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Dear Joe, I miss you My best friend for 16.5 years (from May 2006 to his death on 1/12/2022), a bank CEO/Chairman. I love him and miss him dearly. It has been 3.5 years but I still miss him every day. I don't need much just one more day to hear you call. To hear you say that I remember who you are. But wishes don't go that far. So I sing here on this stage. Old and tired, full of pain. Not for gold, not for fame. Just to call out your name. Still waiting. Still the same. Honesty is the best policy. |
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Joe could speak Spanish fluently. One time I called him asked him what's the meaning of "Bésame Mucho" in his cellphone voicemail. He called me back and told me that Bésame Mucho is a song's title meaning lots of kisses. "Bésame Mucho" sang by Andrea Bocelli. Honesty is the best policy.
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Ladies, I'd like to ask you questions. Will you stay with a loser dentist for 17.5 years who makes annual income of $2 and even minus $5,500 but he stashed his cash to himself. I gave him free green card, S.S. #, credit card, and eventually U.S. citizenship?? He thought himself is a king that doesn't need to do or buy anything. He mocked me just a pharmacist, but he is a dentist (doctor). He has no dental experience in patient's mouth and scared patient will sue him for his dental practice. He has no confidence to work as a dentist. He teased me that I have small breasts and refused to touch. This kind of Asian man. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- I filed divorce and met a amicable Caucasian bank CEO/Chairman two years later. My divorce decision is correct. I trust the banker who told me to sell property in June 2007 (only 1 year after I known to him). I sold a condo that I purchased with my mom in 1984 for $95,000 in Alhambra and sold for $435,000 (quadruple) in June 2007. I quit claim the property and let my mom to have "once in a lifetime tax exemption of 1/4 million profits. Sold in one day on listing full price. Thank you Joe for your advice. It was like miracle ever since I known to Joe in May 2006. In 2009 I purchased a foreclosure condo for $363,000 in Arcadia using that sold proceeds of $435,000 my mom's money. My mom passed away in Sept 2013 and I inherited her properties and money. I sold that Arcadia condo for $530,000 another profits. The differences in between my ex and Joe are like night and day. One loser dentist made loss of $5,500 and stated $2 annual income on divorce financial statement, one a bank CEO/Chairman who made $2 million USD annual income and full of knowledge of real estate and stock investment and he has learned how to repair things during his young ages. He praised me that I'm a brave and courageous woman. Buy low (when everyone fearful), sell high (when everyone greedy). I couldn't find another person like Joe after he passed away 3.5 years ago. Honesty is the best policy.
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I forgot to say about the 3rd date in April 2007 that Joe said "he will go to China the next week". He already bought airplane ticket, reserved hotel in Shanghai and Hong Kong, Macau for a week. To my surprise, he emailed me used his laptop from an Internet Cafe in Shanghai city in late of April 2007. He said he liked me. I know from that email, we had good impression to each other. That was why I went to China in May 2008 (also because 2008 summer Olympics in Beijing). Joe went to Australia and New Zealand in 2014 and emailed me, so I went to Australia and New Zealand in February 2015. Joe went back to Washington DC for school reunion at American University where he got his 3 degrees. I had a feeling he always emailed me when he go travel. One time I texted message to his cellphone not knowing he was in Spain visiting his older sister who married to a Spanish. Joe immediately emailed me that he was in Spain not in California. Joe traveled to Moscow city, Russia for only 5 days, he emailed me that he only stayed in Moscow not anywhere else in Russia, I've never been to Russia, a communist country, big land. When I told him, I will travel to Italy in October and November 2018 for 36 days. He told me must to see "Sistine Chapel in Vatican". So, I jointed the local travel agency to see "Sistine Chapel", Saint Peter's Basilica in Vatican. One time Joe slipped his tongue and told me his annual income was $2 millions. I asked him "who decide your annual income?". He said the 12 Board of Directors in the bank. Wow, $2 million yearly. In the winter he ice ski in Colorado state where his younger brother lives there. Joe was born in NYC, grew-up in DC, of course, he could ski. He was married at 18 and poor, so he could repair something when he was young. He learned how to fix car too. He knew I always got up early to watch CNBC for stock market and I turned off my cellphone in the morning to concentrate on stock trading. One morning he called me at 8 am to my home phone said Hello. I answered his call "who's it?". Joe said humorously "I'm calling from recruitment department of Chinese communist party". I recognized his voice, so I said "I'm sorry that I didn't recognize your voice". He knew I dislike CCP because I'm a Taiwanese. Joe was busy but he still taught me about real estate, stock market, anything Financial related. He taught me when and where to invest at a particular time. I trusted his advice. We are pure platonic friends, no kiss, not live together. From 3rd date in 2007 on, he gave me "big bear hug" when met, and walked me to my car and gave me another bear hug before said good-bye. His hugs feel like "he got my back", "he supports me". The hug is cheek to cheek only. One time I whispered to his ear "I miss you" during cheek to cheek hug, he kissed my cheek. That's all. Honesty is the best policy.
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After Joe got his 3 degrees, he sent out a lot of his resume. One bank responded and asked him to Calif for a job interview. Joe got hired as a "Loan Officer". He was very happy and went back to Washington DC to bring his wife and first born daughter to California. Joe was very happy with Southern California weather and lived here since 1972 (till his death in 2022). Joe's life was getting better, his 2nd daughter was born in California. One day his family attended a Catholic church for mass. After the mass was over, Joe could speak Spanish very well (his father was a Spanish), Joe talked to a Mexican family with ten children. One of the Mexican daughter who was 18 months came to Joe but she was silent. The Mexican couple said to Joe that daughter of theirs couldn't talk. Joe asked them if he could take their daughter to see doctors. The Mexican couple agreed. Joe took that Mexican girl and doctor's diagnosis was "Autism". Doctor said there was no treatment for Autism 自閉症. With lots of patience and love to her, that daughter could be cured. Joe asked the Mexican couple that he wanted to adopt their daughter. The Mexican couple had ten kids, agreed Joe to adopt their daughter. So, Joe's 3rd daughter is not his biological daughter. That adopted daughter got over Autism because Joe's family treated that 3rd daughter as Joe's two biological daughters. This story touched my heart that I started to love him unilaterally. Joe got promotions to senior loan officer to Vice President, to senior VP, to President, to CEO/Chairman, step by step. He divorced his wife in 1998 (took 5 yrs to settle the divorce). Honesty is the best policy.
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A miracle happened on me in May 2006 (just 2 yrs after). A Caucasian man viewed my profile on Yahoo, Personals. He looked very distinguish and noble, so I read his profile. He started a brief message from Yahoo, Personals. After few messages, we exchanged email addresses to contact outside in May 2006. The 1st date was June 1, 2006 (my ex walked out 2 yrs ago) at Starbucks in San Marino that is 20 miles from my house. He looked at me with a curious smile. He asked me what coffee I want to order. I said iced Cappuccino, medium size. He paid for it. I had very pleasant conversation with him. It last only one hour. The 2nd date was at a Chinese "Dim Sum" restaurant. I was surprised that he could use chopsticks well and ate chicken feet. That Chinese restaurant full of Chinese and talked loud, I hardly could hear what he said. The lunch last 1 hour. The 3rd date was the highest point. He invited me to a luxurious and romantic Chinese restaurant for dinner in April of 2007. From 7 pm to 10 pm he told me his story at that quiet restaurant. Up to this day, I still remember every word he said to me. Joe said his father was a Spanish from Spain, his mother was an Irish. His parents met in NYC. His parents married soon in NYC. Both his parents died young, at their mid-50. Joe has 2 older sisters, Joe was the 1st born son in NYC, he had 2 younger brothers born in Washington DC. A day after his high school graduation, Joe married his high school sweetheart (both of them were 1  . I interrupted "isn't that too young to marry at 18?" Joe smiled and said "I thought I can concur the world". Both of us smiled. Joe immediately find a job at U.S. Postal Office midnight shift job that he had to memorized thousands of ZIP Code. At that time no computer. The mails without ZIP code written will be kicked out the machine and Joe had to fill the ZIP code of the city and state. In Washington DC, the winter was long and cold. He needed to dig out his car from the snow, scratch off the snow from the roof and put the chain on the 4 tires. Life was tough for a 18 yrs old young man. He applied and attended "American University", the best university in Washington DC. He paid the apartment rent, food, utility for his family. He had to pay tuition too, He got his B.S. degree in Finance in 4 years, master degree in Finance in 2 years and another MBA degree in 2 years.Honesty is the best policy.
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I start my story from my ex-husband who is alive Taiwanese and a loser dentist. He didn't have Green card, S.S. #, nor U.S. Citizenship. He passed his dentist license in Taiwan then he went to the mandatory 2 year military draft in Taiwan and one year cram school 補習班 to study English GRE. He came to the USA in 1/1981 lived in his sister house. He didn't attend any dental school in California, and failed his dentist license exam for consecutive 6 years because he didn't have dental practice in patient's mouth. I need a dental crown in 1986 that I've been introduced by a CA licensed dentist that there was a Taiwanese behind of dental office who needs a dental crown to attend dentist license exam. That was how I know this ex-husband. Finally, he passed his dentist exam. He saw I was an U.S. citizen and in the USA since 1980. He keeled down to propose me to marry him that I only known him for 2.5 months. It was my mistake that dentist can make good income and I thought he would make money after married. I helped him to get Green card, S.S. #, and U.S. citizenship. He has very little dentist experience for 9 years. He only had $35.75 in his checking account. I had to pay everything, the wedding, the meals during dating, and he asked me to buy a DOS computer for $3,000 and he lost the computer few hours later. He has the concept of "more work, more mistake, less work, less mistake, not work, no mistake". He has no confidence to practice dental work in patient's mouth. A loser who I paid $32,000, his father paid $20,000 and my mom paid $20,000 totaling $72,000 for him to set-up a dental clinic in 1988. He is very lazy, no confidence. I was working at the dental office till my son was 3 years old in 1993 and to open my own pharmacy. I made money and paid everything, all the rent, property tax, furniture, food, utilities, ... I am his life savior. He made negative income of $5,500 (loss) in 2002 for his dental office. I got mad, but waited for another year. Finally, I decided to file a divorce in May 2004 because I saw his annual income is only $1,000. He didn't help any housework, I had to work as a pharmacist to provide food and everything. He felt he is a king, so he didn't need to do anything (Asian men) and wife had to do cooking, wash dishes, laundry, vacuuming, take care 2 kids. I showed his annual income to my 2 kids that their father had a loss of $5,500 in 2002. My daughter was 16, she said "Daddy is a loser, if I go work for McDonald, I can make more money than him". Every time I asked my ex to pay for food or do some work, he said "you make more money, if you want to buy something, you have to pay for it". I was disappointed in this agonizing 17.5 years marriage. I walked in to a divorce attorney and file a divorce in May 2004. He moved out my house on June 1, 2004 as the "Separation day". He beg me not to divorce him, but my anger and suffering from him that I firmly divorce him. On the divorce financial statement, he put his annual income $2 as a self-employed dentist. Honesty is the best policy.
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• Home • Obituaries • sherman oaks, ca • Joseph Louis Borda Jr. Obituary OBITUARY Joseph Louis Borda Jr. June 9, 1947 – January 12, 2022 Joseph Louis Borda Jr., age 74, of San Marino, California passed away on Wednesday, January 12, 2022. Joseph was born June 9, 1947. Fond memories and expressions of sympathy may be shared at www.neptunesociety.com/location/sherman-oaks-cremation for the Borda family. Honesty is the best policy.
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