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Men and Choosing a Mate I think guys should not get so overwhelmed by what a woman looks like and how alluring she may appear, but learn to understand the person she is of character and what kind of ideals she is pursuing... Or he can be in for a shock of his life. Much is out there that temps women to pursue and seek out many various things, and until a man meets a woman who has come to terms with her interest and temptations, it is not a good thing for a man to invest too much of himself in a young woman until she has come to that point. There are some young women who are not committed to be adventurist.... and want to raise a family and build a family home system. men need to know these differences in woman as persons. What we do see in some of these websites, speaking of some of the women over 40+ seem to have a more stable sense of interest in a mate. Some have figured it out, that making a strong mated relationships is more important than being an adventurist. Choices, there are many when it comes to mate selection. but on thing is sure, much relies on the man and him knowing which woman to choose. many men think of settling down, is looking for a woman with a settling mindset who has interest to settle down. However, many young women don't have the same mindset, some pursue fashions entertainment and some see a wide variety of promoted things that become attractions an some of such things draw some women like a magnet. some women who may have grown up with a single mindset of only seeing men as a source and means of security, may avoid relationships once she can provide for herself and has a income and stable job position. There is definitely no potential for a stable relationship 'build a home and family, with a woman who has many insatiable hungers. These are in some cases two very different contextual realms. there are couples where both the man and woman are globe trotters and their are raised by nannies or boarding schools and such. But the man has to know if that is the type of family he wants. Point being.. the delusion men have held that the woman is the chooser and he is to submit,... may well learn that the man is the one who has to select and he has to do so, to choose a woman that matches with his concept of home/family building. Therefore he has to know which character and demeanor type of woman to choose. To do this he has to be with some patience and not be solely blinded by the body shape and facial imagery or the public caricature imagery of the woman. Look at long term relationships, often times the women have long ago defined her personal style as to attire, and they don't switch up into different caricature every time the next fashion come out. They have come to terms with what is their style and what style of accessories that suits them. but there are many things which each individual man must consider before he pursue to select woman as his life long potential mate. In doing so, it will be apparent that his options will become more limited... and he is better able to deal with temptations by allure tactical fashion and other things ... for sure, no many should ever chase any woman, because it is often that he is chasing his illusion of her more than he is seeing whom she is. Because in the basics of life, there is no need for him to chase that which already suits and desires him equally so. (posted previously as a comment on a blog) many men in these web sites see faces and begin to create many idealized concepts. Unfortunately, the faces are simply the nature of the faces... the character, the ideals, the motivations and relationship aims and interest become more of a matter far and beyond the attractions to a face or a body shape. GUARANTEED without a doubt, the face will change and so will the body... that does not mean the ideals and motivations won't change... but some matters which have better long term indications is the character and its sense of morality which matches with the concepts of morality the man is seeking within his relationship. For the men who think his chance of relationships is controlled by the woman's choice.... is not respecting the fact that he is the one who will choose the woman he is proposing to develop his relationship. Therefore he does not have to foolishly patronize nor become a submissive relinquish responsibility of his choice to become a puppet to any situations. If she does not suit or fit with his wants of what is a relationship and family building unit, then he needs to know that. The old slang phrase, one can't turn a into a housewives, does not only apply to this lifestyle it can also mean, you can't change a spinster into a housewife, or a party girl may not become a mother figure nor a wife figure, an adventure seeker may not become one who's idea of home matches that of the man. These kind of reflective thoughts can entail many variations of lifestyle types.. For many men, in the search for a mate... it is always a matter to be mindful that the character type suits the aims you have within building a relationship... Not just in ideal concept, but take your time and 'learn who the woman actually is, and how does she actually function. The media would love for men to think he is at the mercy of women's fancy... but that is only propaganda marketing, to entice women to buy many things, hoping to gain some allure factor. Often marketing is trageted to women, and those targeted to men, are often about him having or acquiring something that attract the smiling face of a young pretty woman... Now is that what you want? Most men, have become very keen on the young women who come to him because of his gains or his material holdings or even his public or job status. Men are becoming even more keen to review these women, because other facts which men have come to learn, is the wrong choice can lead to divorces that cost him too much of what he has earned and gained going to someone who has done nothing to earn their own comparable things. but is willing and some are eager to take from him, what he has gained. Over-all the point is choose carefully... and you may find a mate who is a long term relationship partner.... |
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there is probably nothing more enjoyable in a man's life than a happy spirited woman who is comfortable being in the relationship she is in, and is not harboring a reservation to pursue other mate trade options. Today, that is more difficult than ever, because it very difficult to find women who don't carry a lingering 'reservation hoping to trade up"... I see so many men who simply find it harder and harder to trust in women, some men start out thinking everything is fine, and secretly the woman has a reservation of seeking to trade up, and some even have that lingering hunger to purse of be available to other women who are out on the make to pursue women. The way some women are influenced by media commercials, or pursuing envy of other women who they assume has greener pasture situations, until it is simply not practical for any man to be without patience in his choosing. I've seen so many women, who are led and directed by other women, telling them, they deserve more, they should go for this or that, and many women believe this stuff and will destroy their relationships pursuing this stuff... and when they find out, not only that the other women did not want to see her in a stable relation or wanted to play with seeking how quickly she can manipulate and control her to mess up her own thing. Women already know other women play these kind of games, but they fall for it anyway... and half the time, the women telling them this stuff either don't have a relationship, or has screwed up one relationship behind the next. too many women become foolish to listen to other women tell them how to deal with a man... when the smart women deal with the man himself and find out they did not need all the outside chatter to confuse and confound her. But the levels of insecurity in some women, and some women simply have a delusion they can have any and every man... but what they don't think about is, anyone can have many people, but they may not be able to keep a single one of them. The world is designed to temp women at every turn, and many women are susceptible to this, commercial advertiser are so good at this game, they can make a woman sitting at home think that her life is all wrong, just because the advertiser want to sell the delusion of a product or service. Women don't often stop and think tht these firm hire every kind of psychologist they can find, to tailor their gimmicks to influence and entice women. They even have women buying outfit that would never look good on them and don't even fit with their demeanor, but becuse they put pictures in fashion magazine and stage a setting, women chase this stuff and then become distressed when the fantasy does not happen, and some get even more tripped out when they get some place and see two or three other women in the same outfit expecting the same fantasy illusions. It's sad and it's hilarious at the same time, but more sad than anything. I see some women who almost look like cartoon caricature, by putting all this stuff on, and look so out of place that its amazing. This is very evident in the one that buy these wigs that don't match their skin complexion nor the texture of their skin... or the over sized women trying to fit into something made for a 14 year old under developed girl. Last month when I went for my surgery, the night before surgery I stayed at this hotel, it was near 20 something degrees, this woman came out with this man in a dress that was no longer than just below the legs of her panties, in heels that she could barely walk, no coat and nothing but face was covered with make up... I looked at her, and all she could do was look down, maybe because inside herself she knew how insidious it was. there was no way she could even sit down without exposing her panties. ( if she had any on)... I doubt there was any place she could go where people would not be staring at her, but not for the reasons she may have thought. It's no way any guy would have taken a woman dressed like that to meet his family... But this is the nature of life in the world.... As men get older, the delusions of the dynamic sex toy type girls becomes more and more something that he is not interested in beyond playtime. he usually gets tired of that very quickly, but he also finds out that the sex is never what his imagination deluded him to think it would be. It's simply fiction and fancy for the moment. one woman told me that he man ask her to dress more sexy, she said she did it, and her mother immediately asked her, if she was not a 'street working girl", she said on the streets people did nothing but look at her chest or if she sat trying to look between her legs, until she felt cheap. She said she quickly abandoned that. even with men, don't argue with women about what they wear, if she is wearing exposing stuff and you are not into that, then you need to realize that is not what you are into, so no need to try and change her, because all she will do is wear it when you are not around, so it is best to find a woman, who attires herself in a way that you can appreciate and take her any place without ridicule and such. You can be sure, your work environment will make many assessments about you, by the way the woman you are with presents herself... and if it is different from how you present yourself at work, it will become a negative situation for the man. All this stuff become a elements within situations and relationships. and people need to know themselves, before they pursue or accept some connection to enter into situations of relationship with aims for long term expectations.
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