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How much do you really understand about "Money" The funny thing about money is: when in general communities that have a functional level of money, they take better care of their community, their home and their individual lives. There was a time when communities that had much less money, kept their communities as best as they could, but today, in some communities, the lack of money is a curious thing. Priorities changed. People now may pay their cable bill before they trim their hedges or even cut their grass, they may pay the cell phone and home phone and internet bill before they fix a broken fence, even the want for a updated computer and flat panel television may come before maintaining a washed car, and the cost of having ones hair fixed is now more costly as well as basic attire. So, it cost money to meet the standards we have now placed in a upgraded list of basic in our lives. Therefore money become a necessary element, One cannot live in a city or generally any formalized community without electricity, gas, water. More than 100+ year ago these things were of less concern because they were not common to the average community. So Today, our list of basic has increased: Rent / Mortgage Electricity Gas Water FOOD Telephone Cell Phone - Cell Phone Service/ data plan Internet connection Laptop / desktop / pad Cable / Satellite Media Auto Cost FUEL Auto Insurance Increase Medical Insurance Increase Banking Fees Credit Card Payments Other conveniences we purchase with some frequency Morning coffee Sports Drinks Fast Food Dining Out Movie Rental/ Movie Downloads Grooming and Beauty Products and Services Gyms or Exercise Equipment Gaming consoles + Games Dry Cleaning Service other cost: care educational necessitates clothing and general other needs that have. More things: Second Automobiles Recreation Things Vacation Holiday Functions Birthday Things Household Things Air Conditioning Expense Furnishing Bed items Laundry Equipment General Maintenance Expense Clothing for specific occasions and functions Considering these elements which is our "new basics". money becomes a very necessary elements. If a woman wants to keep looking good, money become a component of her concerns, and if a man wants his woman to keep looking good, money becomes a component of his concern. So it is quite likely that women will consider the cost of things and pursue men who can be a support system to maintain the cost of these things. Because beauty is connected in so many areas of a relationship. Many women want their relationships to work, but for it to do so where she feels comfortable, she in many cases want to feel beautiful; so she does not have to feel challenged by the competition of women who can use their money solely for attracting a mate. while a woman with a relationship may have to use her money to help raise and sustain her family if there are involved. No longer is it basic "Food" / "Water" / "Shelter" General society is structured today for "Two Incomes" - which mean both people work and bring in income. One person working and two trying to live off of the income of one, something has to cut, or the one making income will have to generate more income. which then means they may have less time to be at home. Then this becomes a problem for the well being of the relationship. When both work, if they work the same shift, it may be easier, but if one is on days and one is on nights, then they loose something in the daily nature of time they have to share with each other. It may matter less as to who brings in more money, it may matter more that both bring in some money. If people want their relationships to work today, they both may well bring their mindset to accept both may well need to work. Or the lack of money may tear their relationship apart. In some cases, too much access to money without a responsibility as to how that money was attained can also tear a relationship apart. So, no matter how money plays a part, to get it, have it and utilize it effectively will always require some perspective of sacrifice in one or more areas of ones life and relationship. What people may well need to learn is one basic simple things. To sustain life, it requires Food, Water, Shelter& "MATING", Therefore regardless of their variables in their standards, they best make time to enjoy the sex of each other, not as some ritual, nor some duty, but as a basic simple "enjoyable sharing" _ the kinetics of sex, helps both balance their internal energy and it dissolve their stresses into pleasurable release, which become a mutual healing function of mind, body and spirit. they have to learn not only to have fun with sharing their sex with each other, they have to learn to communicate their emotional feeling by ways of sex, as well as their playful humor exchanges by ways of sex. It boost their individual esteem, but it also boost their unity esteem. It can diminish cravings for external material obsessions, because they can find some natural appreciations of self and their mate, by the feeling which lives within the sensual aspects of their sxual engagements. Sharing takes the power game out of sex, and sharing sex takes the ego illusion out of who makes more money or who has less money. So people just might come to learn more about the importance of "Mating", which is far greater than money in the wholeness of one sense of well being. |
