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A great Modern Tool.... These social websites are great modern technology tools... plain and simple... don't abuse it. It affords, written text, IM, audio visual capabilities and as near instant exchanges as technical capabilities allow. Don't get on here and use it to con people, or push some fake delusion about yourself and your life... You are often times talking to real people, who are giving your their faith that you are being a real and honest person. If you can't be that, and can't accept your own reality and share the true nature of your person... Then you should not be on here pretending. What the pretenders don't know is they set themselves back and deny their own ability to grow and prosper as a individual in character and integrity as a person. People don't have time for games and delusions, nor do they take kindly to hustlers, schemers and scammers. If you are a hustler and scammer looking for something for nothing, you have by your actions confirmed yourself as being worthless and no amount of lies and deception will cover it up for long. The truth will always come through. If you are after someone else money, their possession and think someone is going to give you a free ride in life, then you are a "Thief".. plain and simple, you are a common low life criminal. This may not deter the hustlers and criminals minded one, but for those who want to get at the truth, make sure to include many means to expose the truth. do not send anyone money, and if you do develop a close connection and send anything, then make sure you are doing so by your own motivation, not by someone sending a sob story, or a con game or asking by any means. If you plan to Travel to visit anyone, make sure you have a hotel reserved... because people can be deceptive and until you have a bearing as to their home location and the nature of the community, it is safest and best for you to have a hotel to provide you a sanctuary during your stay. If you meet people for a evening date, arrange it and go by taxi, and make sure that it is a well populated place. It might even be a good idea, If possible) to have the person you are meeting to tell you of some place they frequent, so at least you can find out or be some place that people know this person. As to the great set of tools the internet provides... It's such a shame that people abuse it so. Don't get disenchanted with the fact these hustler and pretending types frequent these sites... because they are no more nor no less than the hustlers and pretenders that can be seen and found in everyday life in any place. Just manage yourself in the web with the same decorum you would in general public.... that will help you avoid as much of the hustler and pretending types.... When people give these grandiose portrayals of their life, be skeptical, but don't become infatuated behind the typed words, because you have to remember, its the character of the person you are interested in, not the grandiose depiction they paint.  Know the simplicity.... When people claim they have much money to waste on frivolous things, you might first want to wonder what are they into that would even given them the ability to waste such things, because anyone who earns by responsible means, does not waste it and boast about wasting it, because they know the level of responsibility it takes to earn it. as well as they have a responsible mindset about how to use it for more than vanity's fancy. |
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11/3/2013 9:54 am |
All good advice; however, I think you will find the honest people already abide by the rules. It is the unscrupulous ones that won't even read your words of wisdom let alone follow them. Unfortunately, you might be more successful trying to hold back the tide then to convince a person of low moral character to convert from the downward spiral of their chosen path. All we can do is hope that someday, someway they see that their efforts if used toward good would be more productive and rewarding for themselves and those in their lives than the choices they make to hurt, plunder and pillage.
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This site along with many other of like sites, is full of men and women with facial appeal and type many things that push many images and many people conjure many things about such, but one has to ask, if all this is so true and so grand, and they are such an angel like being, then why have they not made a choice, between the options in their tangible life and the internet search and pursuit. Surely their claimed congeniality and claimed understanding, would make it somewhat easier to find and make a choice. unless they are chasing a fantasy of which the other person they pursue has no idea what role this person has carved out for them. Often people avoid facing the reality that a relationship is built by the ideals of both. it is not all about just one or the others single focused fantasy. Often times, people think they are too pretty for anyone, or too good for anyone and many of such things, and what results is: 'days come and go and age continues to do what age does. Sadly, we all know, that far too often women with pretty faces are told by other women, what they should and should not accept, they even tell them they are too good for this one or that one. often times this is based more on physical facial appeal, than on the honest of character. Sadly too many women often times believe this stuff...of them being too good for someone. Today with a media pushing the delusions and the game of 'highest bidder" often times pretty faced and shapely women can't choose, because they are waiting on the next best offer, and even when they choose, they are worried about the offer they did not choose. again, time goes by, and age does what age does.... The funny thing, and many guys know it, the women he looks at an assume her to be such a great bed mate, turns out to be far less than his fantasy has conjured up. and the same is true for women who go about with these types of conjured thoughts about pretty faced or shapely men. And many women learned the hard way, that chasing the look of money has brought some miseries they never dreamed would come to them, because they had been misled to think their looks could over come anything, and they become embattled in their own minds, when the conjured pursuits of the fantasy about the wealth aspects turns into a nightmare with many haunting aspects. We all have that vague thought that we are the best thing since salt...but the reality is, we are simply people, and relationships take work and is not suitable for lazy people who expect too much. When we think we are the best thing since salt, time shows us, that there are other things, such as sugar, pepper, and many of spices that make up what is life, and all play a vital role in what is natural nourishment... so... maybe we may not want to assume we are the best thing that ever walked... and try to be the best of whom we are as best we can be and then learn the work required to sustain that in a relationships sharing situation. If that's too much to think about... then people probably should re-check themselves before they jump into a relationship. We each and all have a great deal of work to do on and within ourselves. whether we want to accept that fact or not. and what we don't often know is that work often does not find the details it needs until we are with someone in a relationship.
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