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The Program of the B.C. Are you truly honest about your method's of making the B.C.  Etiquette is a code of behavior that delineates expectations for social behavior according to contemporary conventional norms within a society, social class, ... The B.C. Etiquette We’ve all got needs. Every one of us. And sometimes, you form a special bond with a person that is strictly about getting those needs met. Mutually. At all hours. Via text. The “booty call” has been a staple in dating culture since long before the term was popularized by Jamie Foxx’s classic 1997 sex farce of the same name. But despite the booty call’s popularity and endurance, the rules regarding its proper execution have remained somewhat vague. Does “no strings attached” have to also mean “no manners, artistry or effort?” It shouldn’t, and having been the recipient of a few sloppy, demanding booty calls in my day, I say we end this here. After enlisting the help of dating expert and all around bad-ass, 2. Don’t pretend it’s a date Don’t ask if they want to grab a late dinner. Don’t ask if they want to meet you and your friends out for a drink. Be very clear about what this is, and what it is not, being extra sure to not lead people on. “Trying to booty call someone who likes you will be a major disaster,” Khona cautions, “Even if they come over, you’ll end up with all kinds of emotional stickiness.” The beauty of the booty call is that it’s above board. You know what you’re looking for, they know they’ve got it. The booty call is an equal exchange between two consenting adults. Don’t mess with that. 3. Don’t booty call someone you really like “No!!!! Disaster!!! The other party will think that’s all you want and get pissed.” Khona makes a good point here. If you really think you might have something with someone, don’t blow it by going for the immediate gratification. 4. Don’t wait until the last minute If your booty call is an afterthought (and by “after” I mean “after you struck out at the bar,” and by “thought,” I mean “Uuuugggghh, I’m drunk and horny”) they’ll know. If you think you’re going to want to hook up, call before the bars close and set up that possibility. Besides, it’s not always cool to call a relative stranger up at 3 am. Khona agrees, with a few exceptions. “If you’re trying to booty call a drug addicted crackhead, a club or just a night owl, it’s never too late. But for everyone else I’d say past 2:30am on a weekend and midnight on a weekday is too late. It depends on their lifestyle.” 5. Pick and stick Pick one person to booty call and stick with them until you either A) get a response one way or the other or  have given them at least an hour to respond. After that, you can move on to the next name in your little black book. It’s not cool to “booty call blast” ten people and then deny them all when the hottest one finally responds.6. Don’t be too wasted to follow through If you booty call me, I expect actual sex — not a sloppy makeout session followed by you passing out on top of me. 7. A booty call is not a second date “I’ve been denied when I tried to booty call someone who clearly wanted more,” says Khona, “We hooked up and then he asked me out, which actually surprised me since I didn’t remotely think of him as dating material. I gave him a shot, but the date was terrible as I predicted and I ended up leaving early. Nonetheless, he was good in bed so I decided to booty call him late one night. No dice. He told me to take care.” Whether you like the person or not, once you’ve been on an actual date with someone, they are no longer your booty call. There are rare exceptions to this, in which it’s totally fine to booty call someone you’re casually dating, but this only when it’s explicitly cool between the two of you. If you have doubts, call someone else. 8. Always offer to go to their place It’s just polite. They might rather come to your place anyway, but give them the option of the home court advantage (read: “not having to change out of their pajamas if they don’t want to”). 9. They’re allowed to say “No.” Don’t whine. Don’t be pushy. You’re allowed one “Are you sure?” and after that, you just say “Cool.” No pressure. No questioning the other party’s manhood. No guilt. ______________________________________ This pre-booty call agreement (herein after referred to as the "Agreement") is entered into on the ____ day of ____, 2013 by ______________ & ________________. THIS AGREEMENT SHALL COVER THE FOLLOWING RULES & PRINCIPALS: No sleeping over. Unless it's very good and we need to repeat it in the morning. No meeting in public unless it's for car-sex, or if absolutely necessary ... for dinner or drinks before the events of the evening. No calls / texts / email before 9:00 PM. We don't have stuff to talk about (unless you're sending nudies). No plans made in advance, that is why you are called the "backup", unless you're from out of town, then it's a one-time advanced arrangement. No "baby" or "honey" talks. However, dirty talk is encouraged. No asking for comparisons with former lovers. No calling each other "friends with benefits" or "friends with privileges", we are not friends, just sex buddies. Unless you're actually friends, but who are we kidding ... No extra clothing. I don't want you leaving anything behind when you leave. No falling asleep or hanging out right after sex. It's over, so get up, get dressed and go where ever you go No kissing on the lips. ( unless it gets really good); Now day, condoms MANDATORY, no bitching. No use of my phone, please. I don't want anyone calling back looking for you. No emotional discussions. (i.e. Where are we heading with this? What are we doing? Do you love me?) The answer is NO, so don't even ask. Besides, I have a " Stamp" for a reason. Don't waste your time bulls^itting with fake affection or delcaration of feelings, we've already agreed to be each others' Booty Call, don't push it. Don't be a dumdum and post where you're really at using the GPS location features of Facebook, Twitter, Foursquare, etc., go to GeekDrop and learn how to FAKE where you're at to throw people off of your booty calling scent. Don't be offended if I don't ask if you enjoyed it, , I got mine you should have gotten yours too. Don't get jealous when you see me flirting with someone else on Facebook, or at least don't say shit to me about it. Don't ask me who the voice of the girl / guy in the background is, just be happy you're the one I'm setting the booty call up with right now and not them. Don't play around on Skype (or sexting) get naked, just hurry the up and do it, I've already seen you naked and I ain't got all night to talk you into it. Don't be surprised or nag me if I don't comment or "Like" any of your Facebook posts, I'm purposely keeping a low profile. Don't ask me whose "stuff" this is, it's a self-explanatory question. It's already attached to its rightful owner. Don't ask me why I got a Christmas tree tattoo on one side of my junk and a turkey on the other. Everyone knows that the best eating happens between Thanksgiving & Christmas. None of that "love-making" . Only SEX allowed. You cannot borrow my car for any reason. You cannot borrow any of my clothes and/or jewelry for any reason. If you're cheating on someone, you're expected to cover your self like a professional Ninja. If we get caught, party's over, If you're cheating on someone, you're fully responsible for any and all of their anguish. If anyone asks who I am, the standard response will be: "I dunno, I thought she / he looked familiar too". Calling out the wrong name during sex is OK, don't be offended. I won't. Doggystyle is the preferred position: the less the eye contact, the better. Bring your own drinks, I'm not your liquor store. All gifts accepted, money is always good. The aforementioned rules may only be altered by the holder(s) of the agreement. If either party attempts to change or alter any terms of the agreement post signing, it will automatically become null and void; you understands the rules Participant 1: Signature: ________________ Date: ____________________ Participant 2: Signature: ________________ Date: ____________________ |
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don't run from the subject as if you are foreign to what is a B.C....  heck, even in relations people break it down to the simplicity of a B.C. at times, and it certain is a reality in the general situations of peoples lives at some point, and in some its an ongoing reality . 
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