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what can be learned .. It's interesting what the average woman can learn from private workers... one is: When the woman choose a man and make decision to be with him, be proactive about sx, to be self expressive in sxual motivations and to be creatively expressive when engaging the acts of sxual functions. a knows how to turn on for sx without a laundry list of criteria that clogs up the act and functions of engaging. Most of all to be independently and mutually responsible with the agreement to engage AND independently and mutually responsible within the act of engaging. A private workers. is not second guessing the act after it's done, a private workers.is not holding back on being interactively engaging, nor is she waiting on the man to make the first move. She is less reluctant in her giving and does not mind relaxing back to receive. She is not resentful of the man enjoying the pleasures in a relaxed manner nor is she resentful of the pleasure he may experience. A is less interested in judging his performance but more interested in providing and engaging the stimulation to arouse and flow with how he performs. if the 'tower" falls, she enjoys him in the state of the moment and continues to stimulative acts with a sense of feeling as the flow of arousal rise as well as when it may relax and fall, the flow of the acts is what become the tone of the engagement... the aims in satisfactions become as much mental as well as physical... Thus the cycle of assurance that a desire for repeat encounters is created within both..... ( She may be happy to insure that he will patronize her services again and that she left knowing she had a happy experience, and he is happy to know that the experiences was satisfying and he left happy) they come to the result of liking to hook up with each other. The difference may be ,, the private workers. wants to be compensated in direct terms of cash, where as in relationships, many times (some of) the woman wants to be compensated in favors and gifts, and some are simply appreciative of the act of sharing and expect no residual compensation. ... the agreements have understanding, and the act has consensual participation. This functions within the understandings of the agreements. It happens because of mutually effective "communication". One matter is: the private workers. does not impose obligation, where as the other woman who is not a becomes focused on how much of obligation he will agree unto. sadly sometimes it results to be more about the obligation than about the sharing, and in some cases with the it becomes more about the money than about the open flow of sharing.. In both cases.. eventually - the situation will be less desired and less fulfilling and will cease to be one that is enjoyed. So goes the saying - be a private workers. in the bedroom and a lady in the world...and a wifely mate in the rest of the house. Now, what does love have to do with it. Love is the over-all feeling one has for another, the care, the appreciations and consideration one feels and works to share and show unto each other in the general nature of their relations with a inspired longing to be and share together their living experiences. The more people explore the concepts, the better chance they may have to sustain a relationship. More relationship ends in the bedroom than any other place within the homes of people relationships. people bring in too many judgments, and too much criteria and wrap it within too many conditions. then comes from such madness is the reluctance, the resentments and every other negative energy driven demeanor, until the sex becomes driven by more resentment than desire to simply share in the pleasures of each other. Then people warp sx into an obligation of duty, about anything and everything. Such as simple stuff that generally comes to pass until they being it in the bedroom and support it with negative energy. yet they drag it in the bedroom anyway and result to screw up their own relations, as well their sxual indulgences, with reluctance. Because of simple things such as, one did not take out the trash, or one did not run bath water for the other, to even contempt because someone left a dirty glass in the sink, to the craziness of who did not show up 5 minutes early for something, or who did not answer the cell phone before it finished its first ring. This is the crazy ways people destroy relationship, by destroying the joy in their bedroom sharing with these attitudes. This may be where people should realize … what love has to do with it. Making love creates its own realism… don’t cloud it with other stuff. People should learn to f#%* and be happy and be thankful they have the health, and the ability to share desire and feel pleasure, and deal with the other areas of their life as a self responsible series of activities where they can and do appreciate assistance, but if its assistance not forth coming, they can be self responsible and get what they want done and still have a sense to share with their mate the experiences within living and leave the trip making stuff out of the bedroom. If love is why you chose to be with the person, then don't cloud it by bringing crazy stuff in the bedroom... If you can't enjoy the sharing of sex without the other crap over riding the situation, then you know much about why your relationships fall apart. Stop pimping each other.... you'd probably have much more enjoyment in your sharing if you share like a private workers. and a john, and not try to be the of each other. Especially in the bedroom !!!! 
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For the women who want to keep the man, it may be to her benefit not to make sex a gambit nor a contention, nor surround it with conditions and criteria beyond the simple point of both insuring 'human respect and personal considerate appreciative regard for and of each other is within the basis of what they share in the bed room. with the overt desire to please and be pleased in the act of sharing with each other. For the man he may concern himself with leaving his judgments outside the bedroom door, equally so, the same for the woman. The paradox of it all continues.... to confound many... The man seldom choose the hooker for long term relationship and making family, because he knows that her aim is connected to money and sex is a tool to get it. so she becomes good at engaging sex, but poor at making any commitment to any one person. Many women become good at making a commitment to one person, but become poor at sex, because she is too worried and conditional about attaching criteria to sex as a means of re-confirming obligation to commitment. Under both scenarios, when sex become used as a tool... it does not make the bonds that people can make when it is shared by the simple appreciation of man and woman; in choosing to share appreciating and indulging each other for pleasurable engagements of sexual activity for the simple reason of liking each other..
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I think they come down in commonality to being about "considerations" - and learning to be of more willingness to "respect far above and beyond , more than one expects" many people today have lost the capability to appreciate the simplicity of sharing sx... as many have become extreme in selfishness, today there are women addicted to toys, as a choice to avoid sharing openly and freely the passions of sxual enjoyment with men. Contempt, Expectations and Fears, Reluctance and Resentment has created a fast rise in homosexuality, and today more and more women are chasing women, but unaware that it is not a matter than sex is better with a woman, it is a matter the women engage other women with a 'want to enjoy the act to give and a want to enjoy receiving' - they never stop to realize that the illusion of their assumption that it is better.. misses the point, that they allow themselves to be better at relaxing, and ceasing to let expectations be more dominant than appreciation. It's as simple as going to dinner.. a woman will go to dinner with another way and have not a second thought about paying for both, but when they go to dinner with a man, they expect him to pay for both. when women meet men and they talk, she is so busy judging and weight every word he says, until they don't realize they themselves are not saying anything. It comes down to "attitude", and today the attitude women have about sx with a man is selfish and arrogant and they have the delusion they are in charge and want to wield a arrogance as if they are doing him a favor, rather than relaxing and sharing something. The women who have learned this and learned to change, are generally the women who not only can find a man, but they know how to appreciate him and they are less likely the woman who will loose or be unable to keep a man. When the tonality of mentality in women function with arrogance, resentment and contempt and filled with expectations and acts of use, abuse and manipulations as it relates to sx, not only is the relationship doomed, but when the mass of women function in such ways, society is lowered to a cut-throat environment, the warmth of human male and female relations is damaged and women become untrustworthy and unstable. They become a form of being vicious, and result to become like destroyers, in search of builder, so they can find something to destroy. Look back at any society, when the women are appreciative, considerate and has grace and consideration in their demeanor, those societies flourish. Men in this site are gravitating to asian women, because they have a folklore delusion that Asian women are still appreciative, considerate and act with grace and considerations in their demeanor.. But this is based on folklore, because today, Asian women are in many ways influenced by the western modeling of woman, they are contentious and full of expect and engage in manipulations and chase materialism as does many women from any other place. The proof is that the divorce rate is continuing to escalate in the Asian nations, and the minute the women earn an income and can pay their bills, they do all they can to avoid making relationships or getting married, and today.. the blessing of motherhood is something at a point of near being detested by more and more women.. Because they are high on their selfish aims, selfish conquest and the vain ego of themselves. It's truly a sad reality in time and life when so many women have lost the regard of what it is to be grace filled and considerate, appreciative and considerate. and they get in bed and rate sx as if it is some competitive sport. many of the women who have reached 40 began to learn to be different, but the question is did they truly learn because they value grace and considerations or did they feel forced to change, because their bodies changed and their faces changed and they are not with the illusion of being able to play and pimp any man ? I'd prefer to believe they changed because they come to respect being graceful and take pride in being a considerate person, and has a deep appreciations for the honor of sharing truthfully with sincerity...
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good comment Woaini... only if people would actually heed the information... instead some sit silent and other will come up with some crazy reason to deny it and still others will find some way to attack the truthfulness of such simplicity. .
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Men want women to have "a natural and non material" self inspired appreciation of and for him. equally so, men are far more happier with women who don't make sx a bartering game, nor does he want to engage with women who use it as a conditional pimping tool to try and manipulate him.  If women learn nothing else about men, they truly should learn and respect these simple fact.. she will find her relationship will be far more rewarding in all aspects. If he is with a woman," he wants to get some" she should realize it and stop pretending she does not know this and stop making game about sex, and know, that yes he wants it and he wants to get it frequently. but he is less likely to want to get it frequently if she surrounds it with a lot of games, attitudes, conditions and criteria...
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yes, both man and woman are materialistic, but the trick is to find a moderation level were it does not become the over dominant theme of ones life, to the point they will abuse and mis-use others to acquire material things. Yes, people will and people do look for advantages, there is a thin line in that pursuit as to where it may or can become use or abuse. We always have to deal with the give and take in a spectrum we can live with. The same goes for games, everyone has 'game", in the game of life itself.. the rules are as many as there are people, but... As an individual we still may be better off to seek the "Golden Rule" - DO UNTO OTHER AS WE WOULD HAVE OTHERS DO UNTO US. There is a fear factor involved in the site, whether it is at the level of coward or how much of a cowardliness is involved may be somewhat subjective depending on who is measuring as well as how they measure. many participants in this site, are reluctant to speak, whether its from fear, or what apprehension of why they have apprehension, we can but we can't be sure if its cowardliness or simply just a fear riding on the back of a reason. The over all is that daily each individual can become to over-come challenges, by working through, facing the challenge or simply overcoming the elements that make up the challenge. We have the grand opportunity to explore, experience an express in our functions within and of living. Hopefully each step bring positive growth and better understanding, which may lead to greater unity. if not unity, at least a cooperative spirit within being interactive and engaging of and with each other.
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people may be free wheeling with their money, but with the sincerity in their regard, people can be 'stingy" and some can be "cheap" .. some make games of many sorts, not always to gain something from someone else as much as they may make games to protect themselves from their own fears. ( that becomes a very detailed and intricate investigation all on its own), but there is no need to become consumed by that inquiry.. Because joyful sharing ease the fears within many relationship, shared appreciation diminish not only the fears in ones self, but diminished the fears in the one they are sharing with. Sadly, we have not yet many of us learned the real beauty within relating, nor that which is within sxual sharing. many people have yet to learn how to 'relax within the engagements of sensual interchanges'... Remember the blog: 'dynamic dimensions hidden within patience it has relevancy to the ongoing discussion; but, also there is more within that many may consider to help eliminate their reluctance and their holding a reserve thinking something better is coming ... by first learning and coming to term with their own Your individual viewpoint . then one generally comes to the questions within questions . We are by nature and human function, thinking human beings, and when we try loving in a mindless manner, we may breed more doubt from our obsession than we can create assurances through our communications. because our feeling are an ongoing impaction upon our attitudes... Therefore, always is love work, and work is love, and through such working we find the improvements within our loving. One cannot be lazy about love, nor lazy within love and hope to have a wonderful loving relations... Nothing is free.. everything comes with the responsible function in how we engaged to interact and responsibility within the actions we engage.
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I think vanity drives many women to lust for other women.. its the closest she can get to trying to find a clone. women love to think its easier, but many women find out they either become like tyrant toward the other women, dominant or overly submissive... and for many this last about as long they are infatuated with the intimacy.. some women get hung up on the conquest, because dominating other women makes her feel powerful, but it changes her in the ways that later she find herself hardened in ways she did not plan. or the other woman who is submissive finds herself weaker and unable to stand up and be her independent self when she is around women she envies, or her vanity makes her infatuated with. Much of the instability in the world today... can be compared to the ways of the women in society today... Look around.. and consider these things and see what becomes visible... Too many women want to be in control either dominantly or they wan to be submissively dominating. there are many many women who have a very hard time growing beyond being selfish, and there are many who have a even more difficult time coming to term that the illusion that sex gives her a power beyond what is reality.. At that point many become furious and the evil then has no limits and no concept of compassion, because it's in a dire challenge then to try and validity the illusion that the face and body will allow her to dominate and dictate.. Sadly, some in this loop are so wrapped in the game of it all, they don't awaken until they hit bottom and find out that the illusion was a self delusion... Many women are like water, they will spread themselves so thin until they seem to evaporate the minute anything heats up. the easiest thing in the world for woman to be is homosexual, but it takes much more for the average women to face the need and truth it takes effort to make things work and it takes learning to be of respect and consideration to be with a man .. Unfortunately, there are many women, who think the word love is suppose to mean, someone is suppose to give her something and do stuff for her. Men and women are very foolish to simply trust a women without merit... women turn on and turn off like a lawn sprinkler.. many people are afraid to say it, but the part between many women legs control their life.. and for some women, they are only congenial in sharing time, based on who has their hand on the button or who she gets the fancy to pursue getting them to put their hand on the button. The women who grow beyond generally are able not only to have a good relationship with men, they have longevity within the relationships and they are not on edge everyday looking for the next thrill.
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With many women, there is the level of proclivity for bi-sexuality which runs very high in many women, no matter where in the world. tThe % of women who have a strong proclivity for bi sexuality is probably much higher than the women who do not have that inclination. In some ways we have a society which promotes it by the depictions in media, advertisement and the novelty it is pushed in film and even in how some women are raised. maybe it signals more that a combination of two women and one man may well be the model.. For one, one woman will keep the other woman in check as to the wild manipulative manner that many women have adopted as their tactical methodology of dealing with life and men. but with two women and one man, each woman will keep the other in check and limit the manipulations of each other. It will in an inadvertent way force each of them to be more honest and more sincere in how they deal with the man. It is for sure each woman will tell on the other, when they see each other trying to be maliciously manipulative toward the man. Maybe because by nature, there are more women than men born everyday, two women and one many may be the master design, more than it is for there to be one man and one woman. the real trip with men and women is reverse of what many in society think... it is not the man that must put the overly effort to win a woman, but a man has to keep a woman wanting to win him... because if he does not, she will take him for granted and become like a tyrant without constraints. It's not hard, all the man has to do is simply not become a push over to give her everything she whimsically thinks she wants.. Because many times she does not want it, she only wants to see how quick he will fall apart trying to give it to her.. And the minute she see's him going crazy trying to give her stuff, she will began to loose regard for him in a respectful manner, and see him as some source of convenience. If there is no competitive atmosphere, women will quickly create one, because they like the conquest and the creation of situation where she can play the win/ loose game, where she is determined to win, even when she know she manufactured the situations.
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homosexuals is often depicted as some situation of non stop entertaining atmosphere.. and people think it will suddenly make their life connected to this entertaining spin. Most women fashion advertisement is pushed to promote and subliminally depict female homosexuality, because for one many of the people who create the fashion and the fashion advertisement are homosexuals, so they sell and promote what their proclivity is. many people are sucked in by the portrayals, as well as the massive volume of media push of homosexuality. These designers and advertisers know they can generally sway women any way they want by how they depict and present media advertisements. When advertisements depicted men and women and men and woman sharing and engaging with each other in the captions.. then women were more motivated and inclined to seek out men.. Many women are led like sheep by advertising, especially what they see in fashion magazines and women chasing women in movie depictions. once they engage sex, it become like a drug, because sxual habits and pleasure is and has its own forms of potential to be addictive.
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