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Relating in the 21st Century The circle of its function has many fallacies as well as much of fantasy, but yearn to claim it seeks to "share".. (Building trust) First and foremost becomes something one must work on within self, to trust self. then to speak honest and be fair in the dealing within living. Having compassion as well as the awareness of discernment about the acts and actions of others, helps in the trust building scenario of personal association. (Sharing) Learning how to share is a undertaking that is worthy, sharing does not imply a expect of anything, nor does it mandate a reciprocation of any special thing. It is first and foremost the ability to be able to give freely. Unfortunately, there is a vast spectrum of "Quid Pro Quo", "Tit for Tat" which dominates the social spectrum, and the act of sharing is replaced by a "barter mentality" in a great many situations. Relationship fall apart behind "the barter mentality", which people claim is sharing, and many fall apart behind sharing, that has a one side function within how it is engaged. It's unfortunate in the world of the female and male, there is this unspoken expectation which circles,and encircles, and has many tentacles which nearly demand something, without even the vaguest thought of mutual considerations to be equally a sharing situation. ("Fee based romance") So much of the concept of romance is far too frequently based on what a man is giving, how much he is giving, and if he is giving what one is expecting to get. Such things as 'who pays for dinner", "who opens a door", and "what presents" are given, these things have become so interwoven in the mentalities, until people miss the reality of seeing each other as simply persons. There is such a wide spread measure on this aspect until, people void each other out behind this cycle of mentality. ("Sex") Sex is played out like a and john sequence, and using the organ of sex as a gambit organ, which is often used to facilitate the cycle of bargain, demand, and encircled within ultimatums based on expectations of compensatory yieldings. ("Arguments") If people stop and look at what their arguments are based upon, is many times, nothing more than ones expectations being pushed upon another as a covert demand, and overt expectation. and the cycle of badger ensues, to try and extract compliance. In a funny sense, some people may fare better, to simply make a 'long term or short term' /john arrangements, and go about their ways when the deal is at a point of mutual resolve. Relating in the 21st Century Some find actual realism within communication and appreciation, and thus share, in doing so. Unfortunately, some cannot fathom such simplicity, and then enters the cycle of the 'barter mentality'... which ultimately will find that it is a term limited interchange, not unlike the "/john" sequence. |
