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Relationships suffer Seems more and more relationship suffer, they not only suffer within the confines of relationships, they suffer from being interrupted before many can even begin. Maybe we can blame the media, maybe we can blame people, and maybe we can blame the change of ideology where selfishness, status, greed and material measure, is now more important in individuals lives than simply appreciating and loving each other. Everyone's pursue of self importance is in overdrive and somewhat exaggerated itself into over blown ego, consumption with self vanity, and driven by insidious levels of expectations. Link it back to the promotion of material matter, wealth chasing and vanity and the continual bartering of the simple thing known as sex. Commercial promotions, marketing ploys and advertising strategy has painted so many captions of fictions, we've have lost concept of the basis of life within the generalities of reality. Turn on a Media gadget, and become bombarded with shiny happy people claiming every kind of product has produced a happiness beyond the commonest of simply appreciation and enjoyment. It is so ingrained and saturated, no one can be content with anything. Great example of our social madness, may be seen reflected in something as the 'Cell Phone" craze... Today, people can have a phone that works perfectly well for communications, but soon as the advertisers show a new model with a twist, suddenly, people become despondent with their current unit to the point, they make drastic sacrifices and high expenditures to rush out and get the latest model. Generally, they wind up doing the same things they did with the previous one they had. It's quite symbolic of the nature of our consumption based demeanor, where things have become less about being a tool to engage a function, but more about the status of who has the most expensive one or the most advertised model. We are a people who buy the hype, and result to commit a great amount of our living resources, ( for the working person, income) sadly many complain about the low pay on many jobs, but still the committed amount for the unit and the contract, comes also with the monthly drain of monetary resources. Symbolical reference has become so much connected to self worth, until now the before they are pre- are strapped with the units and this become tethered to them like an additional appendage. In the conditioned grooming of becoming material driven people, and measurement of equality of self worth, is tied to the acquisition of these things, such things has become a faux elitist self measurement factor in how one interprets much about themselves, We even judge others as less than, who seem not to have am interest nor motivation to have a certain model or chase the next advertised model. Material consumption has such an impact on our selection of mates, until we can't see each other, without first looking for these material measuring point of who has the advertised gadgets. We take it to many extremes and sadly, we've come to believe these measurements is the norm, until we become unable to see each other as persons and individuals beyond these measurement objects. Be it a car, a home, a phone, or name tags on the clothes or what place one chooses to eat. Next season, the advertisers, marketers and promotion gimmicks take on a different slant, and suddenly we are satisfied with nothing we have and become again caught in the despondent cycle where anguished agitation increases, frustrations set in and we began to badger not only ourselves, but the mates we are with. Eventually, the break up comes.... The blame goes to everything, but never unto looking at self... never thinking to understand the influences of all the media, promotions dictating our mental concepts of self, nor do we become aware in conscience acknowledgement of our own sense of loosing sight of what is of true meaning in the man to woman relationship. Today, the media can and does push people even to the gender confusion as to mate choice, because the promotions today paint illusions of many sorts, and the subliminal influences dictate to people many things, thus leading man down pathway, by automatic drive, from what has been ingested in the skillful prepared media promotions. Today, something as natural as the distinction of looks between what is male and what is female, has us as a people, confounded. If women has a pretty face and shapely body, it too often seems to bring her great confusions, because she can't select or choose because she is consumed by surveying the options and in pursuit of the highest bidder. Non of which has anything to do with choices made from the heart. If man has money and means, it too often seems to bring great confusions, because he can't select or choose, because he is consumed by surveying the options and in pursuit of the prettiest face, None of which has anything to do with choices made from the heart. Therefore, INFATUATION suffices, for love, and temptations lusting suffices to supplant character appreciation. The destined short relationship is set up and structured before they began to interact. Neither understand love, until the loss of what is infatuations pursuit of temptations lusting has taken place, and it has found a new lust to pursue and left, then one starts to ponder about love, thus finding how much of it was missing and how much of it was desired but never engaged, and the claims become about everything. But fact and point is... they never saw each other as persons beyond the infatuation and temptations lusting cycles. These are the types, who are quick to claim the 'romance left", these are quickly the types to claim, "he or she did not give me this, or he or she did not do this or that for me"... Never accepting they played the same game as the one that left, when it is evident they never reached a point to develop a heart to heart understanding of and with each other. Everything was a measurement about something, but very little was about a sincere heart to heart development of understanding. Sadly, some of these same types, result to produce , and the manner and process of the dysfunction is set in motion for another cycle of the same.  |
