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Influences TV Commercials and Movies These two things have made women over exaggerate their importance.. in relationships.. to the point they have come to feel its all about them. These depictions in commercials and movies have them thinking that the world and men is designed only to serve her whims. These movies and commercials have made so many of them think they are better than men, then it makes them think men owe her something just to be a social human being. they seem not to be astute enough to filter through that crap and learn how to be considerate and interactively respectful beings and communicators with men, without expecting him to praise her like she is some goddess and give her stuff. the Advertisers figured it out long ago, that's why 75% + of the commercials are targeted at women, because it knows she is gullible to think this stuff will give her some special powers of some sort. Then they watch these buffoon entertainers who show their ass and flash body parts and waste money... and too many women act like they think this is real life. They don't even stop to think 20 people spent hours to create a delusion of 15 seconds on the screen. Anyone who would go out and buy a series of wigs that don't match their face nor their skin, and then dress to promote sx appeal and then act like an idiot and try and pretend that she did not know it would convey an invitation for someone to solicit her. How the heck can anyone be that unaware and then turn around and want to claim they can outsmart a man about everything, when she herself has become puppet to the commercials and movie scripted imagery. The women who are smart enough to live beyond this craziness are also the women who have relationships and many of the women who have long term relationships learned early not to be a puppet of the media and its efforts to manipulate and control her. Go any place and look at the long term relationships... these women are not controlled by the media, they don't try to change themselves with every costume that comes on the market, they find their style and they stick with some stability in being themselves. they don't put on a different set of clothes and have a personality change. and they certainly don't take the man for granted. and you never hear them running around talking about " what about me"... these women accept their mistakes and invest themselves to learn and correct themselves. and they are certainly not out trying to be the worlds temptress to every man that passes. these women don't measure themselves by trying to out stage other women... they are too busy investing and sharing themselves in making their relationship work. They communicate, they work and they are not argumentative and aggressive to the point of being on a mission to dominate something. Look around - some of the happiest and healthy women are those who value their relationship and respect their man. they are the women who care about family and understand that the role of woman is not to try and dominate everything, they simply are not driven by that selfish ego to that extreme. Go and watch a couple who have been together 30-40 years, they have figured out how to 'share'... they have also figured out, that power struggles serve no purpose except to bring separations. |
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often times during the age between 30 and 45, divorce is high. Its the age that people start too often thinking that they are missing something in life, so they are too eager to throw things away, refuse to be reasonable, refuse to make adjustments and become highly argumentative in relationships... and many times its all about nothing. Beyond the fact, they have this inner though that something is better over the horizon if they leave their current situation. the bulk of the time, what results is total disaster, over time, they find they can't go back and get what they once had, and many are too pride filled to accept they made a mistake and others are too lost in the delusions of fantasy, until it become even more years before they realize they threw away the foundation they had began to build, and many don't recover and others find not only do they not recover to find a stable relationship, they then have to awaken to the reality, they can't regain those years nor the work that they tossed away on a whimsical fantasy of chasing a rainbow..which by the time they dump their relationships.. they find out the rainbow was nothing more than light refractions.... there are countless bitter 30 something and 40 something women and there are others that have gone through 3 or maybe more marriages chasing illusions and tossing them and chasing more illusions and years roll along and find them alone.. Suddenly singing the song of trying to convince someone that they finally know the value of a relationship. Others get lost in material measure based on what they can buy....and what bills they can afford to pay, while they have lost the thought to know the value of what is a relationship. by 50, the options become less and less, and closer to 60 the options get even less.... It's a wise thing for women to learn when they are young, not to get caught up in the daily power games of trying to win every discussion and trying to out smart or even undermine their mate and if they truly are committed to learning, they learn not to try and use a barrage of manipulations to get things, because what become lost is something far greater than any manipulation can gain for them. But this is probably the hardest lesson for women to learn. Because many are not only stubborn many have heads like a block of steel, and other have the delusion that they can use sex to try and barter of manipulate situations, but the end result is all she does is 'weaken the relationship" and insult the integrity of the relation. They don't know what that means, until the relations is lost. Then they get angry because the man won't come begging as a means for her not to have to face her own folly.. but she is not of the depth to go to him and admit her folly and make adjustments.. instead they put up the obstinate shield and then things get even more stupid at that point.
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An interesting blog women should read about 'High Heel Shoes" and their legs. making peg legs A few other blogs that make an interesting read funny thing about living Try your heart Learning Trust and How to engage it What matters Loving matter and it comes in time that many come to understand the truly magnificence of love. At such point and time, many come to understand how not to defeat it with vain things. At such point, the grace in ones life is increased 10 fold and beyond, when they come to make the works that share what of love they are willing to labor to make beautiful in their living experience. It's always up to the individual... We have people who claim high levels of education and ride the claim of degree's of many sorts.. yet, the simplest thing in life they become non functional... which is... Love... Then if learning has not taught that the labors and works are of great necessity to not only gain understanding, but to share it.. This is what matters; If they fail to grasp this, then they missed the whole principle of learning. But most only think its about money... and status so they can say they are this or that by employment title... When the truer point of learning is to grow in knowing how to apply principles in everyday life and love, as well as in specialized applications of skill, craft or trade to be a contributor in life.. When such things come into being.. Not only is compassion strengthened love becomes to show grace in the manners of its sharing.
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yes, the motivation and interest must be a part of the spectrum... people also come to learn a simple thing. the more they share, the more they care, and likewise so, the more they care the more they will share. It's an ongoing work that requires much from each of self investments.
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