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Slim figured women I think in many ways they certainly have to keep themselves healthy by a variety of means. They are agile in the various things they can do physically, and can be very neat if they put the care into maintaining themselves in both appearance, grooming manner and other things. Some are happy spirited people, some are bitchy and self absorbed and some are artistic and creative and some are stuck up and some are many various ways of how people can be. Why are so many slim figure women single and so many who can't make relationships work? What is an oddity in life is, many times the big women seem to be more openly friendly people and have the greater sense of humor. I don't know what it means, but often time if we look about our communities and society in general, the bigger women seem to be able to have longer lasting relationships and they seem to have a family unit that seems to stay together more than many of the slim and shapely figured women. "why is it' ? a lot of the bigger women don't seem to be on a continual hunt for the next best flavor of their fantasy, where as the slim women seem to be given more to being distracted from relationships by the temptations which they encounter. Do slim women rely too much on allure, where the bigger women seem to rely on developing a congenial character ? I wonder why many of the men with bigger women seem to be more content with their woman, where as many men with slim figured women seem like he has to be in a continual achievement cycle where he feels he has to give her more and more to keep her from running after the next things that comes along and temp her. ? It;'s unlikely that the slim women will respond and tell us the truths of why they are more flighty, but sadly the truth does seem to indicate they are far more flighty than the larger body women. It really seems in many ways that men seem to be more trusting in general of the bigger body women, than he is of the slim women. I see many men with bigger women, who would not dare to switch and choose a slim figured woman. some men even will not consider the slim figure women when he is looking for a settle down mate. but the slim figure women don't seem to help the situation because many have an aloof demeanor and one that comes across as if they convey to the guy, they think they are doing him a favor by being with him, and by covert means like to toss of the insinuation that they can go find someone else quickly. it seems to make them so much less trust worthy to so many men, until there are many men who simply don't consider them in a ways of relationships when he wants to settle down. Men with lots of money choose them, but often times, the relationships are very short lived and by the time its over, he can't stand the woman and wants nothing more to do with her. It's very odd, because some of them become overly fashion absorbed and some become overly status absorbed, until it become to be more of a detracting things, than of an attracting thing. Is it harder for a slim figured woman with a pretty face to choose and be sincere than it is for a larger figured woman who has either a pretty face or a not so stand out pretty face to choose and be sincere about her choice ? |
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I have to agree with you in many ways, although, I wrote from a perspective of what I see in many general situations especially within this local environment, but also during the time of living in LA. I do think the media has a great deal to do with the characterizations of people and body types and conduct. But that certainly is not all inclusive by any means. Big or Small if a person wants to be 'flighty they certainly will be so"... I've seen it among the very small petite ones, to the very large ones. but in the current environment, many of the women are big, and many of them by some means retain and maintain their relationships.. and I see a lot of the thinner ones who seem to bounce from relation to relations much more rapidly than many of the bigger women. what is the reason, I don't know... but it is very common to see the distinctions in this environment.
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11/25/2012 6:02 am |
I notice that when I pass a slim (non-asian) woman at the park, I get little reaction to a smile or hello. A heavier woman will usually smile or say hello back, and even stop to talk. I don't meet many asian women, but they always smile, and that makes my day!
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Here in the South, I think men seem to prefer their women thick and or big, and many like women with very large rear ends.. so in that sense, yes, some of these big women have the same options that slimmer women have in other locations. ( I agree with each of you, that is is about the individual). but for the situational captions in general... we all know that big women are more likely to be friendly and smile and even talk, quicker than many slim women will. It may be for the various reasons posted above. SFHarley, you are funny but its the truth... "I have never looked at a woman and thought, would she buy me a car or pay my bills and put me up in a house and cover all the expenses". I personally don't like the idea of buying a woman, UNLESS that is the agreement that she is selling me a situational experience. I don't get these concepts of guys feeling that he has to pay a woman way in life for her to be with him.. to me, that is nothing more than a covert form of prostitution on a presumed long term arrangement. The bigger down side is, when she gets ready to leave, she then wants a retro residual payment in a lump sum, even if it means taking half his belongings. I think its the most insane thing imaginable. "pu__y ain't worth all that. I see women who not only work with and contribute to the household, I know women who share the expense of living with the man they are with. I like these kind of woman. I see women who have as much motivation to engage their men and they are not with the attitude of some women, who thinks cheap when its his birthday, but want him to think expensive when its her birthday ( they both earn good money). If she does not have any money, then that is no problem, as long as she is willing to work and contribute.. then I'm fine with that. I think I'm as valuable as she thinks she is, so why should I have to buy her week after week if the claim is a loving relationship ? I'm not going to leave her if she loose her job, and I'd expect to have one sincere about love enough that she is not ready to up and leave if I lost my job. but this is just not how it works with many women. but I do know women who have stayed with their men during his employment challenge time . I have known women who earned more than the man, and ask the man to stay with the kids because she said her money would cover them . so there are women who are not like many .... but I don't think there is a vast abundance of them. But in the life of today, as long as a woman can put a price tag on sex, and men are willing to pay the price.. then not much will change in the over-all of life... because prostitution is the oldest bartering program known to mankind. It has a million ways to be conducted and it won't be going away any time soon. so, it comes down to the simplicity that a man needs to be careful in his choosing and be aware of what is within the arrangement of the choice.
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finally she will find none fit to her . You guys perhaps neglect one thing that the more beautiful , ellegant and classy she is ,the more lonely she is in a friendship or love . there is no reason she should find 'none' to fit her.. ( what does that mean?) she must not let being pretty bring her to be standoffish or hold back on opening up and making her relationship not just loving, but friendly in the nature of being loving | unfortunately some can be loving, but they are demanding and driven by expectations, based too much of the fact that other options exist.| she has to completely not concern herself with the other options, and concern herself with being friendly within her loving and not act as if she can be expecting and demanding and act aloof when when she does not get her way, because she is secretly relying on the ego elation about the other options which she thinks exist, because of the attention given to the external pursuer, who can result to be her greatest distraction and the ego behind such focus can send her in directions with the greatest of mis guided thoughts within how she conducts herself. If she is lonely, then that is something within that she must deal with, because it may mean that she is not fully opening herself to be friendly with the one she loves, instead she may be patronizing and appeasing, but not truly being friendly in a ways that is congenial and pleasing to both him and herself. We always have to look within when such statements become to claim itself as reasoning. Love and Relationships is always about learning and living, and living the truths that we are learning and have learned. Sometimes, with money or looks, people may wrongly feel they have more rights than another.. When the real matter is not about rights, it is about a graceful privilege one has within the opportunity to love and share loving with another.
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