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Time- Life and Things Interesting in the fact the work week starts again, but also, seems like Monday is really the day when the 'MIND" and "Body" has relaxed after the previous week. Time become many things in our living management along with the many things in the mind, seems like something is always in need of repair or maintenance to some level. I'm trying to find continual trimming adjustments to diminish the volume of repair and maintenance things that seem to continually fill the mind and consume resources. simple things become many things in what makes up our lives, and when we look at it, in some ways "it cost a great deal to maintain our lifestyle" even if its not extravagant. It still has a ongoing cost that can be an economic challenge to a 'average job working individual". If one can earn maybe 4 times the expense, it might be simpler, but as people, the more we earn the more things we buy to encumber our lives. Even people who have more money than they could spend in 20 lifetimes, face the same things in principal... "repair and maintenance expense".... It's inescapable, while one is alive. No matter what we have, we find something else to want, we acquire so many things, that either just sit being simply stuff to look at, and in some cases, people have so much of such stuff, they rent storage shed to keep it, all the while knowing they will never deal with it again, they just want to know they have it. We make ourselves dis-satisfied in relationships, because we always want more of something, and then we start to want something different once we become comfortable with what we have. It's like a material obsession which shifts its focus from one thing to the next, then we start to want different associations and different relations... many times, it s based on nothing more than our situation of influenced choice to not invest ourselves to appreciate the relation we are involved. We want everything, and the more we want, the more we find we have less time for the things we've previously wanted. Then we struggle trying to figure out how to get back to 'yesterday', and all the while filling our minds with what we want tomorrow. Even with sex, people always want it to be something more than they invested themselves to appreciate it for what it is. it become used as a tool, and bartered like its a commodity designed for manipulative trading games. People try to attach a fluctuating value to it, based solely on how they want to use it to manipulate something for their self concerned aims. Then they will deny this as being true, in every manner and means they can. The selfish nature of the individual is far and beyond what many will admit in acknowledging how selfishly groomed we have become as being whom we are. Even in relations and once they are over, people rarely will acknowledge the extent of their selfishness. Time - Life and Things. There are certain ages when women are dangerous to claim as a mate, In the early 20's they are callous and can be manipulatively abusive, in the 30's they can be driven by self consumption to an alarming degree, and in their 40's they can become even more firm in the dictatorial aims to control and regulate. by their 50's they then want to be more closely interested in being "help mates".. Men in their 20's are out to prove their invincibility and their capability, by the 30's they want to own something and claim to be able to manage many things, by the 40's they come to terms with their body change and their mind change and seek more stability, but by their 50's they become to think in terms of sustainability and compassion to a different level, where they have learned the value of things is not what they imagined they want to be more closely interested in being "help mates". , The real trip is how each male and female influence each other during their 20's, 30's and 40's..... will have a great deal to do with how they transition to being more committed to being 'help mates" in their 50's. It is wise for both man and woman, in their 20's to learn not to be users and abusers, it is wise for them to learn in their 30's to not try and be controllers over everything, and in their 40's it is wise for them to learn how to adjust to their change in body and mind and improve their value points about what they have learned. In their 50's it is wise to learn how to be even more of a team mate in their relationships.... But all these things can be important at any point and age, even though in general we seem to live in stages of growth, stages of understanding and stages of wisdom. Time, Life and Things. If man and woman learn early in life, that sex is something to be appreciated, respectfully shared and mutually enjoyed and not used as a gambit game... they may learn in such mean, how not to make, turn or influence each others life to be so contentiously challenging in the relationship spectrum. each life stage may become changed and they may develop into a more congenial being as a person and individual in all the stages of their living.  the level of expectation of influence and control that people attach to the engagement of sex with one another is such a confounding matter, until people bring into their lives and the lives of others, many conflicts derived from the level of expectation of influence and control that people attach to the engagement of sex. Time, Life and Things. |
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I think today, it is very hard for a man to trust women in relationship, and in some cases if she is pretty and shapely that might be even harder, some become far to lost in their own vanity and self consumption. Where as, some women are always worried about other options and wanting to be on reserve for those options. many will try and throw conditions and expectations that are insidious especially if they consider themselves a hot commodity. I would think any man should be very cautious to get lost too quickly in any woman who thinks of herself as a hot commodity. As well, men may do well to avoid the women who have the concept that she controls the house and him... and throw tantrums when he does not submit or threatens to leave if he does not follow her expectation filled dictates. Many don't know how to be in a relationship for the simple sake of mutual appreciation and mutual contribution and mutual sharing. Many of these women who are single will either remain so, or they will be again single within a short time even in they get in a relationship. Because many simply don't know what sharing means, beyond thinking someone should be giving her something. Some are so busy, talking about "what about me", until they become a nightmare to themselves, and can be a hell raiser in a home and bring every kind of tension and contention one could not even imagine. Men should be very careful about his choices. As to women, likewise so, the same can happen to them in relationships.. But if people look at the conflicts in many relationships, a great deal can be traced to the expectations of the women upon the man. How it became so crazy is itself I think attributed to the delusional crap pushed in the media and the fashion selling magazine, or the stuff like stupid Cosmo style articles. It's simply insane.
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it might be interesting if we could live with a sense of "moderation"... It's kind of like fruit.... if we eat all of it and destroy the seeds, eventually there won't be any new fruit tree's to grow... funny thing, now man has engineered certain things to grow as being "seedless'.... what a scenario for 'disorder"... 
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