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What has happened ?? Today, it seems that so many can't love and many who do have it seem to be on a mission to destroy it and others who seem to have so many things which become deterrents to finding it. The question of Trust, by that I mean the trust in one being of honesty in character and having truth in the image of integrity they present. Has vanity and materialism become so ingrained until we have become to worship the material matter and the power of money has become so over-bearing in our aims, until we can't see love without first trying to measure it through these things? Has it become so crazy that people think their gender and their organ between their legs gives them a bartering position, which ultimately makes them become foolish unto even themselves? Has the concept of life become so envisioned with material matter, until people can't be happy with the simplicity of health and wellness as a person and the ability to provide the basic of food, water and shelter... and appreciate the ability to work and be a contributor.... Must wealth seeking bring a misery to the degree people can't appreciate these simple things? What would happen if a natural disaster came and took it all away and left one with some disability of some sort? ______________ I often think of people I've known who have ended up in a care facility behind the debilitating results of a stroke, or those who have died young due to preventable conditions. I had a friend who died from a diabetic coma, because his wife and those around him did not know or think to take him to the hospital in a timely manner. We some-how live as if we have forever, yet truth of life continues to show us, that we don't have forever. We age, our body changes, our faces change and our financial situations change as does everything in our lives continue to change. As someone posted a blog about people using 'old" pictures to present themselves. Why? are people fixated on a time when they were youthful and smooth skin with more muscle tone to the body...... Then be assured, that time will change those things if one continues to live. I can look at my hands and remember when they were youthful smooth, but today they have the natural age wrinkles in the skin as that is just the way nature is. the color of our hair changes and in some the hair may simply disappear, These are things of nature and life which shows us that we won't remain the same. What do we really know about beauty? we like the fresh face and youthful appearance, but the heart is so often not even seen because of the fixation on seeking the youthful looks. Yet..... as we all age, we know the fickleness that youth is filled with, and the lack of temperament which exist in youth that ones learns better to manage as they age. It often is just how life flows... it does not give the individual all things at once... there is no such thing as finding a perfect person, because there is no measure as to what is perfect in the lives of human beings. Life is of so many things within the minds of each individual, among those things, we always have what we know as 'choice".... we can choose to incorporate love within our living and sharing, or we can create any and many ways and reasons to put off, deny and avoid love and the sharing of it, and then we can find ways in our minds to claim justification for our avoidance. We can do all these things, and within doing so, we find that time does not stand still.... some cry and 'wonder, why me", but turn in another breath and state their claim of being the captain of their own ship.... but seem to deny when it does not choose and follow its course. Yes, we are the choosers of love and our loving engagements, do we seek erotic arousal before we can focus on what is love, must we become obsessive before we can appreciate loving? How do we think that love stands outside of living, when no relationship which has love can exist without dealing with the reality of two individuals daily lives. Do we spend too much time- measuring what our love could be based on what the media has depicted in its pre-formatted scrips? How much do we allow the ploys of marketing and advertising to tell us when we are happy or what will give us a feeling of happiness? How important have we made status a factor of measuring our relationships based on what others think, expect or tell us that we should have and what we should do and how we should do it? One truth remains the same... Older couples who have been together for decades... will always tell any person, that their key to longevity in love, is a continual investment of working at it, working on it, and working through their challenges. Yet... we by some means, still expect some instant situation and then assume that it is to be a 24/7 bliss of infatuation fancy. Oh how little we have come to respect of love, and how little we disregard the truth that love is a continual process of working to be and pursue the spirit of loving and share it. There is no Utopian life, but there is a joyous one that the works of living can provide unto the willing who seeks to learn more and more of how to love and be loving. We have that choice...... |
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Self re-evaluation is something we all must do, especially when we get the urge to expect a great deal from others. it can help us get back to balance in our perspectives.
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