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Catch the Passion  A new year comes and we look back at the passions we missed and the passions we embraced. Within such, we find much which brings us to where we stand today. May the New Year bring us an improved capability and ability to 'Catch the Passion"... embrace it and make it a positive thing in our lives. May we learn within it and learn through it... that we can become better in being ourselves. May we grasp the passion to believe in ourselves and our thoughts and act with grace in the things we do... Hold fast to the humor that laughter can be a part of our days, that we don't take ourselves too serious that we disable out ability to laugh at ourselves, while we equally so appreciate our lives in the fact we have the time, to enjoy the expressions within our lives. Happy New Year..... |
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Happy New Year...  
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Mr. Beyond, a most warm and sincere new year wish to you! I am a fan of your articles and I read them a lot, I believe I learn a lot in term of relationship and how men think of us as women, you remind me of a close friend I had who is of free spirit, very knowledgeable and intelligent . By the way, I do not think you make us women look or feel bad, I wish I have that kind of ability to tell how we women percept men... With the new year 2012 coming, put aside failed love and relationship, there are hopes and excitement ahead, wish all of us dream come true! Thank you, for your understanding of what I write and the objectives in why I write what I write.. "By the way, I do not think you make us women look or feel bad, I wish I have that kind of ability to tell how we women precept men... " Unfortunately many women read it and become anguished, rather than learn and consider the points being discussed. But I think if many women invest the thought 'to consider', not only would it help them make better relationships, it will help them be free in the acts and actions they engage within making better relationships'. ~~~~~~~~~~~~ Speak freely, your life, your thoughts and what you share is of value and may be of benefit to many. It is when men and woman exchange views of how they perceive each other and the things we do.. Some may sound harsh and some tragic, but the wise will learn, and the even caring will re-consider how they conduct their activities in their living. I would think many women would by clear choice not want to conduct themselves with a near covert prostituting mentality, but we have a historical system which is rooted in an era long ago. A time when women could not work and had to rely on men for everything. It simply morphed into the concepts of relationships and even how loving is regulated. It always takes the independent living and independent choice of individuals to step outside of the historical format. When people think more in terms of being "HELP MATES", they move themselves away from being like a hooker and john system. When we care more about each other, to be "HELP MATES" not only will we restore the true value of love and find a higher level of respect for each other, but our appreciations of each other will become to be based within compassion that bond us in ways that our care or each other becomes re-aligned with the original design of man and woman, as being the basis of sustaining life and making a better world. Women have to learn not to sell beauty, but to utilize it to inspire, invigorate their relations and let the basic of love be the connecting point, and not let the vanity of their beauty make them think they must sell it for material wealth, but learn better to share, as being an inspiring force in the connection with man and relationship. That is easily said, because temptations has always been the break point of many and changed the course of their lives. Sadly, may who sold beauty for material gain have been multitudes who have not only found lack of happiness in love, but have found a type of confinement that has in some cases stripped away the natural nature of femininity and its warmth within making relationships loving. Instead it has become nothing more than a cycle of manipulations in a dire quest to retain access to material matter. Much of the world is influenced by how women function, and until the time that women change, many things will not change. We will find more destruction within relationships and a further distance between man and woman, and remain reliant on material and monetary symbols as the basis of relating. Thus the family created offspring, becomes no more than a pawn system, in the cycle to retain material assets accessibility. Both women and men have much to share with each other and have a very broad spectrum of learning to work together. But first we may have to DE-emphasis how we allow sex to become a point of barter in the middle of situations we claim are about love.. This is where individual make the choice to change. We have to believe in our character and the compassionate concerns for the nature of one another and the disposition of love must become about person, more than about monetary focus. We may even then learn that sx itself is nothing more than the intimacy we share.. But equally so, the responsibility we assume when we engage. The element of pregnancy is something that must become a respected fact.. but equally so, not only because of disease, we may well need to practice safe sex, in the safety to not be irresponsible in situation that can bring a life, when one has no concern to be responsible for it. I do think the economic condition of the nation; will force people to become again with the responsibility likened to the early American. When families was the main concern of both men and women... It was less about material fancy, vanity and ego and status games. We sadly allowed the era of TV movie scripts make us unsatisfied with anything, and we let the vain nature of greed, the toying with sex as a game and a barter point, and greed went into the stratosphere.. This itself can and is a direct driver to the economic default of nations. When money became to replace love and greed became the only passion people embraced. it became more about how much wealth one could attain.. And in doing so, we watched daily as wealthy people can't make and maintain relationships, they can't love because their greater love is about the status, style, greed and vain imagery.. Until they build huge elaborate homes, that result to become deluded and sold during divorce proceeding. The same happen to small business; it happen to large business and every aspect of society, and what we have is a reflection in the economy which mirrors the imbalance in considerations between men and woman. This unfortunately is the outgrowth of life when material matter becomes more important and more ingrained in how people consider each other.. as they destroy the basis of love as being about 'CARE". Nothing in the world is more powerful than a man loving a woman and a woman loving a man... when we relearn that simple thing, we as people then can and will change the world. We will then and only then learn how to diminish greed as being the controller of our lives, and we will find how to turn vanity into the real nature of self respect instead of vain consumption. We will learn how to change our bartering mentality between men and women into a support and share mentality... Unfortunately..we'll probably crash the nation as a empire, before we re-learn the value of love. Take China, it kept family as number one, until it changed to become a capitalist system. Now people don't marry, people divorce and money become the love of their lives.. They may well look now, and regress back to re-adopt their sense of family and love as their premier concern. We have to become 'THINKING PEOPLE"... this itself is a very big challenge, because we have become a society that is lost in the chase of 'BREVITY' and CLICHE. We may need to consider much.... Happy New Year to each...
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Certainly what you say has much merit and many situations of such exist. "some men desperately pursue money no matter how this is going to impact their health and moral standard, even the whole process of pursuit of money make them fat and ugly and older" , this truly is a issue globally, and has caused a great many tragedies in the lives of many people. Every time I hear about some A--Hole paying himself 10...100 million a year as CEO, all I see is a over inflated CRIMINAL, nothing anyone can do as a hired job for a public company, should be paid that kind of money. they result to destroy families, companies and stupid investors are too ignorant to protest this madness. yes, there are many men who don't relax enough in the bedroom to allow women to open up and show and share her creative side.. both man and woman should not make sex some 'objective based goal' as if they have to be some type of performance junkie... many people do not know how to relax and simply enjoy the sharing of stimulative exchanges. there is far too much focus on an erection... by both the man and the woman, and far too much judgments passed based on erections.. when it is not always necessary to have a full erection for a man to enjoy being stimulated. Both men and women fail miserably at understanding that very important fact. some men are too dominating and does not understand that leadership has two components, one must be able to follow as well as they are able to lead.. and learning to follow within relationships is not a sign of weakness but a indicator that there is strength within the role of family leader. young women can be foolish, and older men can be foolish along with them, equally so, the same can be true of older women... people need to learn the basic simplicity of 'COMMUNICATING".. and get off the power games and the dominate aggressive roles and the passive aggressive role play.. Men and women are equally responsible for this situation. 
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you are quite smart in the expansive understanding(s) of these things.. it translates into deeper understanding of the natural nature of relating... If people understood this more, rather than getting lost in their "jousting mentality" when it comes to such things. "They'd be less quick to claim love is gone, and they will be far less likely to claim they have lost that loving feeling". Unfortunate as it is, many people never grow beyond the school yard drama and ego speak about such things, and they carry on their entire lives, in a circle of self defeat, chasing a level of drama, they don't have the patience to indulge in a natural way and experience in the comforts of patience interchanges. Pleasure is a power that has the ability to lead the confused, consume the weak and give refuge to the fearful... But it equally so enhances the world of the wise, and inspires the lives of those who embrace that wisdom learning.
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