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Learning and Living ..... who can face it...who can deny it...?? The simplest thing in the world is what keeps many men interested in a particular woman. "Appreciation", and when that is coupled with the considerate mindset. it covers a broad spectrum of what gives a relationship its gusto. Many women can do themselves a great favor in their wants for love. It's simple, learn to be more appreciating, and more considerate, without selfish conditions, Learn to appreciate more, rather than expecting more from him, learn to appreciate what he gives and what he shares, but more-so, learn most of all to appreciate him as the individual he is. The other major part is Learn to be Considerate of what is his life, and not just what she wants him to do for her life. this seems to be the hardest part for many women to grasp, because they continually want to change him, and regulate him, and place demands on how and what he should do, and when he should do it, and to what level she expect "she" wants it done. If women can over-come those selfish aspect, they not only will make their life less stressful, by expecting and then becoming anguished because he does not bow and bend to ever expectation to meet with her demands of how she has dreamed his role to fit in her life, she will learn how to fit her life in with his. The women who learn these things, seem to be the women who also find they have longevity in their relationships. They also don't become the women, who are left alone, with the standard song, of saying "he would not do this, "he did not give me this", and "he would not change", and "he would treat me this way", or "make me feel this way"... ( all those phrases symbolize 'expectations", "demands", and are often followed up with "ultimatums", which generally lead herself to start telling him, how the relationship is not going to work, but she never stops to think, What she is saying is because he did not become the full circle puppet, she is choosing to shut down and pack and go. and that in the over-all tells how much and which ways she probably badgered him to become like her personal puppet), but it just may well tell how 'selfishly engulfed she is. Some women listen to other women tell her 'what she should expect, and what they think she should be getting and how much of something she should be demanding, and woman foolishly listen to this cycle of garbage among themselves, as they each trying to claim themselves and each other, some Cinderella fantasy being, instead of simply being a female person who is woman enough to appreciate and be considerate and be able to accept appreciations and accept being considered. More women throw away love, by trying to have some Cinderella story, or trying to play a role as if she is some fairy tale of the princess seeking to be won over by some act of fantasy styled chivalry. Equally so, it shows just what points she shut down on learning how to be appreciating, and at what points she stopped being of considerations. Many Men want women as simply wanting them, most could care less about how much money, or how much success a woman, or what kind of popularity she seeks to claim. those things mean far less to men when he is choosing women. where as those things about men, probably mean more to women, when she is looking at men, than anything, because the women who see men as simply a person, generally does not care about his success level, nor his money, an those women are able to stay in a cycle to appreciate and be considerate because they see him more as a person, than as some accessibility and some means to get compensations. Unfortunately man women today are success junkies, until they are satisfied with nothing, and nothing can they even think to be satisfied with, they see power, money, and status by career obsessions, Its so predominating today in society, many woman have lost the value point of even giving birth to offspring's, they want money, power, status and sometimes fame or they want to be and have the means to shop and buy stuff, as the measure of what they seek. some toy with men, as long as it is like some novelty that she can utilize or if it connects them to some status circle. unfortunately, this too is something that some men are guilty of equally so. But; when it all comes down to the simplicity of relationships, life is nothing more than man and woman, learning how to be appreciating of each other as persons.. Some don't find this truth until age become to strip away their external claims, some don't learn it until life knocks them on their butt and strip them of everything, and some don't learn it at any point. And those are the life long "user's" that dominate the landscape in any and every country on the globe. but the people who learn also learn, the value of what is a "helpmate'. and when they accept what that means, they learn better to simply love, as appreciation and consideration of persons, one unto another, and for and of each other. if you claim you want love, then learn first and foremost, how to 'appreciate and how to accept being appreciated, then you may well learn too how to be considerate and how to accept being considered. if you can't learn those simple things, you probably won't learn very well how to love nor how to share loving. women who think they can control relationships with sex, the on and off bartering of it, make more a fool of themselves, because they find they are continually measuring themselves by other women and what they think they can manipulate with the on and off sex games. but the women who learn to share sex as a human being, who not only does so with appreciation and open to be accepting of being appreciated, and being considerate to be pro-active, and being open to accept pro-active considerations in how sex is shared, are woman who find they have a more enriched realism about sex, rather than the 'low lack of drive for passion" they find within the barter cycle games, that so many women use sex to engage. |
