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Long ago.... was it a paradox? is it a Paradox? People made relationship without the high focus which exist today on status, money and material things. Long ago even the women did not allow their looks to get in the way of building a relationship. Today, women with good looks seem to have a silent mandate to hold out waiting for a combination of wealth, material things and status. Time moves on and age will do what age will do. some don't grasp that truth. By the 40's nature is making some amazing changes within the individual, by 45 those changes many times seem to speed up and before some know it they are without a choice but to face the changes. Many are not prepared for it, because they have been holding out for a dream sequence so long, until they actually forgot how to love and share loving. It's really an oddity in life, because many times during the 40's women get this confidence but it borders on over confidence until they fell often times that they are smarter and better than any man. This delusion has its price. Time delivers it's bill without fail. A guy who lived across from me in LA, said it is better for people to build their relationship before 32, then they not only have time to raise and build a life, but they have a opportunity for longevity. Principally those things are probable factors, but today, people jump relationships so much and by the age of 40 some have had three or maybe even 4 marriages. but they never stop to realize they may be chasing an illusion more than facing up to the reality of live and relationships and what it takes to make it work. Many fantasies have been groomed into many people. Often times pretty women are told too often some delusion that they deserve more, and sadly some fall for that, which renders them mate-less or unable to maintain a relationship. Sadly, some began to believe it to the point they assume they are too good for anyone. The human being and the mind is an amazing thing, it can delude as well as it can motivate with positive results. But one has to find the grounding point in their lives and realize, beyond all things, they are but a living being, thus they are not infallible in any area, nor do they have an immunity to various calamities and unfortunate things. Be it health, or situations and conditions. At no time is there a guarantee of anything except the fact that as each day pass we will age. That is a fact. We see today many entertainer who got hung up on how they looked at their high point of their career during youth, they inject their faces with any substance the doctors claim will give them youthful longevity, yet as time moves on part of their face won't move when they smile, and in a great many cases, their mouth no longer forms the shapes of normal expressions. We see people with their skin pulled tight on their face, but their hands and their neck tells the facts of life and age effects upon the human body. Sadly, people assume sex is for the barter in relationships and that results to make not only foolishness within them, but of them and their relationship, which suffers as a result. some assume money is the magic potion, and some result to have vast amounts of money but a miserable relationship in their life. Some seek stardom and popularity and as time moves along, there is a new starlet and popularity wanes and they have little left to hold on to. We've become a strange society of high focused selfish concerns, yet we claim and say how sharing and how congenial we are, but the facts tell much of a different story. Men now are more afraid than ever to invest himself in marriage, so many have been left, their resources taken and their lives shattered by broken relationships, until many men simply are skeptical of women and has lost so much of the natural trust of which men at one time gave to women without much question or forethought. Long ago, people kept it simple. they understood the relation required a form of work by each other them and they understood it had to be a team effort. Today, that is so far removed from many situations, as today people make themselves their individual star in their minds, until nothing of loves reality is good enough. Long ago, was long ago and its gone... what change shall come to bring a re-learning of what it means to lives and share the life in relation with another. ? |
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We never know what life holds. here is something that should remind us all that we have no guarantees. " A 16-year-old girl asleep in her bed was killed early Sunday when a suspected drunk driver careened into an apartment building in southern California, law enforcement officials said."
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if you notice when you and I talk about these reality factors, the women won't say a thing. and many of the men go silent. I find it so amazing how adult people avoid the realim of life but delight in slap stick humor and the patronizingly shiny happy stuff, but won't deal with the real elements which make or break a relationship. It's as if they run from reality, and then wonder why they become so confounded when their infatuations fall flat and vanish. many people in these web sites will never find a mate, because they are looking for a fantasy more than they have the depth of concern to truly seek the reality of relationship building substance. some want to use their face and ass to catch, and then the only thing they find out it caught, was them in situation of self delusion. some of the same with some men who think money or muscles or the dare devil allure will make a relationships and they result to become broken men, jaded about life and love. any woman can lay on her back longer than a man can lay on top of her, which result to mean very little in the big picture of things. and many women can't enjoy a sexual relationship, because they are too concerned about what did or what will bartering it gain them. The basic reality will always be simple, but people make it complicated with their own selfishness and then take no responsibility for it, as if someone owes them something for simply showing up. some are so deep into the expectation game, they have forgot how to give and share anything. Because everything is a quid pro quo cycle of bartering.
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Good point, but many will certainly miss the value of it.
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