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Men, - Be wise in how you choose a mate - don't go on illusions and folklore Don't be confused about the way Asian women walk down the street and present an image as if they are IGNORNING everyone that passes. In their culture, "making eye contact" is a NO NO and showing public affection is also not something that is a commonality in their culture. One must look at the many elements of what is cultural ethnicity and the cultural norms within these varieties of ethnicity. within each there is a multitude of cultural tribes with a wide varying range of norms, In China for example there are - Quoted text from commentary posting: China is a large country noted for its dense population and vast territory. There are 55 minority groups in addition to the Han who represent 92% of the population. The defining elements of an ethnic group are language, homeland, and social values. 53 minority groups use spoken languages of their own; 23 have their own written languages. end Quote So be careful by just saying "Chinese", many people in China will be more than eager to tell you of the historical blends that make up their individual heritage, which is to imply - they won't accept a stereotyped summation of just being of China, they know they are of an ethnic mixture as being Chinese because of the Country Designation as member citizens of China , because there are also many mixture and blends of various groups and how they have merged and changed over the generations. The same for American, there are Irish, Other European, mixtures of African and every other ethnic group which exist in America and the world, and among whites the mixtures are endless as to the blend of cultures from around the globe. so, no fixed illusion nor fixed delusion will suffice to bring anything but mis perceptions based on folklore fantasy... YOU HAVE TO GET TO KNOW THE HONEST NATURE OF THE INDIVIDUAL  The general format as opposed to the way Western society is: Asian women could be considered insensitive and rude in public if interpreted by Western standards or it could be considered reserved, but either choice is perceived selectively non interactive, by their manner of acting as if they Ignore everyone out in public. where the western woman at times may even speak or give eye contact. but if she determines that you have wealth or status or may lend way to such, they will as will any woman of any ethnicity insure they give a glimpse of eye contact and will follow it with a manner of expression that conveys a flirt. Remember many of these women's families will assess her based on the wealth of the man she catches. their family will also have a negative expression if the man does not have the wealthy or status they expect their to bargain for. They may care less about how much they actually love and show affections to each other, but more about if that will bring wealth and status to the face saving aims the family pushes in their concern for social status and social image as it relates to social status. therefore many of these women will assess your material, financial and social status long before they will even think to consider sharing anything with you. Remember, the history of the society is women are used more to bring the secondary aim of wealth status to the family by being groomed to attract and pursue wealth, social status and material status for the family. they in some cases could care less about whom she loves, because they are more concerned with if she has attracted the status the family aims her to attract. Some Asian women have to pull and push away from their family, to choose love over being pushed and prodded to be a sort of gold-digger set to chase, wealth, status and material status. some women for the sake of love, have to HIDE their mate from their family, because they know the family may go stone crazy if she choose for love without first trying to get money status, material status and social status. They care less about the individual of her, and more about the family legacy and if their offspring brings wealth standing to the family image. Many men have found many challenges and many hardships in their relationships with Asian women, because of their demeanor of acting as if they are UN-concerned. but do not underestimate their ability to be 'calculating'... they already know that many westerners fall over themselves trying to be appeasing, and some Asian women will use that against you, by letting you trip all over yourself, and when you fall on your face, she will stand back and say.. I never agreed or said I would do this or that"... ( so don't be deluded by silence, it can be used a a tool of many sorts selectively and with great calculation ) and some go about seeing western men as foolish which makes some Asian women think themselves as being superior, by these contorted means. Westernized Asian women are different, they are more overt, and many Asian women who function with a street wise awareness because they know in the competitive environment of their cultures in their cities they have to be more self assertive and aggressive, be it to catch a mater or make a bargain with a potential mate . Divorce does not happen in Asian countries because all the women are some angels.. It happens because of the same reasons as any other place. part because of the women and part because of the men. Look around, much of the Asian society is rooted deeply in pursuits of status, material matter and social standing as to their wealth position. If you think they are not driven by this then you'd be sadly mistaken to ill consider this fact. No one is seeking to be poor, but some are not seeking to be wealthy only to be able to make do and share the care and responsibility of house and home... If you find this kind of woman, you may fare well.. but if you find one who is all about status, wealth, material matter and social clout, then you will find that not only will you be pushed with a force that may drive you to a height of frustration, you may get a very bad taste in your system for the ruthless manner of some Asian women, by and through their covert manners of submissive aggression. Asian men are very astute to this nature, and moreso today than generations before, because the divorce rate is very high when factored in reality terms. Many Asian women become degree hounds of sorts, they stake everything on it and they will filter out men whom they think his lack of or his holding of a degree will not produce the income they want for the status level they seek. Under this concept and demeanor, the Asian woman can be ruthless to these aims, if her sole objective is to bring what they call 'honor to the family, by catching wealth status, material status or social status. So, get to know the woman as an individual, or you may get caught up in something you have very limited awareness or understanding of, and it may have absolutely nothing to do with the love your seek or think you are getting. If the Asian man does not produce the money to give her the illusion of status, many of the today's woman will find a way to insure there is contention in the feeling that transpire within the relationship. To some degree that may be motivating but to a different degree it is sure to force and create a split and insure a divide. The sad thing for many westerners, they have an Idealized delusion about Asian women... Instead of understanding if you like the Asian look, then like it, but don't be assumed that being Asian has made her any different than other women, because she can be as ruthless as any women, and selfishly driven as any other woman, and don't assume them to be sexually submissive, they have a drive for sex that is no less robust than any other woman, nor is it any more heightened than other women of other ethnicity. If you don't bang them to their satisfaction they will get just as perturbed as any other ethnicity of woman. and if they get the mind that it is not as much as they want, they will find their ways to get more by their own means. This is the human reality... No ethnicity is more or less with the faithfulness of virtue than another, it is all about an individuals' choice of what they do. Sex was and is a big part of Asian culture, always has been and always will be, and no less than it is of any other culture... human beings are sexual beings. Understanding the nature of what is a relationship of and within ethnic groups is important regardless of what the ethnicity is and more so if that ethnicity is still a part of their mother land or if they are expats who reside in another land. Women are very good at role playing regardless of what ethnicity the woman is, but what you have to find out, what is the true nature of the "INDIVIDUAL" woman, and how willing is she to adapt to having a culturally "merged" relationship at and within heart... more than just in the physical image of two different cultures being together. |
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The quickest way for the downfall of a man from maintaining his integrity and identity as being a man, is to blindly choose a woman, and fail to grasp the understanding of the woman's cultural nature, and most assuredly what her heart aspires to as a foundational priority.. in selecting a mate. You better know what she values of you, and in some aspects and perspectives, what does she value you for.
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The Nation of China is a complex mixture of people in the Far Eastern Block of Asian cultures. China is a large country noted for its dense population and vast territory. There are 55 minority groups in addition to the Han who represent 92% of the population. The defining elements of an ethnic group are language, homeland, and social values. 53 minority groups use spoken languages of their own; 23 have their own written languages. Equality, unity and common prosperity are the fundamental objectives of the government in handling the relations between minority groups. China exercises a policy of regional autonomy for various minority groups, allowing minority group people living in compact communities to establish self-government and direct their own affairs. Achang ethnic group has a population of 33,936 (in 2000), gathering mainly in Longchuan, Lianghe, Luxi and Ruili counties in Dehong Dai-Jingpo Autonomous Prefecture in south-western Yunnan Province. Bai ethnic group has a population of around 2 million, 90 percent of which live in the Bai Autonomous County west of Yunnan Province. Blang people, with a population of about 91,882 (in 2000), live mainly in the Mt. Blang, Xiding, Bada and Daluo areas of Menghai County in Xishuangbanna Dai Autonomous Prefecture in south-western Yunnan Province. Bonan ethnic group is one of China's smallest minority groups. With a population of about 16,000, they mainly cluster in the area around Mt. Jishishan and Linxia County, southwest of Gansu Province. Bouyei (also Buyi) people, with a population of 2,971,460 (in 2000), are mainly scattered in the Bouyei and Miao autonomous prefectures in south Guizhou and Anshun. Chaoxian people, with a population of nearly 2 million, is mainly living in Heilongjian, Jilin, and Liaoning Provinces. Dai eithnic group, also known as Baiyi Eithnic Group, mostly lives in Yunnan Province. According to the statistic of 2006, there are totally 1.26 million Dai people in China. Daur in their own language means "pioneer". The Daur people can be found in Inner Mongolia, Heilongjiang, and Xinjiang. The 2000 statistic shows that Daur population totals 132,394. Deang nationality can be found only in Yunnan Province. Deang people are the descendants of Pu people. Dong people mainly live in Guizhou, Hunan, and Guangxi. The population of Dong ethnic group totals 2,960,293 according to the 2000 statistics. Dongxiang ethnic group, numbering about 380,000 in total, can be found mainly in Dongxiang Autonomous County of Gansu province with the remainder scattered in Qinghai, Ningxia and Xinjiang provinces. Dulong (also known as Drung) ethnic group is one of the smallest minority groups in China. With a total population of about 5,816, the Dulongs mainly live in the Gongshan Dulong and Nu Autonomous County in north-western Yunnan Province. Ewenki ethnic group has a population of 30,505 (in the year 2000) that is sparsely distributed across seven banners (counties) in the Inner Mongolia Autonomous Region and in Nahe County in Heilongjiang Province. Gelao people refer to themselves as 'Ling' or 'Jin'. Their ancestors can be traced back to the Liao people who lived in Guizhou Province about 2000 years ago. Hani ethnic group, with a population of 1,424,990, is one of the many unique tribes in Yunnan Province. Hezhen people has a population of 4,640, and mainly live in the Tongjiang, Fuyuan and Raohe counties by the rivers of Songhua, Heilongjiang and Wusuli in China's northeastern Heilongjiang Province. Hui people, with a total population of about 643,238 is one of China's largest ethnic groups. The largest residential area is the Ningxia Hui Autonomous Region. Jingpo people has a population of about 132,000 (in 2000) people. They are concentrated in the Dehong Dai-Jingpo Autonomous Prefecture in Yunnan Province in southeastern China. Jino ethnic group, with a total population of 20,899 (in 2000), resides primarily in Jinghong County of Xishuangbanna Dai Autonomous Prefecture in Yunnan Province. Kazak, with a population of 1,250,458, is distributed mainly in the Xinjiang Ili Kazak autonomous prefecture, Mori and Barkol Kazak autonomous counties. Kirgiz, with a total population of 160,823, is scattered throughout the southwest of the Xinjiang Autonomous Region. Lahu trace their ancestry back to the ancient Qiang people, who immigrated to present day northern Yunnan from northwestern China early in the third century AD. Li ethnic group, with a population of 1,247,814, mainly reside in Hainan Province, China's second largest island after Taiwan. Lisu, with a population of 634,912, mainly live in concentrated communities in Nujiang Lisu Autonomous Prefecture in Yunnan Province. Manchu, with a population of 10,682,263 (in 2000), are mainly distributed in Liaoning, Jilin and Heilongjiang provinces, of which Liaoning has the most Manchus. Miao ethnic group has a population of 8,940,116, mainly scattered in Guizhou, Hunan, Yunnan, Sichuan, Guangxi, Hubei and Hainan provinces. Mongolian, reputed as 'pearl in the grassland', have kept their nomadic living style for hundreds of years. 'Mongolian' originally was the name of one of the Mongolian tribes. Naxi (also spelled Nakhi or Nahi) mainly live in concentrated communities in the Naxi Autonomous County of Lijing in Yunnan Province. Nu is an ancient tribe that originally lived on the banks of the Nu and Lancang Rivers. Oroqen is one of the ancient ethnic groups in north China. Oroqen, means 'people living on the mountain' or 'people using reindeer'. Ozbek was named after Ozbek Khan, one of the local rulers under the Mongol Empire in the 14th century. Pumi was used to be a nomadic tribe living in the southern part of Gansu Province and the eastern part of Qinghai Province. Qiang ethnic group is one of the oldest tribes in China. They mostly inhabit hilly to mountainous areas of the Maowen County in the Aba Tibetan Qiang Autonomous Prefecture in western Sichuan Province. Russian in China are the offspring of immigrants from Tsarist Russia. Many of their ancestors migrated to border cities in northwest of the country at the end of the 19th century. Salar people's ancestors were the Samarkand people who migrated from central Asia to China during the Yuan Dynasty (1271 - 136. She nationality began to settle in the joint area of Fujian, Guangdong and Jiangxi provinces during the Tang Dynasty. Tajik language belongs to the Iranian Austronesian, Indo-European languages Phylum. Most of the people in China speak the Sekule language whereas a few of them speak the Waihan language. Tatar, historically named the 'Dadan', are descended from a branch of a Mongolian tribe, who used to inhabit the region near the Volga River. Tibetan is an old nationality in China who is mainly distributed in the Tibet Autonomous Region, Qinghai, Gansu, Sichuan and Yunnan provinces. Tu call themselves 'Mongguer', 'Chahan Mongguer', and other names. There are different versions regarding the origin of the Tus, but most people believe that the Tus evolved from the Tuguhun people in ancient times. Tujia people called themselves 'Bizika', which means 'native dwellers'. Although their name suggests that they are natives, their exact origin is still uncertain. Uigur have lived at the foot of Mt. Tianshan for several centuries. They used to colonize in the north and northwest region of China before migrating to the Western Regions (present Xinjiang). Wa people have a unique spoken language, which belongs to the Austroasiatic family. Xibe people, originated from different geographical and historical backgrounds, are most distributed in the northeast and northwest and have developed vastly. Yao ethnic group consists of hundreds of smaller subgroups. It is estimated that are about 300 Yao subgroups living in China, with differing traditional costumes and dialects. Yi people can trace back to the Qiang people living in northwest China. They later migrated south and joined the local southwest aboriginal and created a new group. Yugur originated from the Huihe people who were nomads around the Erhui River during the Tang Dynasty. Zhuang people's ancestors were a branch of the ancient 'Baiyue' people, who lived in south China.
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