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The work(s) and task to be a loving person... is the path to a good relation. (it starts within YOU) People can conjure many things, but nothing, will beat a person who has a true sense of compassion and the integrity to be a considerate and appreciative individual. These are the forces and elements of character that will always produce a sense and demeanor of kindness toward others. If such is lacking, if such is weak within an individual.. Love may be very difficult for them to find and it may be an ongoing challenge for them to embrace it even if or when they find it. If this is too difficult to understand, then that itself is an indicator that a person has much work to do within themselves. If this does not inspire some thoughts about what is potentially factors and elements within the many things "people" think and imagine in their fantasy about love, then they may have a very challenging time finding love and may have a harder time acknowledging it if it comes within their presence, as they may well be not willing to invest themselves exploring factors to improve their abilities in learning and growing. yes, this includes "you". If silence is your manner and mode, it may be the same elemental mode that stand between you and the ability to love, between you and the ability to be loving and between you and the ability to engage and interact with loves demeanor as a solid character trait and engaging functional manner even when an opportunity to love is present. Yes, it comes down to " YOU " , some may try and be Coy, some may try and be so called reserved... but each is not conducive to being a loving person.. nor will it be a demeanor what will promote the blossoming of love... Such ones may simply fantasize in vain about love, but their coy and reserved demeanor become in a great many cases their own detriment unto themselves and the claim of desiring love. This site is full of "silent people" who have all these visions of love, yet, the long term experiences demonstrates, this site is full of lazy people, apprehensive people, non responsive people, and fantasy chasers who are looking for illusions, but have little to no faith and even less self motivated effort to be interactive individuals yet, it has many who think love should be theirs without embracing the works that are a part of what makes loves reality loving. - which is: Expressions and Interactive Expressiveness. This site is even more full of people who actually expect to have their butts kissed or think just a picture posed with an image of provocative allure is all they think they have to do, rather than know, making relations is as simple as, just put the effort and energy to engage conversation without selfish expectations, they may find how simple it is to build friendships.. And certainly this site is full of vain people who assume in their own fantasy of self adulation; that they are better than the next, or they expect to be bought by some promise or given stuff; which becomes nothing more than a covert manner of pro$tituting and there are others, who have a single minded objective to pi#p someone for a free ride while they sell illusion which they can't deliver, which quickly become a cloud of many delusions. Many people can manage a functional date, because they are too driven to think they 'control it", or they can dictate it, so they spend more time playing the crazy judge, rather than becoming a person who can simply enjoy sharing. Some destroy a potential relationship, because they did not get some instant arousal that feeds their ego with a self absorbed options to reject something. A great many go out and measure another person based on if the other person pays, and how much they pay, when they first should measure themselves by the same, as to why did they not pay, and why do they have a problem with paying . It's these nature of self consumed cycles that become great destroyers of potential relationships. The trip is ... many of such types know exactly whom they are, but they want even to themselves to deny within themselves the truisms of their ways. Many deny the fact their own vanity is often the biggest culprit to their failure at love or even at simple friendship building experiences. Some are victims of their own self consumption and core deep selfishness. they may conjure and promote many excuses to try and cover it up, but the fact that it leaves them barren of love is its own truth. Even worst among the factors, is those who go on a date, trying to measure the other person as marriage options, before they even know who they heck the person is, or in many cases whom they are themselves in relation to the person they have met. There are a great many who won't like this post, and even more may become very perturbed at the content, but at the same time, such one's may fear even looking in themselves to learn and grow from self review. There is no problem with Asian Friend-finders Website.. the problem is with the people.. The site itself has provided the tools and free accessibility, the big problem with the site is the individual. its not about the mass but the individual, it is not about those who may be of scam of game, it is still about the individual, which is "YOU".. In the end result, when the bulls+itting is circled and cycled, it become no more than ones self that is being bulls+itted by ones self... when vanity and delusion of grandeur and selfish consumption bring You, to be driven and led by your own reluctance, and your own over blown concept of self that promotes you to be non interactive, non pro active about engaging friendship and investing yourself to put in the labors to build the love you so desperately claim you want. Yes, the basis and factors continue to point to nothing more than the functional challenge to self... To learn better to be a loving person if one expects to find love and to sustain love and to share a loving relationship. If you don't like it and seek to blame your lack of love on someone else, then, your first review should be to look in the mirror  and you may find where your dislike truly resonates. You may see one who expects more than they are willing to give and/or share, you may see one who is so in love with themselves, they can't bear to accept the reality that they are not the sole greatest thing on earth. some may see one who is status and material driven, and some might just see a user and abuser with a pretentious mask and a covert attempt to try and cover it with costuming. What you might see may reveal what you've feared learning, and for some what they see might show them their own fears... but what ever you see.. will include an image that requires some continual work, to be, become or remain a loving person.. What is guaranteed to be seen, is one who is in need of being loved.... What one may come to realize if they truly look that they truly might see, they may see... is one whose need for love is far greater than any material or status driven want. Such one will see.. The work(s) and task to be a loving person... is the path to a good relation. ( starts within YOU) Can you handle it far and beyond fantasy..... delusions... to make it become a reality that love is the driver of your life's force and may well be the pathway and course .... to be a loving person. |
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I personally don't have a problem in this site with scammers, or people trying to run a game... because for one, I don't fall for some cheap line sent in an email talking about how much they care about me.. (when they have never even talked to me or communicated with me before). In many cases, on this site in particular, with the volume of posting I've submitted. If they are not reading the blogs or reading and interacting, then they have not made much of an attempt to know me. so why should I trip about some cheap flattery that has a carrot attached to the end of the string. Besides, I'm not much interested in any woman, whom it becomes like some game of challenge just to get them to be interactive, what's the point? It's something best left for the pre-teens to do... certainly not something for the claimed adult. I also am not going to play, 'agree to everything", just to get a person to talk... nor play ' patronize with false flatter to get them to talk. I'm sure within this site there are enough people who like those games for them to go find one... so ... I need not waste my time with such. What people may need to consider, No one certainly wants a "nag", but equally so, "who wants a whining person who always is in need of someone to pump up their ego or patronize them with flattery. That type of situation is certain to indicate that at some point, this will become like an albatross which will impede any functional relationship. As to women with money and means, what good is it, if she is arrogant or overly absorbed in herself to thinks that it should mean someone should try and impress her, or she thinks someone should have more. that is a true indicator that the material stature is and will remain being a competitive and judgmental aspect within relating. Many things tell many things... long before people wake up out the the stupor of infatuation to realize.
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