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The best ways to Find Love starts in the most obvious place, but often the most over-looked place. Within one's self !! Yes, it starts with a smile, which spring up from deep within your own heart, which spread across your own face, it moves to bring joy in your voice, and feeling of aspiring hope within your motivations. What makes love happen is the sharing of one's self !!! you get a glimpse of someone whom attracts, but it is the smile within you, that brings the beauty of you up for share. Rarely does love become connected from a frown, nor from a scowl nor does it come from the anger one displays. A smile is far more than shaping your mouth in the formation that generally accompanies a smile, but the true smile shows all over your whole of self. The fake smiles that fade before the person passes from your view, is something that makes you far less than you could be. Because a real smile will always linger, even when the person has momentarily passed from your view. When the smile comes from within, it creates within its own existence, considerations, appreciations, kindness and expresses a joy that is in it's own ways undeniable but more generally a contagious feeling which expands far beyond ones basic physical reach. |
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my loving(s)... always start from within myself... in past experiences, yes, when I've seen women that I want to share with, the natural instinctive functions goes something like this - I see her, the sight and thoughts that accompany brings a smile. 
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How interesting it is for a site that many claim they are looking for "love', yet. The silence is astounding. If loves does not begin within ones own self. Then there is little hope that love will be found outside of ones self. Fantasy may prevail, and illusions may delude one, but if it is love that anyone seeks, it must be embraced within self. Many people claim they cannot find love, (it may well be because) they surround and constrict themselves with UN-real criteria and fantasy illusion of prerequisites born of media hype and celebrity delusions. Many people are looking for the Photoshopped images in real life, when trust and fact is the Photoshopped imagery is designed to make people unsatisfied with themselves, so someone can see another product or make people keep yearning for what is not practical nor realism. All the while, the time that loving can be shared, passes and people become jaded by delusion and lost in fiction.. External delusion, illusions of some exotic entertaining life, and conjured delusions about what image presents... makes many people not even see each other as individuals nor as the real life person they are. So people not only mis-use others, but they neglect and abuse others kindness, and insult the considerations given to them by others. Not much truth is allowed to exist, as people go on dates and judge each other by some media created fiction and the selfish want to be entertained as if someone must be a clown performer for them. some put on fake giddiness and suddenly turn into a dictatorial maniac. Too many today, go berserk if two or three people compliment them, and many become self absorbed abusers, the minute they think someone likes them. But, what probably becomes the worst of disaster which prevents many for finding the will and the motivation and taking the actions to connect and relate with others in the spectrum of sharing a loving nature communication and relation is ' the fantasy of 'shopping for better"... when better is often based on some external illusion or material obsessions. No matter how much we elate ourselves within our own selfish adoration's, truth and fact is there is no perfect anything, and that includes ourselves. Pretentious and misguided fiction of judging others as unworthy because we say we don't like this or that, as if everyone is suppose to like everything we like is a chosen sense of 'bigotry', that often leads us to understand less, and therefore close ourselves off to learning how to respect, therefore we close ourselves from the potential to learn to appreciate. If you are flawless, then you probably have a set of wings attached to your back and a natural halo around your head.. and its quite certain if you do a re-check in the mirror with your eyes open, you will find neither do you have wings, nor a halo... it might being you down to reality, that you too are not without flaws in personality, character and the functioning of your life.. It just might diminish yourself consumed vanity... therefore, opening you up to the potential to possible learn to share loving exchanges with others. Now if ignorance prevails, then you may then have your own answer as to why loneliness continues to be your best friend and your life remains without someone to share your life and times with. So in simplicity, it may be easier to learn to smile from within . It might even become a part of your being to learn to laugh at yourself and the folly that is equally so a part of your living... then you might just find that sharing the loving nature of communication with others is far easier to enjoin and enjoy. Sadly, many can't share the act of sx, without attaching a mindset of selfish delusions, rather than paying attention to their won lack of self motivation to give and share, and getting off the high horse of seeking vain self absorption to the point, they make themselves unable to relax and accept the acts and actions of appreciations being shared. Some are too busy judging and rating the other, until they fail to realize they are doing less giving and sharing themselves. Still others think, just getting undressed is suppose to make another lose their mind and become like a smitten fool. It might just be that when many wake up and open their eyes another. by their delusion of seeking some concept of a fantasy as if they themselves think they are some God to be worshiped and of control of another. Sadly, some are so in love with themselves, until their vanity has made them consumed with self delusion by the look of their face or the shape of their ass.. and the resulting truths is, they have become in some ways a fool unto themselves, and deny the nature of sharing what is loving communications.. Because, they have become self deluded in their own vanity, until they are waiting to be worshiped. the works of learning to live and share, are continual and many.....
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