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"To Love" and "Be Loving" - are you prepared ? How prepared are you .... "To Love" and "Be Loving" ? I think we all believe in Love, now what that ideology entails is of many things within many people’s concepts, but as with the human being, it become many things within many people’s actions. Belief in love is mixed with many things, and 'emotions" being one of them, seems to have many varying ranges of influences in not only how we apply or don't apply the elements of our ideals principles, it at time can and does bring people to, shift their position from time to time, and sometimes positional shifts go directly against the ideals imagery thus affecting the principle and how it is applied. This is why we have the tools of communication, but within it, we have the mindsets capability to use rationalization, unfortunately we can as people use rationalization for something, or against something. Unfortunately, at times that becomes impacted by the emotions and sometimes within the various emotional changes of the moment, we may find our-self in a quandary, working to try and get back to the ideals principle. This is where not only do we have need to employ patience, but also to open ourselves for broader understanding, and it may well require more effort to be understood. What comes then is the nature of 'temperament" we employ... is it at peace, is it anguished, is it anxious, is it uncertain... and etc..... To believe in love would encompass all of it, but as people, sadly and unfortunately, we are quick and frequent to dismiss the ideals of love and we are very prone to dismiss the ideal in direct aim at or unto another. Then we become to be driven with our wants to extract and even deny that love ever existed. Some even want to claim it was not this or that kind of love.. until we can convince ourselves to dis-associate the ideals of loves concept from being something we use in considering another. An we can do all this in the confines of our own mind. But... to achieve what we believe, we must embrace it within the mind, through our acts and actions, and hold fast within our considerations unto and onto the ideals principles... then we can honor the belief in love. It is a matter of this nature of "work".... because what is believed will continually require some levels of work to strengthen what is belief... or we may adversely work to discredit what we believe of the ideals of loves principles.. when we want to withdraw love from someone. Unfortunate as it is, we as people, are very much prone to let situational involvements diminish the basis of the principle, in some cases people may seek and some may even create situations which will be their benefactor unto their aim to withdraw love. but first and maybe even foremost, we may need to discern the spectrum of what is infatuation and what is love. they may work together, one may work independent of the other, and they may be alternated in which comes first. but we must know of what each is, and how it exist as to our ideal principles of what is love. Love is itself wise, it may lead many unto even more wisdom, and without the wisdom's infusing matrix, we may become consumed in the folly of emotions impact upon and within love, and take for granted the principles which can lead us to much folly. For those who believe in God.. or what ever may be your higher authority, . do we discount and discredit God /higher authority, when things don't go our way... or challenges come... No, conversely, we call more upon that belief and we seek to employ patience for that believe to connect us with God/ higher authorities ideal principles which our believe is built upon. so, of why? is our belief so weak when it comes to sustaining love with relations, within relation, among each other, and unto one from and unto another, and each-other? May we first understand our own fragility ? that we may then be more tolerant as well as motivated to strengthen our emotional selves, in dealing with what we consider to be our ideals principles as to what is Love. May we secondly, consider to understand, our own selfishness? as we come to learn that for love to be requite, we may have to consider much that exist outside of our emotional spectrum, to first perceive, and then to conceive that another has an emotional spectrum, they too, are dealing with. Is not communication a humane function means to reach an understanding within these respects. Then thirdly, of what place does love fit within honor ? Honor 1. high respect; esteem. distinction, recognition, privilege, glory, kudos, cachet, prestige, merit, credit; More importance, illustriousness, notability; respect, esteem, approbation "a mark of honor" antonyms: disgrace ~ a person or thing that brings credit. adherence to what is right or to a conventional standard of conduct. * synonyms: integrity, honesty, uprightness, ethics, morals, morality, principles, high principles, righteousness, high-mindedness; virtue, goodness, decency, probity, character, good character, scrupulousness, worth, fairness, justness, trustworthiness, reliability, dependability * antonyms: unscrupulousness, dishonor 2. a privilege. " synonyms: privilege, pleasure, pride, joy; More compliment, favor, distinction antonyms: shame synonyms: accolade, award, reward, prize, We are often time consumed into self concerned “hedonistic" aims. Yet, we are first to stand up and speak of love, as requiring a reasoned adjustment, which may come in the form of sacrifice or agreed compliance. Is the search for Good, about the individual, or about the pair and the sake of the relationship? That is a complex question ! We may choose to learn about our own sense of hedonism... it may well provide us the insights to manage ourselves, that selfishness does on only overcome our individual self, but the nature of the relationship with another. We are a mixture of many fused philosophical models, The true keys to love is within learning self... but a critical component to learning self, is what and how one's self functions in relation with the world and others. We may conjure ourselves a "master" of something in our minds, and find when we intermingle with the vast knowledge of the world; we may come to find "We" are but a "novice"... This often times brings its own conceived awareness within our relationships which involve the promises of love. Sadly, some may consider that their perceived concept of mastery is the root of their deceptive manners, which ultimately will in time and situation diminish them within and of their own presence and nature of integrity, as it relates to love and the honor that is the claim in our declarations of loving. Should these things tell us, there is much to learn... not only about others, but equally so of self, as well as; with, through and from others. Should this not lead us to be vested in appreciating the gift of communication? Then must this lead us to an embrace of the works of understanding and the work within being understood? We so often speak of "love" based on many fantasy illusions of eroticism and sensual amusement of arousal's variation of stimulation’s. Does this claim and aim, often blind us and bring us to a sense of disdain for the nature of "works" which Love requires. Are we aware of fact, the avoidance of works these acts and actions, thoughts and motivations entail, WILL HAVE AN ADVERSE IMPACT, when we seek to find what we call the requited realizations of Love. Yet, we are of such impatience, but within the heat of pursuit for stimulating pleasurable satisfaction, often we diver and ultimately destroy that avenue... by our own Impatience. Does one ponder to acknowledge where, within this dis-satisfaction does selfishness play an advocate for dis-satisfactions arrival. If this is too much to ponder..... one might then ask themselves. "Are you prepare to Love" ????? |
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How often do we truly indulge the time to try and learn about loving. Is it only when people are hurt and seeking to blame something or someone ?
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How often do we truly indulge the time to try and learn about loving. Is it only when people are hurt and seeking to blame something or someone ? Many people here talk about their University Education and their Degree's, but do they use that proclaimed acquisition of knowledge when it comes to love.... ???? No; they shy away from the intellectualism's as it relates to this topic. Yet, "Love" itself supersedes all the the claimed professions as a highly desired thing in ones life....
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What kind of woman do you like ? non pretentious, not a drama addict, not full of exaggerated vain expectations, happy spirited about life and living. " healthy and not obese and well groomed", one who is not afraid to work, one who understand that if she claims boredom it's because she is either expecting too much or not engaging herself with what she wants to do, and fails to appreciate what is within her environment. What will you do for her when finding a girl you favor? Share ..... what is living...
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Many people don't know what they want....some think looks =everything, when yes, looks is important and will play a role in choices. But know more about looks than just the glimpse, because the manners of conduct as well as how one manages their body movement and attire has much do do with looks, but it also has to do with whats inside. But to each individual, these things vary in unknowable variations. Even when one claims to "not like" someone, they may learn something about themselves based on some of what they dislike in others as well.
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