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"the situations" .... Will love survive ? the website is interesting but in some ways, contrary to what people claim they are about. Many talk about how nice and how understanding they are, and some about how educated they are and what their degree is and etc. But what it comes down to many times is, pageantry of various sorts, and then the search for romantic fantasy and the ability to get taken care of. People wonder why they don't learn anything about each other. Many of the women are generally a trip when it comes to personal realism, unfortunately, because many only want fantasy more than reality. instead caught up with some Cinderella story illusion... as long as its all about their fantasy; sadly not all but a great many, could care less about what his fantasy is, it only matters if its easy and will lead to getting her fantasy met without much effort or giving of anything if she can avoid giving it. Try to talk with them about anything beyond 'embellished materialism and some type of pageantry in life', and the fold up and shut down. some are in love with their own look, and nothing matters except how much they can use it for pageantry of various sorts. the sad part is, when age comes and take it away, so many become bitter, and some become angry about what they think they should have gotten but did not get. some become angry because they could not find someone to worship them, and some just get angry because they could not control situations with whims and attitude. Talk about Bs, and patronize them, and they become interactive, but when one meet them, the minute the man does not talk about what she wants or what she feels is her drama, she will tell him, that he does not listen, or that he does not communicate. It kinda goes back to what EZ, in the magazine says, "I'm simple. I give the women food, clothes, some snacks, and the remote control and she gives me pleasure and little attitude. Life is simple. They are happy and I am happy. what seems to interest many women, seems to be more about how much they are patronized, and if someone is willing to bend over backwards to give them stuff and act as if he will allow her to be his personal dictator of what to think, how to feel, and to ration sex to him based on how much of what she expects, of which he provides. and most of all, how much money can they amass. or what status title can they acquire. What it generally all leads to is "a ride on the divorce merry go round", or "the sing a sob and claim hurt, because they were not worshiped', and the string of broken relations, and the dating merry go round, that amounts to collecting free dinners, to sit and pass judgments without self involvement to communicate or relate as simply human beings. The simplest love may well be found, if a man can find a woman who is less about materialism, and less hung up about thinking her looks should get her this or that.. and find one who is actually a person that has a sense of care, and a true and honest will to share. Now, just where that might be found, may remain the big mystery of time. To find a mate who is capable of loving, first one must find one that is expressive within sharing what is "care". |
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Even as a kid I remember hearing men and women both talking about "if a man wants a real life of hell, then pursue a woman's external beauty, and he's sure to find it. But if he wants a woman to share with, look for character. That is probably even more true today, than it was many years ago, because pretty women and materialism, seem to be interlocked into a weave, that is becoming more and more tightly woven in this day and age. It's sold like a commodity, but it comes with a repossession clause, that spells out a list of maintenance up-keep expenditure, demanded. Even among the celebrity as well as the working class, it's a simple nightmare, it's such a trip, that today, people plot to rip off by divorce grabs, or even to wipe out the other, for insurance proceeds, and some even pop babies, for the guarantee of child support and alimony. People communicate less about anything, and fight about everything. the current stand off attitude of women, and the mental measure for material pursuits, make people unable to even share a cup of coffee and a kind word. today, dress some women in new clothes, and they earn a few dollars, one may encounter a level of arrogance and contemptuous demeanor, that is beyond what even could be found among animals in the wild animal kingdom. Cover some in make-up and other costumed things, and they become self deluded to want to be treated above the simplicity of human common courtesy, they want to be praised, and worshiped, and some become so self elated, they think they are doing a man a favor just by speaking. It's no fluke that many men get with some of these women, and within a short time, he has to get away, just to preserve his own sanity. some stay and find the cycles of conflict over times takes a toll, and he then has to get away, to remain sane and not become bitter from the reality of the constant bickering cycles. Some men, try and dominate as if he is a dictator, and in those situation the woman has to get away to maintain her sanity, some become jealously possessive, until he stifle the expressions of the woman and she has to get away just to be able to breathe freely. some men, think they have a servant, and some women have to get away just to keep from being made into a slave. And in the whole of it, "people fail to communicate", they play the allure game, of he's hot, and she's hot, and find out that delusion get's both of them "burned"..
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Glad you read it with an open mind to grasp the realism(s).. "Thanks"..  because very frequently, many women only read with a ready contempt, of thinking themselves perfect, and the controllers of relations, until they not only miss the points, they block their own mind from learning, growing and changing and fail to develop to become better mate potentials.
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