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*perceptions - "the views" Interesting things, while talking with a young woman, she made a statement that is not often heard spoken by many women.. she said, "her being a pretty woman, may have hid the fact of the guy as being an arrogant person, when he talked to her. because he did not act that way when relating with her. As we discussed a situation that happen in the media, and we were talking about *perceptions people have about others. "Some people who knew the guy in general, had said the guy involved was arrogant, but the woman said, he was not that way with me, but she said it is probably because I'm a woman and I'm pretty. she recognized, the discerning point, within views and perceptions, based on such things,"as being pretty".. as how it impacts how people talk to a pretty woman. She said, and we agreed, that can be and sometimes is, a difference from how "some people" talk to men and/or women who may not be pretty or may or may not have money. Therefore, while discussing the elements from the result of the incident of topic, she said, he probably did not honor his word and may well have though he could use the image and position of power to dupe the girl, and then not come through on what he promised... the result he got hit with a sexual assault charge, and lost his job. 'We don't know the details because we were not a part of the situation, but what has come forth is, the ways of discerning the "perceptions" and how perceptions impact the minds of people about others.. and how that is of difference between women and men, as to how perceptions are influenced. by the distinction in a variety of interactive modeling people engage with one another, male to male, male to female, female to female, female to male, and then how much looks and money play into the scenario. This is such an interesting reality - * because, often time, the world women see, is sometimes different from the world as it is, especially if the woman is pretty or has money, or has money and is pretty, and this is something that is relevant whether she is dealing with other women, or with men. * because often time, the world men see, is sometimes different from the world as it is, especially if the man has money,is handsome and has money and this is something that is relevant whether he is dealing with other men, or with women. Not only when these variables are present, do people want to be sometimes with patronizing pleasantries, under these kind of scenarios, often times, they don't say to them, the reality they may think about a great many things, as not only men, but other women, have a more patronizing demeanor toward a pretty woman,handsome man, or a woman with money or a man with money, where as they may be more combative with women/man who are not as facial pretty as other women or a man is not has handsome, or the money equation is not present for man or woman. I think things may level out, the more people come to know each other as individuals. but so many times, if these things are not immediately present, people don't give each other the time to come to know each other. and this results to there being a lot of BS people, who are more surface level than they are with a sincere depth in their character considerations about others, or even with themselves. that's probably a big part of why there is so many "flakes within the site, as it relates to the shallowness of people" - and it results to a mass of "opportunist", trying to engage a pretense and then whine and cry they can't find love. they are not seeking love, they are seeking the illusions of sunshine weather good time buddies, whom they can gain a befits, and run like hell, if the clouds brings patches of shade in the relationship, and if rain clouds appear, they duck and run. but people don't even stop to respect the teaching of nature.. Nothing that glows in the sunshine can remain glowing, without moments of shade, and without rain which become a nourishing element, which give and feeds the life force and make it possible to glow in the sun, without simply withering away, as it would if there was only constant sunshine, and no rain. Because the same scenario happens between men, when one man is known for having money, other men seem to respond to him far different than they do to men who are not known for having money. and sometimes, it takes place between men, based on looks and over-all body size, We as a society are more visual about how we treat others, in first meeting, that we actually give acknowledgment to admit. But what matters, even in these type of initial casual encounters.. is the fact.. that people treat people with more realism, the more they get to know them as individual. Some women and man may not like a woman who has a pretty face when they get to know them as individual, and some men and woman may not like other men as individuals, when they get to know them beyond the image they project related to money. Often times, pretty and money, can be a deluding factor, for both men and women, and unto men and women. It may well be to the over-all to actually get to know a person, as an individual far and beyond what they look like, or what money they have. There is a guy I met, who is not going to win any looks contest, nor is he going to win any mistake for having a lot of money. but as a person and individual, he is one of the most considerate and giving individual, and a person who works hard with a sense of integrity about his work. Its amazing the depth of warmth he speaks about his wife, and the things he plans for them to do on weekends, even if its just watching a movie, he plans it out to select a movie they both like, they make it a pizza or a fish fry or something, which they can share in doing. he is often time, smiling about many things, and has a very positive mindset about family, and people in general. but beyond that he also, very smart about many things. I say all that to say this ; In this website, whether a person is image pretty or not, with money or not, if people actually used this site, to talk and get to know each other as individuals, many may find more successful relating in this site. It's also such an absurdity, for all the adult people on here, who can't develop to make and build relationships, for trying to look for some overly infatuated romantic delusion, when common sense should tell any and all, that this is not fantasy land, it is simply 'everyday people", who have to deal with daily reality of a very broad range of things, so, that kiss up game, and pretending that everything has to be a master entertainment activity or filled with some entertaining drama, to kcreate the illusion of some romanticized fantasy concept, and what often results is people, miss out on truly learning and knowing each other as individuals. Some play the game of trying to make sex determine everything, such as some trip and make a long list of delusion if they do it, and some make a long list of delusion to delay and avoid doing it, and the reality is still simple. whether you have sx or not, it still will matter, how openly you communicate about the everyday realism, of learning each other, without a list of test and measurements about based on how you envisage something based on some media hyped scenario, you see in a movie, or tabloid or some novel, or self generated fantasy concept. Some think pretty should get them a Cinderella story, and some with money think they can buy a Hollywood scripted sequence, and what results is people badger and beat each other down,about an illusion, and find confusion, rather than simply relax, and learn how to appreciate the one they are choosing. Some people think money will fix everything, and find they get lost in status more than actually enjoying each other in simple terms and things. and the minute the money situation faces challenges they can't stand each other. and make everything else seem like its the issue, when the matter is, they measured too much by what they were use to buying and how they were use to spending money. and if one or both loose their income, it gets even more of a disaster. the people who build their relationship by "learning each other", have more fortitude to ride out the ups and downs of money matters, they have learned to appreciate one another far and beyond wearing fashion name labels or eating in marquee places, they could possible continue to love each other if they were strapped and facing the brink of poverty.. Those people have learned to 'love each other as individuals", and they will always find a way to make it, because neither is too proud to do what it takes to make it work, both on communication as well as the labors it takes to keep the roof over their head. Today, so many are start struck, they can't even look back in their lives and see how maybe their parents or grandparents stayed together through challenges, because they actually found out how to appreciate each other as individuals, long before the media madness mentality, turned people into a mass of material and status junkies. and people turn the dating sites into shopping malls of fantasy. The chat rooms become nothing more than the same as if people war walking in a mall, flirting and making fun of others as they stroll along and pass by each other. and everyone is putting on the Ritz, trying to be more status and more elite than another, and all it becomes is a shopping event, where people play and flirt, and make fun and push pun at one another.. and they go home afterward, stressed and depressed, and deluded about what it actually means to communicate and relate. it comes down often times, to nothing more than people acting like aged , and then trying to play illusion of being grown up, but without the wisdom to know, the difference in a and an adults, is simply a sense of "responsibility", and that is about as well of, being responsible to think, communicate and get beyond superficial illusions, to actually see each other as individual and communicate to learn whom is the heart of each other. as with much else, these type of post, people get bored, because their want for entertainment and to be entertained is often times greater than their desire and interest to learn how better to grow in learning not only how to share and how to grow in living, but they are void of the depth of learning of love, beyond the emotional erogenous arousal of their hormones, in seeking to get their ego stroked.. by playing sxual enticement tactical games. many bang each other more for ego, than they even remotely have the concept to simply enjoy the pleasure of each other, and take care to give into the pleasure of each other to express the basic nature of shared appreciations, for the sake of their mutual enjoyment of the reality of each other. so as they touch each other, they want to control the other, and then they go into expecting obsessive compulsive disorder to dominate them into becoming obsessed, and then later, think the other owe them something because they let obsessive demeanor, over take them, and rule out the ability to communicate and rationally appreciate the full spectrum of each other; while maintaining a concept to improve their individual self within the interactive process. then they part - blaming each other.. and many remain, simply " at play"... whining when they fall down and skin their ego...  |
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I re-structured it a bit, hopefully it is more clear.. the second paragraph was discussing a situation where a guy lost his job behind a situation. when people were describing the guy, some people were saying he was a arrogant person, but the woman was saying he was not that way toward her, but after the situation of the incident that got him fired, she said, it is quite likely, that he was arrogant, after viewing the facts that got him fired, she said, that he possible is as people say, an arrogant guy. That was just a reference summary, to say, how guys relate to a pretty woman, is different many times than how he relates to other men and women in general who are not necessarily pretty. The rest of the post is discussing, the difference in perceptions people have about others, based on looks and money.. and further saying, that when people get to know each other as 'individuals", they can see each other more clearly, beyond the cloud of pretty look and/ or money.
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as to the guy we were discussing, it's a very sad situation for him and his family, regardless whether he was an arrogant person or not.. he just made a bad choice with bad circumstances within it, that got him fired.
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