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The stories we craft in our minds behind the images we see. The Culture mentality of the Western Male has a great deal to do with the Western woman's attitude, demeanor and character. One day the men wanted a 'do it all woman", then he wants a sports buddy woman, then he wants a competition woman, then he wants a glamor woman, and then he wants her to be a creative woman in the bedroom, ( only when he wants its)... Before Western men had the attitude that he would be the only bread winner in the home, then he wanted the magazine and media play sex toy woman, and women tried to be all those things. Then many women were left with a hard road to travel with a string of , and disenchanted because the man helped and enabled a fantasy that neither one of them could live up to. The western man and if you go all the way back, he did not consider women any more of a person than he considered minorities who were slaves or the poor whites who were indentured servants, except for the white male. We pushed and promoted women and then placed them in pedestals far above our own reality, and when she stood on it and then expected and demanded the things men told her and implied should be hers just for being a woman.. then the 'shit hit the fan"... now he wants her to come off the pedestal and stop being the 'everything woman', and many of the woman are not willing to do so, because they know that fantasy delusion is not real. she wants her space and options. the problem is men have primed them to expect to be paid if she does anything nice, and certainly if she does anything sexual.. so she puts conditions of every sort, in the effort to try and get paid. the really crazy part, is the men want her to be expressive in bed, but then with some men when she does, he wants to claim she is no longer a woman in his eyes. or as he so aptly says, 'she's not a lady"... so the delusional concept of lady-woman vs woman-lady... is a circle that no one can win... not the man, and not the woman... so now they are too driven to 'use each other for appeasement purposes' and then wonder why they can't appreciate and love each other. So, before assuming only America women are as you say, then we also have to look at how did they evolve to be as so, and what was and is the contributing acts and actions of the man that enable and promoted these disposition. Just as with many men, the minute they find out these Asian women are not submissive every-ready-sex machines.. then the men want to claim she is not a traditional Chinese woman. the truth is, the imagery and concept of a traditional Chinese woman may be very flawed in perspective. Under Mao, not only the women but the men as well lived under various constraints and other conditions that not many westerns know the depth of. But what it did not stop, was the women from mating with men who can provide various things, nor did it stop any playing around, nor any mate jumping between men nor women... Women are very adaptive because they know how to adjust themselves to the way a man communicates to them, what he considers a woman he will respect.. that does not mean she likes it all, but she also does not want to be disrespected. So, they learn very quickly how to only show him what he wants to see... and the parts and ways he does not want to see, she will discretely find her way to deal with what she wants and what she likes.. and when she gets tired of hiding any part of herself, she will either show him the whole of herself, or she will leave and go searching for someone that will like much of what she had to hide from the previous man. There are no angels... and pretty will never mean truth, and shapely and sexy will not mean honesty.. and a soft voice does not mean considerations.. Character and Dignity is many times composed of many things we can't visually see in the ways we look... because we measure so much by the image we like to see and how we like to make up what we want to think about that image. Any man seeking to know any woman, and any woman seeking to know any man... MUST- communicate.. and within such they MUST spend some time, sharing expressions and feeling about self and life. Anything short of that... you choose then to create your own concepts that may ultimately become dis-illusions |
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nice to see that you're still at it. if you ever want to chat or swap stories drop by fb zhi chiang. dvc and isabella have joined me. al
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nice to see that you're still at it. if you ever want to chat or swap stories drop by fb zhi chiang. dvc and isabella have joined me. al I prefer this blog scrip, it's layout, although I don't like that this site has a mass of non-interactive people. At least people do interact on Facebook... and that is what makes it so popular among its other features of being free to interactively communicate with people. But Facebook is all about being driven by collecting peoples data and marketing people to advertisers.
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