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... is love your dream fantasy, or do you live it as your reality ? Some build many fantasies about how they want to think about loving, some deny their ability to love, by waiting for a dream sequence of some perfect conditions, and some plan and craft and spend their time planning and crafting, and never engaging love. Life is its own paradox unto many, who are unaware that "Love is ALWAYS a O.J.T. ( On Job Training), Unless one can capture their emotions and those of another into a fixed and frozen mold, then they should realize that love is not to be contained, nor is it to be something that follows a fixed script of routine. It will as its nature makes it, designed to encompass the whole of individuals, and to engage the ongoing changes in life, that is part of the experience of being alive and living in an interactive world. If you think it should be a romantic fantasy then you had best be prepared to be a hard worker in the engagement of loving, or you just might find you dis-disillusioned yourself by expecting to be less than a hard working individual for love and within loving. Dreams are always the process of "ongoing hard work"... Reality is the Hard work, unfolding into what seems like the making of dreams.. If you are not finding love, you may consider to ask yourself, if your expectations are higher than you actual efforts of working hard to make it so. I doubt that you've ever seen what is called hard work, be without what makes it hard work, nor will love be what one wants it to be, without working hard to make it become so. Whining because you did not get your way, or you did not get patronized to meet your expectations, may be what is destroying your aim of love, maybe you could learn that love is work, and work is love, and they make each other work.. Being timid and expecting to be pampered, will probably leave you without love, and then you will want to cast blame on everything but yourself. Playing games of thinking you are owed something may be diminishing your ability to work hard, and your lack of hard work, may be the reason for your failure at loving. Loving is ongoing work, and work is the ongoing building of love. Are you up to the task, and do you have the fortitude to put in the work... If not, you know then why you don't have love .... Blame it not on another, but figure out how to become a hard worker for love, and love may bless you with the work to do, to keep love becoming more of love. |
