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Why so Many Men are Single - Why so Many Women Make Choosing Difficult I'm amazed at how many guys do have these delusions about Asian women and paint these rosy pictures, as if they are 'watching the old "Bonanza" TV series. simple logic is with the vast volume of people in China with everything in a fierce competitive cycle, as well as they have a long time system where the wealthy men can put these women up as secondary homes and many other arrangements and its a commonality in the cultures. Some of the younger women know they can get the older man away from his wife just by the fact of her age and playfulness in the lure game. The sad reality is when women view themselves as a commodity in these ways, because of the tempting offers that confront them. finding one that has the stability to value love above these offerings. Is a challenge. When people want a location change more than they are seeking the basics of love, the delusions can become many things. There was a time when men had blind trust based on the physical appearance of woman, and some had blind trust based on the delusions built up about her gender... Now, so many men have been taken to the river and washed clean... and left on the river banks, by both local women as well as foreign women... He has become more discerning. It's not the 1950's when social constraints kept women in a mindset and frame of imagery as being devoted and driven for a mate as a top priority. Today, women want money, they want power and they want position and they want excitement ... they will forgo love for these things, and they will walk away from love to get these things, and they will use the illusion of love if they think its a stepping stone to get these things. Sadly, when women loose the constitution of love, then whole world declines, because there is less likely hood of men giving the trust that builds the stability, Even with the economic's we have seen many business crashed due to divorce, we have seem many homes and everything fall apart and even communities decline because of divorce. The instability is astounding. We see today, women are aloof when they get money and job and position, when they can pay their bills and buy and go to places of luxury and convenience. What it implies is that in some ways, women never learned to 'simply want a man because she simply wants him"... it has been about securing things. Remember in the previous times, it was stated that women married for security.. which means, they sought those same things, "women want money, they want power and they want position and they want excitement"... when any of those things seem not to be forthcoming, divorce is the process they pursue after a series of contentions and antagonisms... The man often times is unaware and thinking its about love, and bewildered as to why the love change because of a down turn in money or maybe a loss of position or such... Women don't understand the nature of man, that he loves because he wants to love, he is not looking for money, status, title and such, he is looking for the woman to share love and be loving in doing so. Often what he finds if a relationships filled with conditions and bargain followed by a cycle of ultimatums. Within this comes a myriad of attitude and criticizes about anything and everything. It is quite unfortunate, because when these things are brought to the attentions of women, they have ready made denials because they have a ingrained self generated sense of entitlements, for the sake of being a female. They often have a mentality in many cases that the relationships is all about them, and they role is simply to do enough to appease the man to meet her expectations, which often become subliminal demands. When it comes to the surface, it often does so as ultimatums, followed by closed legs and tight lips. It's purely insane... and they go from one man to the next with the same script.... always claiming its the mans fault, because her expectations drastically exceeded anything she was willing to give or share without conditions and tit for tat measurements. Most of the men here are not single because they want to be, they are single because they are tired of being deluded, played and used. His drive and want for woman is so strong that he continue to try, but he often times continues to come up finding replica's of the same thing. You see women chase wealthy men, then when they get him, they complain about the time he has to be away to make the money she so eagerly covets. as if he can get the money while sitting there looking at her all day.. Then they tell the man, he does not care. The level of unreasonable rationale that many women functions with is to her own detriment and becomes a living disaster to a man. It is very hard to have faith in a woman to be sincere and devoted to a relationships... because in the flash of a moment, they change up, they change up with challenges come and they change up when they don't get their way. Think about many arguments, it is generally when the man does not do, or give something she is demanding. Because if she was asking, she'd be able to accept no, as she would yes... but they become immediately hostile, and contention will rage like a wild fire, then again comes the closed legs. It's simply crazy.... To find one that lives beyond this cycle of silliness if a very difficult thing today, and the true trips is the more facially appealing she is and the shapely the body is, often times that becomes an added difficulty. because temptations is haunting her, even if she choose, she will spend more time fretting over what she did not choose. To relax with a woman is a very difficult thing, because she takes it as passive weakness, rather than realizing the man has put to rest the concerns to contend.. he is trying to blend and harmonize, and she is looking for a challenge... As long as some of these women are on the high wire of earning income, have a job position and maybe a title and can pay for new clothes, vacation and etc... they are not going to choose anyone, unless its someone who is willing to cover those expense while she saves her money... The minute he tries to conserve, the relationship will slide down hill as if one is on a piece of greased glass with roller skates. Most of the men know this, but still hold a faint hope that one will be found that is sincere. The ones that claim everything is never an issue is fine, as long as things go her way, but the minute they don't they will tell you that you are no longer compatible. and say, I love you, but I'm no longer in love with you. They can be very dangerous... It is the responsibility of the man, to know what whom he is choosing. The character, disposition and manner of the woman you choose will have a resounding impact on your entire life. The ones who act like you owe her something for sex, is the one that will leave and wage a war to take everything she can from you and have a attitude filled with hell for years upon years toward you... because her prized piece was not able to manipulate you forever. Be careful... you don't need to panic, nor have an adverse interactions, you just need to be discerning when it comes to the character and mentality of the woman you choose or seek to choose. Be careful of the re-bounders, who are nice until they feel they have regained their footing. Not all women know how to appreciate the devoted investment a man makes of himself in pursuing and loving her. For women, It is up to the individual woman to come to term with her pursuit of want for power and the want of position and the want of title and the want of excitement. Many women have lost the awareness that the greatest title she can achieve is wife and mother, the same as for man the greatest title he can achieve is father and husband, But people have ignored and disregarded these valued and honored things, they seek popularity, glamor, material matter, and the trappings of lustful fantasy. They are void of knowing what honor exist in being a wife and mother, a husband and father, sadly they even lost the awareness that the greatest passion is within the patience sharing of love between mates who care about the whole of each other. Commercial advertisements, media scripted shows of excess and delusion of slap stick luxury and mass marketing has made people unaware of what truly matters. Result is, by the seasons of products displays people are misled into madness trying to base their life of sales tactics. Those who see through the smoke and set their values back on the basic, are those who find love enduring and life diminished in the stresses of status chasing. they even find their income functions to support their home and provide them some leisure.. But when status items become the focus, nothing is ever enough, and the disenchantment of trying to live the imagery of TV advertisements has made many simply crazy and lost unto themselves. So many become gluttons of consumption, and others become driven to live by prescribed addictions to mind altering medications. and some jump from one merry-go-round to the next. But it is unto each to figure out, if they will stay on the merry go round OR re-claim their lives and re focus on the basic constitution of love and sharing. This comment was posted on a previous blog it's up to you. "Do you have the Spirit of Love?, Do you have the Spirit To Invest YOURSELF in Love and Being Loving?  It's always your choice |
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I'm not one who really cares much about the challenge or the waiting game... when it comes to women, we are both adults and individuals and hopefully both are self responsible... I don't care for women playing hard to get... it does not prove anything to me or other than a waste of time, that we could be otherwise sharing in doing something. There are a lot of women, who are not looking for a commitment every time they share with a man... and some will avoid some men, because the man comes on as if he is trying to make a commitment before they do any sharing. Some women are put off by guys who judge them based on how quick they share things with him. because they feel that the guy will continually judge them on many other things. It will come down to the character types making choices that match with what they want and what they like. Some guys get used, while he thinks he's playing a honor game of waiting, the girls can if she chose use that time to get what she wants and then tell him, 'well it is just not working", all the while she may even have someone else who is more direct and interactive. It's a big picture with many details... which still comes down to two adults making decisions. some girls will switch up and play the waiting game if they think its someone they want to keep, but if they are not sure they want to keep him but just want to check him out... they will do what the situation brings up to do. but that too is a situational thing that couples come to make choices upon... I don't think there is a fixed format in general, but individual may have their preference for fixed formats that work best for them.
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Thank you for taking the time to read it... ( excellent picture you have posted).. send me an email
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I do understand what you are aiming for... but I prefer to clarify my concept a bit differently... When I was younger, most times you had to get married to get total love and devotion from a woman. This was an ideal more than it became factual solidity. If it had been solid there would not have been divorces. When women start demanding that men treat them as a lady, there will be more marriages. I think its better to treat her like a woman, than pursue some fantasy of the melodrama concepts of the lady script... the concept of lady, is a containment imagery with pre-set expectations and limitations. But if she is treated like a woman, she is free to be a whole person. Grace and kindness then can flow freely, rather than try to compress itself into a scripted imagery. The delusion of the Lady and Gentleman, is what has people so lost in material stuff and filled with scripted expectations, that become like an albatross for both. Give me a kind and considerate woman any day over the pretentious roles depicted for the concept of lady. Because the natural nature of woman has grace, kindness and consideration within whom she is, as well as it allows her to be the whole of herself where she does not live like she is overly dependent but she can be independent as a person and inter-dependent within a relationship. I think too much of society tries to base too much on the European Melodrama, Play-writers scrips and fairy tales roles. It is destroyed as many relationships as the modern day media depictions and peoples obsession of trying to emulate such things.
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