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Age and Trust - within todays relationships At what ages do people become more trust worthy in relationship in the sense to have the fortitude to work through their challenges. Maybe women in their 20's don't have much fortitude to work through relationships challenges. Maybe in their 30's they are still not as stable to be able to work through various challenges in relationships. Maybe in their 40's they are more stable to work through challenges in relationships and probably more willing to know how to share and understand even more about compassion along with the ability to know how to find reasonable compromise for the sake of continuing efforts to further strengthen the relationship. Still I think a great deal has to do with what values they were raised with, as well as it may have some to do with how they deal with vanity and probably how they deal with selfishness and temptations. It may even have something to do with whether or not they have if they are under 40. For those under 40, the fact of raising may help them be more stable and able to deal with challenges. Maybe in some situations, some of the women who have not grown beyond seeing themselves as the "cute and playful young one".... are probably the most difficult to trust with the concept of being able to have the stability and fortitude to deal with what it takes to make relationships strong when faced with challenges in the relationship. Do you think Age is a factor in these regards of stability and fortitude - when it comes to making relationships work through challenges ? At what age ranges do you think these things would apply to Men ? |
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In present time reality, trust is becoming many challenging things. the funny part is "Trust" itself for what it means, has always remained exactly what it is. But sadly people use it too often when they are playing the sincerity con.... It is time and actions as well as reactions when it comes to people which ultimately tell many things about themselves and trust. Honesty has nothing to prove, it is only being what it is.... trust has very little to expect, because it is much about respect. Somewhere within the spectrum of age, the development of confidence in self to be honest and the labors within ones own living and expressions, can lessen what one expects... then, trust may come more readily, because it is in need of nothing, but honesty.
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I think people forget that at some point the sex will have its ups and down, some will be open and talk and say what they like, and some will passively agree but not be motivated... the mood's of people will continue to exist, and people will get ticked off when they don't get what they want, in bed, or out of bed. and some people become so needy, that the co dependence becomes a burden to both, because they have become too needy. One thing for sure... pretending only can last for a short while, and then reality shows up. So, people had best be real from the start.
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..People had best to be real from the start  Totally agree. Thats why i always talk about it since i start the relationships  If age, look and status are not priorities, beside the talk, health is. Having a good health, you could have a good sex life with your spouse/partner. And, it is good for our health too...  I will make another post about benefits sex for the health Because it needs more space to list why Thank you Beyond for the inspiration The women who try to make it some mystery and pretend that they are not self motivated about sex... to me are a problem type. If a woman in honest in these ways, it is less likely that she will be trying to hide 20 secrets a day and playing some mystery game about anything and everything... these women would be far less inclined to try and use sex as a gambit game or a manipulative tool... she will be more motivated to to be self expressive and that would include initiating as well as being appreciative in her reception of the mans initiation motivations. That is probably one of the more rare things to find in a woman. Far too many woman try and make this aspect of the relationship into some mystery where she fills it with gambit, expectations, criteria and demands, and then comes the cycle of ultimatums... all of such things are designed to do nothing but ultimately destroy the trust the man would rather have in the women and about the woman. I think such a woman who is open and honest in these ways, would be more at peace with herself, more open to share and enjoy the acts and actions within sharing the whole of relations as well as be open to appreciate without measuring everything by some expectation. If these are your nature of ways, then I'm quite inspired by you and very much delighted to feel comfortable with your words and ways.
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f these are your nature of ways, then I'm quite inspired by you and very much delighted to feel comfortable with your words and ways. Thank you, Beyond.... Likewise
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honesty expressed and shared.... re-appreciations....
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Haha, the financial security (fat bank acct  ) probably has a lot of sex appeal too! Guess that leaves me out of the loop.... I once upon a time had a great bank account.... 2007- 2010 losses changed that ...
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I have to look at switching employment, this region does not have a history of paying well, but My mother is older and she is here, so I remain here. I did take gambles ( calculated risk), but they were unfortunately not fruitful. I'll recover, how and when I can't pinpoint, but it is certain to come. Time here is not the driving factor, I wish it was, I'd drop it in a flash...
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The work places is often a trip... This region has people who simply want to stay with the flat status of things in the organizational system I current work. I've never seen anything quite like it. Not only do they delay everything, they are non proactive about progressive change. It's far better working in private industry when it comes to the appreciation of innovations; and far more lucrative. Much of our systems backwards trends is related to many in the lead position who fail to lead. They are too worried about what the next person thinks and too caught up in just following the normal spin, even while they see things deteriorating. I've made some changes, but they are not of the mindset to compensate they'd rather be driven by resentment and containment activity, rather than compensation and support for progressive contributions. It seem to threaten them more than it motivates them. The Southern States is more than 30 years behind places like LA and some other progressive places.
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