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It's amazing how people avoid truths... Relationships are not that hard to make = each individual chooses how difficult they want to make it for themselves to find someone. We each make our illusions of being ultra special to the point that not only do we ignore things we can improve about ourselves, many times we deny that, it is - (we) ourselves... who generally become the biggest obstacle in our way, preventing us from making a relationship.. Opportunities are always present, but we often times don't want what is present, we want the ideals that have been crafted by media depicted compilation of images. It's unlikely that any of us can deny this simple truth..... But what's even more of a trip is: even when we consider someone, we start thinking about options. we start thinking about holding our reservations - and then we wonder why thing are not progressing in the current situation. Some people are able to make choices and believe in the choice they make... these people generally go on to have successful relationships. Many of us, are reluctant to make the choices for a multitude of reasons, and generally, those reasons have as much to do with us, as anything else. When I see people saying finding someone is hard... it's generally because they have set up criteria, that have built in denials of whom ever they meet. It comes down to the simplicity, of.. do we want a relationship or not ?  Because reality is simple, there are no perfect people and we as individuals certainly are not one who is perfect. When we truly want a relationship... each of us as an individual will create one. |
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thank you, the more we face, acknowledge the realism within living, and become honest in awareness with and of ourselves, the simpler our lives become. 
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11/20/2012 4:12 am |
i've been regretful for two times beause of the reasons above,yes it's true,i'm not a perfect one,yet i 've been expecting someone fits my ideal person term,so two big mistakes were made.and i 've also realized now that sometimes we should make much more efforts to gain the potential happiness.an old man on the site says as this''when you meet someone, your instinct will tell you if he is the right one,'' i should have trusted my instinct.so regretful!
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We all make many mistakes, but when it comes to relationships,... we really have to believe in the choices we make.. we have to accept that giving is the basis that will set us free to love.. then we learn to appreciate without measurements of what is given nor do we allow reluctance to diminish our joys of either giving or appreciating. But we have to be aware of our own self, and be honest with ourselves about the reservations we hold. when we want to blame the other, our first thought should be able to face up the 'reservations within our own thoughts'... because they have a big impact on what we express, how we express it, and what sincerity or lack of sincerity exist within what is expressed. sometimes we as people always think there is something better awaiting, and we can mess up many relationships.. When fact and truth is, our relationships will be what we invest in them, when we do so with our eyes open to see beyond our own fancy. Many of us can look back and see how and why our last or past relations broke up, but will we accept what we see. will we learn and grow and make the adjustment to reflect the growth. No matter how one deals with it, a relationship is always about the works of what it takes to love within living. and it certainly is a ongoing labor that requires the works of many sorts... when we deny that, then we can expect the failures that come to be.
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11/30/2012 5:05 am |
i've ever met a man with a child,my intuition told me he's a very good man,and maybe the right one,but my reason told me not to choose him because i want to find a single as i am and i'm uncertain whether i can be a qualified mother or not ,i missed him because of my hesitation,and now another one messages me,when i see both his photo and profile,i should say he is a good one,but he can' t give me some strong impression at the first sight as the first one did,should i give both of us a chance to learn more about each other or not?should i trust my intuition?
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it should be casual conversation which has no agenda, other than to communicate and find out whom each other is... make no assumptions and he should make no assumptions, but learn about how each other see and think about life 'in general'... No promises and not expectations.. Infatuation's lead to the exposure of factual reality, and if people make promises during their infatuation, they may find they don't like the facts that reveal themselves. Therefore, sharing communication as friendly individuals may lead to becoming friends, and that may or may not become more.. but at least you will have gained a friend it if becomes nothing more.
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12/1/2012 5:56 pm |
yes, i think you're right.i should give us a chance of communication and it should be no expectations. thank you for your suggestion.
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