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'learning how not to be hoodwinked".. when she began to sulk and make argumentative situations whenever you do not give into what she say or do what she request. If you meet her and she makes the claim that everything that went wrong was 'all" his fault, then you may want to stand your guard, because she may be a woman who has a subtle way of promoting intent to be submissively aggressive in an aim to be dominating. If she communicates as if she think the point if being in a relationship is all about her. these are just some things, but there are many tell tell things about both man and woman in potential relationships and relationships... But don't spend time trying to change her, move along and find someone who has a ideal of sharing that closely works with what you believe about sharing. If she is overly driven by secretiveness, it should indicate the level of limits before you invest yourself too deeply. because at some point if these so called secrets are told to you, they will be done so, with inference to tell you, what she expects and how she expects your to comply within the relationship, "which negates ongoing reasonable negotiated sharing.".. Break ups don't just happen, they have a two party part, and men need to realize that, even if the woman claims she does not. Don't dive in head first with a blindfold on, because when you pull it off and become aware you may be in too deep into something you did not see coming. Never assume a pretty face, a soft voice or public persona indicates the potential of a good mate, its the interpersonal realities that make or break a situations, for those who have this ethnicity delusion about certain ethnicity of women, by all means wake up and acknowledge the reality of individual.... as a person, not some folklore delusional concept. Do not sacrifice your integrity, for a moment of appeasement, know when to yield, but also know when not to be bulldozed over. then you will be better equipped to deal with potential relationships with open eyes and awareness of mind. for men, choose communicable women, who show as much consideration and appreciation as they expect to have and share within relating. if you have to spend money to share time, you should re-evaluate the situations, if you have to do favors on a weekly basis for their to be the warmth of considerations as persons, then that should tell a story. If bickering starts every time you don't do something asked, that should equally tell you something. Most of all, think, pay attention and give yourself as much respect as you want to give and show and share unto and with her. don't play games and commit or agree to stuff you don't agree to just for the aim of sx... because over time it will backfire and you and she both will feel the pains of the repercussions. |
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That's funny  ) I have known people whom were married for a large number of years, then suddenly the woman, got to a point to want to pursue other options, ( sure it happens by the actions of men as well, life is always a two way street, but here in this particular writing, I'm talking about women ) but she wanted him to not know, and everything became even more "all about her". even their children did not like her manner and demeanor. As he said, it started with a series of attitudes then attitudes about everything, and then conjuring up stuff that was 20 yrs ago, then she played the "I control sex delusion", to the I'm tired. He tried for more than two years to deal with the madness, she even tried having him arrested until the kids told the police, she was the initiator and the aggressor. finally they separated and eventually divorced, she wanted money, so he leveraged the house and paid her off, then she wanted part of his pension money, so he took out additional money and paid her 1/2. so more than a year later, he met a woman at his church, they eventually married, suddenly up comes the x wife, calling him a dirty dog and all kind of stuff and tripping on his new wife, then telling him he insulted her by marrying this woman. He even tried to tell her before she pushed for the divorce, that as they had become older, the options change and he was interested in staying with her since he had enjoyed the time through her youth, still she insisted they divorce. Now, she is bitter and angry about everything, and to make matters worst she moved across the street from him and his new wife. So, for men, when the women starts acting crazy like everything is all about her, step back and let her go, don't try and reason with her, because she is the one claiming she wants to go. For many men, if he notices, the minute he tries to relax with some women, the women take it that he is some push over, and they become condescending and antagonistic, when this cycle starts, don't try and convince her to stay, let her go... Men have to be careful in how much he allows himself to become absorbed in the woman, because many women become very fickle and far too many think the relationship is all about them and all about what she wants. many women think his only role is to be of service to her. many many men find this out when the money status change, if he is not able to buy and give her stuff her attitude changes, her manner changes and her lack of respect of him as a person goes into high gear. with this type of situations, let her go... or get away from her and realize there are women out there who can appreciate you as being a man and a person and do not expect you to be like a service provider for her whims and wants. For sure when the women start playing the close the legs game trying to manipulate and control the relationships... It's time to get away, because not only does she not appreciate and have a sincerity about sharing sex, she uses it as a tool and pass measurement as if she is rationing it out as some prize for favor and reward for submission to her whims. Get away from these kind of women as fast as possible. If one looks around at the couples who make it, it tells many stories. then also ask yourself, how many of these pretty to look at women do you see, always jumping from one relationship to the next, or how many women do you see, whom once they get a good paying job, they become aloof and take on the demeanor that now she has money, she does not need a man... Get away from these kind of women, and pay attention before you hook up with these types of women. You know what is real and what is honesty in sharing, and don't make excuses for her just because she is pretty to look at, because if she is a selfish asshole type of person who has the demeanor hidden behind a soft voice of being a manipulative dictator, then don't trap yourself into that madness. The very first time you began to see that she acts like you owe her something just for her to be there, or she is quick to get mad when you don't do what she expects and sometimes demand, then get away before you find yourself in a mad situations that diminishes your life spirit ..... The Bible tells one, to avoid contentious women. Proverbs 25:24 - It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman and in a wide house. Proverbs 27:15 - A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike. Proverbs 21:19 - It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman. Proverbs 31: xx speaks more about the type of woman that many men seek.... but few find. If you look at the media, and the models on the run way, they cannot get that job without having a anguished bitchy look on their face, and many women assume this is how they should look and act... it makes for a parade of fools...dressed in fancy costumes. If you look at the made for entertainment media, especially of the soap opera versions, it is driven by the presentation and imagery of finely costumed women, plotting and scheming with aggressive contentions at every turn, crafty lure tactics and deceptive manners and modes, where viciousness becomes the dominant motivation theme. and many women mold themselves after these media character types. Proverbs 18:22 - [Whoso] findeth a wife findeth a good [thing], and obtaineth favour of the LORD. 1 John 4:18 - There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love. Quote from Internet; Marriage was originally created as a way for families to merge land, property, political power and influence; perhaps people should return to viewing it as just that and nothing more. The rest of it is fake modern TV Fantasy and Tabloid Gossip and Hype polluting the minds of today’s impressionable youth, and possibly a way to keep the multi-billion-per-year wedding industry chugging along. Perhaps the only criteria should be to ask oneself: “How excited am I for us to merge our finances and assets?” When all the fluff and hype are boiled away, that may be the only remaining reality. Spend a day in divorce court, and you’ll see exactly what is real and tangible and lasting about marriage. You’ll see women who signed the marriage contract under romantic pretenses who are now expert laymen attorneys who can cite case law. Bouquet throwing ex-brides now embroiled in warfare to get everything they can and more! “For better or for worse…” is not so much regarded. Men simply need to know and be aware: He who can find a wife who is a help mate and share loving as a mutual goal... is a good things, is not as easy to find as many of these infatuated situation pretend to present. If a man wants the exotic erotic image he is bombarded with in the media, commercials and play-writers scrips, then visit any brothel and you can buy that, and pay as you go and by pass the trips and delusions in the home, now will you fall into a situations where somone expects you to pay their way in life and act like a minion in her dreamed up script of (her) life. . of which you are seen as nothing more than a bit player. In simple terms... CHOOSE CAREFULLY.... For the men who think simply choosing a Asian woman will eliminate the the risk and pitfalls, is a man functioning under a illusion of self delusion. No matter what ethnicity the woman you choose, she is still a person and she is still a woman and may well be susceptible to the ways of some women, of which the bible speaks of... because one thing the bible did not say, it did not attach an ethnicity to the warning nor the cautions, nor to the good things to be found in finding a woman who is of the integrity to be a wife. In your choosing , choose an individual and regard the nature of person and you may become a better selector in the choices you make. Then you may just find "a woman" that you want to be your wife. Choose wisely, that "peace and loves harmony" may be within the foundation of your relationship.
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