relaxing during his trip and emailed me. Of course, he also emailed me in USA. We had more than 20 thousand emails, I set a folder just for him.

He used the 3 day long weekends to take me to lunch. He had to work on Saturdays. In June 2007, he told me to sell my property (my mom and I bought). I trusted him and sold that condo that my mom lived easily for quadruple price. Because he went to China in 2007, so I went to China in May 2008 for 8 d/6 nights. I received his Yahoo email (Gmail couldn't use in China) in Beijing that he said banks were not lending loans. It was "sub-prime loan crisis" about to burst. Lucky, he told me to sell my mom's condo in June 2007.

A real estate agent in Taiwan called me that his was interested to buy my mom's property in Taiwan in Dec 2010. My mom had arthritis and on wheelchair, so I took my mom to get "power of attorney" that I could represent my mom back to Taiwan to sell her property in January 2011. We thought I could come back to USA within 3 weeks, but then Taiwan celebrate "Lunar New Year" for 6 holidays. Banks, Escrow are closed for 6 days, the transaction halted. I went to Japan for 5 days because Japan don't celebrate lunar new year. When the transaction done, I wired sold proceeds back to USA. Then Japan had a 8.9 magnitude earthquake, tsunami, nuclear tank leaked on March 11, 2011 and I returned to USA on Feb 16, 2011.

With 2007 and 2011 sold proceeds, I asked the banker CEO friend how to invest. He said "buy rental properties in Las Vegas". Why? I asked. He said Las Vegas has many casinos that open 24/7 and need 3 shifts employees. Those employees need a place to live. Since they have jobs, they can pay for rent. I did what he said, I went to Las Vegas to buy rental properties alone. When I came back and emailed him that I bought 5 "foreclosures, bank own properties. He replied "you are the Queen of Las Vegas".

Those rental properties are double, triple, I sold 3 but keep 2 properties. I trusted my banker CEO friend but unfortunately he passed away on January 12, 2022. I Googled his name and city and found out from obituary online in Sept 2022. I think he died in heart attack (Atrial fibrillation). I miss him but my life has to go on. I am looking for another kindred spirit friend.



Honesty is the best policy.


1ClassyLady 68F
3286 posts
6/19/2023 9:32 pm

It was a platonic relationship - pure friendship for 16 years. I asked for his advice and he taught me how to invest. He was a rich and smart banker. I appreciated what he had taught me. But now he passed for 1.5 years, I have to move on.

I miss his smile, his humor, his knowledge on making money. Ever since 3rd date in April 2007, he gave bear hugs at restaurants, he paid every meal, he walked me to my car and watched I drove away. We talked about real estate/ stock market, traveling, politics, religion, music, current events, .... and so on and so forth. He said "divorced people were daunted", so he already set-up his Will, his LLC, his Corporation for his 3 daughters and 5 grandchildren. He gave me advice because he said "God helps those who help themselves." He encouraged me "Don't worry, Be happy".



Honesty is the best policy.